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Tonight we were celebrating my sugar baby's birthday. But she came with a surprise. She had a card. And in that card were several additional notecards on which she described her true feelings for me. She admitted to holding back and being afraid to admit how she feels. This was especially so knowing how much I love her. Understandably, she didn't want to give me the wrong idea. But she does love me a great deal and credits me with helping to turn her life around. With heartfelt passion she described what she admires about me and what I have meant to her life. She could barely hold back the tears as she read, which was true for me as well.

 

 

I always knew that she cares about me and has a place for me in her heart. But a relationship like this is so complicated that I didn't know if she would ever come to terms with her feelings, or what the true extent of those feeling may be. But she has come to terms with her feelings for me and is willing to confront them and be honest... finally.

 

I have known for some time that she loves me. But it was more than comforting and fills my heart to finally hear her say the words.

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I'm happy for you my friend, thats good news indeed.

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Ok.........a woman loving her sugar daddy. That's a first for me.

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Ok.........a woman loving her sugar daddy. That's a first for me.

 

Are you serious or is that sarcasm?

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Ignore the haters Robert Z. I'm happy for you too. That is indeed good news!

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Once she let's you stop paying her then you know she loves you.

 

Not to be a negative nancy, but I just got a card from my mother that I'm sure says I love you but it went right in the garbage because the actions certainly don't match the words.

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Ignore the haters Robert Z. I'm happy for you too. That is indeed good news!

 

Thank you. :)

 

It sure took long enough - 30 months and over 5000 posts!!! :laugh:

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Thank you. :)

 

 

It sure took long enough - 30 months and over 5000 posts!!! :laugh:

 

Eh, it's not that long! Haha! :p Very happy for you Robert Z. :)

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Once she let's you stop paying her then you know she loves you.

 

Not to be a negative nancy, but I just got a card from my mother that I'm sure says I love you but it went right in the garbage because the actions certainly don't match the words.

 

Fair point. She clearly indicated that our situation will change. Right now she is depending on me until she finishes school this fall. So it seems that she plans to spend more time together. She even threatened to make me take her to a rap concert or some godaweful thing. :laugh: But it is also important to understand that she has always been very careful about not misleading me in any way. In fact the easiest way to blow this was to be too open about my feelings for her. I have been walking on eggshells for two years and trying not to say too much. And I almost did a couple of times.

 

There is absolutely no doubt that she was being honest and sincere. Likewise, with the difference in our ages, she doesn't want me to get false hope for something more than a wonderful friendship.

 

On the other hand, I know she loves me more than she is willing to admit. I saw that as she was leaving this morning. Her eyes tells all. And that is appropriate, poetic justice if you will, given that her eyes are what first captured my heart. I looked into her eyes and was lost. It is the absolute truth.

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Awwwwww...... Robert, I am so happy for you!

 

I take the meal went well? ;);)

 

(And, what did you serve?)

 

 

 

:D:D:D:D

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Fair point. She clearly indicated that our situation will change. Right now she is depending on me until she finishes school this fall. So it seems that she plans to spend more time together. She even threatened to make me take her to a rap concert or some godaweful thing. :laugh: But it is also important to understand that she has always been very careful about not misleading me in any way. In fact the easiest way to blow this was to be too open about my feelings for her. I have been walking on eggshells for two years and trying not to say too much. And I almost did a couple of times.

 

There is absolutely no doubt that she was being honest and sincere. Likewise, with the difference in our ages, she doesn't want me to get false hope for something more than a wonderful friendship.

 

On the other hand, I know she loves me more than she is willing to admit. I saw that as she was leaving this morning. Her eyes tells all. And that is appropriate, poetic justice if you will, given that her eyes are what first captured my heart. I looked into her eyes and was lost. It is the absolute truth.

 

Agree with gaius...and, it's hard to fathom given her profession, that she has to continue billing you for sex and companionship to finish school. Surely she must make a pretty decent living with her other clients :/

 

As long as you're happy with this arrangement, then that's all that matters right? You know better than us.

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Awwwwww...... Robert, I am so happy for you!

 

I take the meal went well? ;);)

 

(And, what did you serve?)

 

:D:D:D:D

 

 

Thanks. :) It was a wonderful evening. And thanks for your great suggestions.

 

 

I even got a hug from the beautiful young woman next door when she saw what I had prepared. :laugh: She happened to be outside when I opened my door. She took a look and saw all of the fancy preparations and all but swooned. I spent the entire day getting ready and the place looked great - right down to the new Waterford champagne flutes.

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Agree with gaius...and, it's hard to fathom given her profession, that she has to continue billing you for sex and companionship to finish school. Surely she must make a pretty decent living with her other clients :/

 

As long as you're happy with this arrangement, then that's all that matters right? You know better than us.

 

She quit "the profession" almost a year ago when I agree to support her. And we both moved... near each other. She has been a full-time student ever since.

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i am happy for you robert that you are happy.......i dont think she should still bill you but that is my way of feeling....that money shouldnt come into love.....i really hope that you find happiness in whatever and with whomever makes you happy.....best wishes....deb

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She quit "the profession" almost a year ago when I agree to support her. And we both moved... near each other. She has been a full-time student ever since.

 

If you're still paying her for sex/companionship then she hasn't quit the business. I wasn't sure based on your post that's why I mentioned it. :bunny:

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If you're still paying her for sex/companionship then she hasn't quit the business. I wasn't sure based on your post that's why I mentioned it. :bunny:

 

 

Well, that is a matter of semantics. Being a sugar baby is quite a different life from that of an escort. She depends on me for support just like my ex wife did. The only difference being that my sugar baby is nice to me, we have fun, she treats me with respect, and we have great sex... and of course she is way too young and beautiful for me.

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Well, that is a matter of semantics. Being a sugar baby is quite a different life from that of an escort. She depends on me for support just like my ex wife did. The only difference being that my sugar baby is nice to me, we have fun, she treats me with respect, and we have great sex... and of course she is way too young and beautiful for me.

 

Yes, we could debate "semantics" all day. Mine differ from yours and yours differ from mine. :bunny: If we stay true to ourselves we can never go wrong...On that note, enjoy. :)

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Yippee....now exactly what transpired? Did you look deep into her eyes and tell her......?? I want details. I have read all your threads about this development, rooted for you, and I want my happy ending. :p

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i am happy for you robert that you are happy.......i dont think she should still bill you but that is my way of feeling....that money shouldnt come into love.....i really hope that you find happiness in whatever and with whomever makes you happy.....best wishes....deb

 

I'm not kidding myself. I am way too old for her. However, right now she has no choice if she is going to finish school on schedule. I agreed to support her until she finishes and gets full-time work again.

 

I knew she was struggling with something. Now I know what it was. She couldn't deny her feelings any longer. But you've got to know how conflicted she must feel. She can't see a future with a man my age. But to hear her say the words, I love you, means more than I can say.

 

I don't need convincing. I know her well enough to know she was being sincere. But there is some rather obvious logic to consider. The time to start bullshting a sucker isn't two months before you don't need him any more... after two and a half years. ;) The time to start lying was 30 months ago.

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I'm happy for you, Robert. :)

 

Re: the fact that you are paying all her expenses... well, that is entirely between you and her and as long as you're both happy, then that's what matters.

 

A word of caution, though - even with couples where the man supports his wife/partner, they usually started out falling in love while financially independent from each other. This is an important part of the dynamic because the feelings and commitment came before the full financial support did. In your case things may be more complicated. I'm sure you're able to handle whatever may happen, but just do be careful in lieu of the possibility of a worst case scenario.

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Awwww :). This makes my heart smile Robert :).

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Yippee....now exactly what transpired? Did you look deep into her eyes and tell her......?? I want details. I have read all your threads about this development, rooted for you, and I want my happy ending. :p

 

:) Her eyes. That was when we first met and I still haven't gotten over it. And it was an amazing experience. I was completely swept away in moment and have been ever since. She does know all about it. I finally told her about six months later.

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I'm sure you're able to handle whatever may happen, but just do be careful in lieu of the possibility of a worst case scenario.

 

 

Thanks Elswyth. :) When this ends, assuming it does, it will be one of the hardest days of my life. That hasn't changed.

 

It always come back to the same principle - enjoy it while it lasts. But you as much as anyone know how I have longed and agonized and had my heart soar for this woman. To hear those magic words after all this time was more than I ever expected.

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Paying a full college tuition plus all expenses for this woman is a pretty hefty sum for someone who is going to leave you as soon as school is over. How are you going to feel after spending $100,000+ on her and she walks away from you and starts a life without you? Doesn't seem like a very good investment for your money, and one that will lead to heartbreak for you when she does leave.

 

 

And it will have been worth every penny. ;) This experience has been a rare gift and one of the highlights of my life.

 

Do I wish things were different? Of course. But we just have to make the most of what we get in life.

 

I do regret every penny I gave my ex wife. She cost a lot more and gave me far less.

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I keep thinking about the part where she started to tear up. It was when she said that I have never shown her anything but unconditional love. True story. It makes me tear up now just thinking about it.

 

 

I told her that I can't help myself. Every time we see each other, I fall in love with her all over again. That is also a fact.

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