Is there a "Type" out there?

[irc333]

I think when someone says, "They aren't my type" or "I didn't bother approaching her, because she doesn't look my type". I think its up to interpretation? I don't know.

 

Recently a old high school friend of mine had a few friends become single (one recently appeared on POF as recently single). If you look at their Facebook pics and such....most of them consist of them wearing something you'd see a woman dressed as if they were attending a Polo event or the Kentucky Derby. Professionally done photos with their kids in their Sunday best, and so on.

 

Pictures of them at fancy shindigs, etc.

 

Don't get me wrong, these are very attractive women, great smiles and I"ve met them in the past, but something would tell me they wouldn't give me the time a day dating wise only because...they MAY be "not my type."

 

Gentlemen, ladies...with what I described is this something that would make you question that they aren't your type if they seem to have this image? Do you keep up with such a wardrobe, have posed photos of wine glass in hand with the girls by the pool or a upper-middle class outdoor cafe? Etc?

 

Of course, some may say, "Nah, I'd go for it anyway, see what happens", but would you figure the "High falutin" type wouldn't be YOUR type and you'd move on?

 

I mean, don't get me wrong I do dress up when the occasion calls for it...dinner and a movie with friends or a night out with friends, but some people tend to dress fancy even when they leave the house or even gardening.

Edited August 8, 2014 by irc333

[Miss Match]

hmmm... photos on social media aren't really a true indication. Most woman only post photos of themselves when they think they look good, which is usually when out, dressed up and being social.

 

I'm a pretty down to earth sort. Only dress up/ wear make-up when necessary...

 

....but a good majority of my photos on FB are when I'm out with friends or at a wedding or something where i'm dressed up. Not intentionally, but I'm not going to post photos of me weeding the garden on a saturday.

[Disillusioned]

OP, I can show you PLENTY of women who have a fetish (for lack of a better term) for dressing up fancy. The gaudy ballgowns and ridiculous wigs of the Victorian era seem to be a kind of halcyon ideal for many of the women I've met who have this fetish. (OTOH I dare you to find one such woman who likes listening to chamber music.)

 

But "type" goes beyond what women wear... ethnicity, height, weight, personality, interests, manners, health... all those and more can and do determine "type".

[D.Mc.]

When I read a man's OLD profile & he says his interests are rock climbing, snorkeling & Fijian cuisine, & his pics are all of him at Mt. Everest, the White House & getting his Nobel Peace Prize...I don't message him even if he's local & exactly what I want physically, because I'm not his "socio-economic" type & I know it. IRL we would never have met due to our different lifestyles. If you know your type that's because that is what you are comfortable with AND attracted to.

 

(How's that for all the men on LS saying women in OLD/IRL dating are "unrealistic" about who they can date?).

[Lernaean_Hydra]

When I read a man's OLD profile & he says his interests are rock climbing, snorkeling & Fijian cuisine, & his pics are all of him at Mt. Everest, the White House & getting his Nobel Peace Prize...I don't message him even if he's local & exactly what I want physically, because I'm not his "socio-economic" type & I know it. IRL we would never have met due to our different lifestyles. If you know your type that's because that is what you are comfortable with AND attracted to.

 

(How's that for all the men on LS saying women in OLD/IRL dating are "unrealistic" about who they can date?).

 

 

I'm just quoting this so I can see you preach it one more time!

 

You have NO idea how often on OLD I was messaged by men who were skiing in Switzerland, wake boarding in Hawaii, sitting around their lavish pools at their swank parties and I was just Oooh honey no you are knocking on the wrong door Daddy Warbucks.

 

I actually ended up meeting a really wealthy guy (IRL) after I stopped OLD and there was something there for a few months but dating him was everything I feared it would be and more as I told him from day one. Our backgrounds and lifestyles were just...way too different. He'd say he'd be away for the weekend and I'd be like oh awesome, where you going? Oh, South Beach? That's cool, I think I'm gonna go to Walgreens...maybe the public library.

[LuckyLady13]

irc333, you asked if there's a type out there. Then mentioned POF and Facebook and how people seem rather dressed up in their pictures and they seemed not your type. Steer clear if people don't seem to be your type, move on and find someone who is. The reason? Personally, I live so authentically that I dress every single day so conscious of "is this showing who I am" that it's near obsessive. But it works GREAT because people know who I am and I'm only approached by people who feel comfortable with the type of person I am. Not everybody does this and worse, most people don't, actually. But even if, you can gleam something about the type of person they are from what you are seeing. Don't waste your precious time on this earth wondering, trying, finding out you were right and they weren't your type. Life is too short to waste time.

 

I am the type to garden all dressed up with makeup on, hair done as if I'm going to some big event because for me, that's just who I am. I like wearing makeup and think back to Cleopatra and how some women over the years used makeup to accentuate their features and add almost an artful flair of color to the very thing people are staring right at when talking to you. Why not be a bit of a canvas and add extra color where I think nature fell a little short?

 

I wear band t-shirts once a week. I do that just to keep up with showing on the outside who my true authentic self is. Music is such a passion of mine and I show that to people. And the best thing about that is it's like a walking billboard showing everyone what music I like and people approach me because of these shirts saying "I love them too!" and we have something in common right off the bat! If I wasn't wearing the shirt, they'd never know we had something in common by looking at me unless I start carrying my big heavy boombox around so they can hear it.

 

Not everybody lives like this and try to just purely put what they think is their best foot forward on FB and dating sites. If you don't feel that's a great idea and you don't think you would like someone who does things like this, move on quickly. They don't sound like your type.

 

If you focus your energy on people who are your type, that's exactly who you're going to end up with.

[irc333]

Well, she's on POF (free dating site) so I take it she's not THAT much of a "mucky muck" lol.

 

But there's a certain set of people in my area, small community, that are of the "beautiful people" crowd...most are married though, but occasionally one would break off into a divorce from the group.

 

I reached out to some of my old high school chums, and she happens to be the friend of one of my high school class mates who was ex-CIA (she's married). lol

 

The married ex-CIA (she was in linguistics) was one of the lucky ones that didn't stick around in her home town, get married and popped out 2 or 3 kids by the age of 25, but pursuit a full on career...married later.

 

The married one writes a blog and once she posted a picture of the evening attire (she looked very nice) she had worn into a hotel lobby in the Middle East (where she was stationed). I think she wasn't with her husband at the time, but she was chased out of the lobby because they thought she was...believe it or not...a prostitute. LOL

 

Her husband, who spoke the the hotel lobby staff in their native tongue gave a good bashing...but she goes to say, "Good to know I still 'got it' over 40"

 

But there's just something about that say's kind of into herself. But I'm assuming she runs in those circles. Though she's never been snooty with me.

 

When I spotted her newly single friend on Facebook then in parallel on POF, I thought "Should I bother?"

 

But honestly, I wouldn't completely blow it off....figured "Hey, she's local, beautiful, intelligent...best again...local" why not give it a shot.

 

Can't entirely judge a book by its cover, right? I actually contacted her single friend through Facebook instead of POF...didn't want to wait in line. LOL

 

 

irc333, you asked if there's a type out there. Then mentioned POF and Facebook and how people seem rather dressed up in their pictures and they seemed not your type. Steer clear if people don't seem to be your type, move on and find someone who is. The reason? Personally, I live so authentically that I dress every single day so conscious of "is this showing who I am" that it's near obsessive. But it works GREAT because people know who I am and I'm only approached by people who feel comfortable with the type of person I am. Not everybody does this and worse, most people don't, actually. But even if, you can gleam something about the type of person they are from what you are seeing. Don't waste your precious time on this earth wondering, trying, finding out you were right and they weren't your type. Life is too short to waste time.

 

I am the type to garden all dressed up with makeup on, hair done as if I'm going to some big event because for me, that's just who I am. I like wearing makeup and think back to Cleopatra and how some women over the years used makeup to accentuate their features and add almost an artful flair of color to the very thing people are staring right at when talking to you. Why not be a bit of a canvas and add extra color where I think nature fell a little short?

 

I wear band t-shirts once a week. I do that just to keep up with showing on the outside who my true authentic self is. Music is such a passion of mine and I show that to people. And the best thing about that is it's like a walking billboard showing everyone what music I like and people approach me because of these shirts saying "I love them too!" and we have something in common right off the bat! If I wasn't wearing the shirt, they'd never know we had something in common by looking at me unless I start carrying my big heavy boombox around so they can hear it.

 

Not everybody lives like this and try to just purely put what they think is their best foot forward on FB and dating sites. If you don't feel that's a great idea and you don't think you would like someone who does things like this, move on quickly. They don't sound like your type.

 

If you focus your energy on people who are your type, that's exactly who you're going to end up with.

[irc333]

There is always this one dude...think Barney from "How I Met Your Mother" that pretty much dates all types, beliefs, etc.

 

He would date New Age yoga chicks, executive chicks, waitresses, you name it. Usually its based on the physical nothing more. Some men don't have a "type" when it comes to the physical.

 

Speaking of Yoga chicks, though they can be hot, but too "New Age" for me, but it's tempting to ask them out anyway. lol. But when people change their legal name to some Dhali Lama type name (didn't know that till recently)...then I get grounded in reality.