hea Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 My ex split with me nearly a year ago because he said I had become just a friend (after 3 years of dating). He had contacted me since, telling me he loved me, missed me etc, but never made any effort towards saying he wants me back. I've been really good, I've never once been the first to contact him. I've never begged or anything, left him to it. In May he rang me and told me he wanted me back, but I told him he should speak to one of his mates and get it off his chest, make sure it is what he wants before I even consider it. a week later I heard from him again and he said he will always have feelings for me but if we gave it another go it may happen again and he doesn't want to waste my time. Which is fair enough. Good job, I hadn't opened my mouth about how I felt about him otherwise I would have been so mugged off. Anyway, he is STILL texting out of the blue random rubbish. I've found someone else I have started to quite like and I'm all for moving on, but as my ex is still sat on my shoulder I feel like I cant, because of how much I love him. Is there any advice as to how to get him out of my head so I can give the new guy my full attention? I've told the ex to stop bringing us up and how he feels but he uses the 'drunk' excuse every time.
Zahara Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 I think it is you that cannot let go. You have the opportunity to block someone that plays these mind games with you but yet you keep yourself open to his communication. If you really want to move on, block your ex and focus on the new guy. I think it's unfair for you to drag this new guy into your life when you can't be completely invested 100% -- he's probably coming to the table with a full deck. Stop sitting on the fence. You either shut down the ex and focus on new guy or you let new guy go and figure out your unresolved issues/feelings with your ex. No in between, as in receiving contact from ex while pursuing new guy.
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