fred123 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 how do you organise a date with a girl? do you have to do a skype date? and why do girls not take skype dates seriously by that i mean flake
d0nnivain Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 How many miles away? If under 200, you pick a place in the middle & ask her to meet you there If you need a plane to get there, you pick a time, offer to fly there, stay in a hotel & then schedule a date Skype dates cause people to flake because they aren't "real" in the sense that you two actually go somewhere together. They take on more significance when you are used to being together but are temporarily separated. 1
justwhoiam Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 how do you organise a date with a girl? I refuse to answer this question, because I'm a woman. do you have to do a skype date? What do you mean by "you have to"? No one will force you to a date, right? and why do girls not take skype dates seriously by that i mean flake Well, if you can't take it seriously, why should they? I mean, you're asking how to organise a date, which makes me think you never had one. So talking about girls being flake seems a bit premature to me.
Author fred123 Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 I refuse to answer this question, because I'm a woman. What do you mean by "you have to"? No one will force you to a date, right? Well, if you can't take it seriously, why should they? I mean, you're asking how to organise a date, which makes me think you never had one. So talking about girls being flake seems a bit premature to me. no u misunderwtood. it was me trying to get across to the girl i like her more than a friend. because i got friendzoned and i dont know how
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 It doesn't matter how you got friendzoned. what matters is she doesn't see you in a romantic way.
Author fred123 Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 It doesn't matter how you got friendzoned. what matters is she doesn't see you in a romantic way. then wat girl talks to you every day?! sends u good morning messages every day?! tells u that they cant wait to see you. even agrees to a romantic dinner date. talks about never doing a long distance rship before and even suggests that this would be the first time. i even ask her if its ok to tell my friends that we are exclusive and unofficial she said yh its fine. everytime i mention that shes my unofficial gf she never said anything. always telling me she reli likes me and misses me. i call her baby and she never once had a problem with that and she used to call me babe.
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 You are the one who said you got friendzoned. Based on your latest post I don't think that is what happened At some point she was romantically interested in you but then she changed her mind. That is not friendzone. Being put in the friendzone means you never got those things in the 1st place. What happened to you was more probably that she realized how much work for how little reward an LDR can be & she wanted somebody who was in closer proximity. 1
Author fred123 Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 You are the one who said you got friendzoned. Based on your latest post I don't think that is what happened At some point she was romantically interested in you but then she changed her mind. That is not friendzone. Being put in the friendzone means you never got those things in the 1st place. What happened to you was more probably that she realized how much work for how little reward an LDR can be & she wanted somebody who was in closer proximity. you might be right as she changed the way she wrote to me on facebook as it got closer for her to fly in to london to see me. but then why did she come london and kiss a random guy and not me regardless of whether it would have worked out in the long term?
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 She came to London & kissed that other guy because she was more attracted to him then you. Sorry. Based on those actions, she does not deserve your continued loyalty or longing. Move on. Find a local girl who will be thrilled with all you have to offer.
Author fred123 Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 She came to London & kissed that other guy because she was more attracted to him then you. Sorry. Based on those actions, she does not deserve your continued loyalty or longing. Move on. Find a local girl who will be thrilled with all you have to offer. but we spent 2 months talking to each other and i csncelles my plans to see her that weeekend! why wud she kiss another guy and talk in german all night and leave me hanging?! is it b3cause she was uncomfortable i was acting more than a friend? if she told me she only ever liked me as a friend i would never have gone to meet her
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 She did all those things because she is a shallow, thoughtless, mean-spirited witch. You gave and gave and gave to the point of being practically a doormat which is an extremely unattractive thing. She took & took & took & lied to you & led you on because she loved the attention you were giving her. She liked the fact that you fawned all over & sacrificed for her. You were a huge ego boost but under no circumstances was she doing anything other than using you. You have to wake up & smell the battery acid. This girl is toxic. Good riddance! the only thing you did "wrong" was fail to recognize that she was using you.
Author fred123 Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 She did all those things because she is a shallow, thoughtless, mean-spirited witch. You gave and gave and gave to the point of being practically a doormat which is an extremely unattractive thing. She took & took & took & lied to you & led you on because she loved the attention you were giving her. She liked the fact that you fawned all over & sacrificed for her. You were a huge ego boost but under no circumstances was she doing anything other than using you. You have to wake up & smell the battery acid. This girl is toxic. Good riddance! the only thing you did "wrong" was fail to recognize that she was using you. why she hate me so much? it doesnt make sense what she said. she goes we werent in a real relationship so she can kiss who she wants. she said that it looked like i wanted to be more than friends which i did so i tried to make a move and do kino etc. but that other boy made a move and she didnt get mad at him but she got mad at me just by trying to chat with her and be friendly. ( remember this was first time we finally met after 2 months of talking)
d0nnivain Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 why she hate me so much? it doesnt make sense what she said. she goes we werent in a real relationship so she can kiss who she wants. she said that it looked like i wanted to be more than friends which i did so i tried to make a move and do kino etc. but that other boy made a move and she didnt get mad at him but she got mad at me just by trying to chat with her and be friendly. ( remember this was first time we finally met after 2 months of talking) I doubt she hates you but if she does it's because you aren't taking no for an answer. For whatever reason she doesn't want to date you but she was attracted to him. She did change her tune. She led you on which was mean. But now you know how she feels -- she doesn't want you romantically. You have to deal with that. The best way is to put her in the rear view mirror.
justwhoiam Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I'm really confused. You ask how to organize a date, so I think you want to organize one. But then it comes up you're still dwelling in the past?? You talk to some girl for 2 months. You flirt with her, she plays with you well. Then you arrange to meet her. I guess that's meant to see how you feel about each other in person. She's not attracted to you in person. She kisses some random guy she just met, in front of you. That's bad taste to me. But maybe you were pushing for something to happen with her, and she didn't feel like it. To make it more obvious and in the easiest and quickest way possible, she kissed someone else. You should have taken the hint she's not attracted to you. You should have said bye, left the place and then stopped talking to her. While you're still here thinking of why she did what she did. No guy feels like being rejected from a girl/woman they like. Most guys wouldn't like being rejected by any female as a general rule. So I can understand you being hurt. But you are making it bigger than it is. You took her too seriously before you met her, thinking she would have fallen for you. It didn't happen. And... it happens. You're not alone. Sometimes people have a crush on someone, and they're not liked back. Go out, meet new people, invite other girls out. There'll be a girl for you out there.
Author fred123 Posted September 8, 2014 Author Posted September 8, 2014 yes i just want to learn how to avoid doing this again. i never wqnt to feel like that again. like a loser by myself in a club. i was thinking of designing a questionaire and asking girls questions so i know that we are on the same page. a dating coach told me that this girl had no respect for me. a girl who has no respect for u will never **** u. how do u become that guy that gets respect from a girl? cos she respected that new guy in the club and she barely knew! i want to learn from these guys
justwhoiam Posted September 8, 2014 Posted September 8, 2014 Your question is: how to be successful with women? ?!@!!?@#! There are people making a living just by trying to teach guys that. Is it worth it? Not sure. In some cases, probably. One thing for sure, if a woman loses respect for you, or can't respect you since the beginning, you stand almost zero chances with her. What would lead to that lack of respect can vary depending on the woman, though we all have general rules about men.
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