fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Tip of the day: internet relationships are 20% reality and 80% fantasy. It so easy to get caught up in the fantasy. When there is no physical contact, your imagination fills in the rest and it can totally be misleading. Take what they say with a grain of salt. The proof is when you meet, never take those words as a promise....that is just foolishness. You can't possibly know someone you have never met before. She only have mislead you if she made you had paid for her plane ticket, and she takes off. That then is a scam. right so if i meet a girl online dating and screw her over like this i wudnt be to blame?
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 The best thing for you to do is stay away from LDRs, and internet relationships. The majority fail in the most painful of ways.
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 You didn't meet her expectations and instead of being honest with you, she dealt with it in an immature manner. You should have not stuck around, or have not bothered. Next time follow your gut. to be fair those 2 months we were chatting she never had time to skype or pick up the fone even though i tried asking so many times. she had good excuses like believe me i want to fred123 but im so busy and wen im ill i cant skype. also im moving house so im stressed. i said when you like someone and you cant see them in person the next best thing is skype or fone calls. she says i agree and that she prefers seeing them too and talking on the fone but that shes busy etc etc. we finally found a time to skype one evening and i wqited but she flaked and she neevr told me she was ill and went to bed. i waited for her!pfft. next day she said sorry
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 right so if i meet a girl online dating and screw her over like this i wudnt be to blame? Your revenge like negativity is like a poisonous vapor....you don't want to go there and ruin any chance of meeting someone. You just have to be smart about it. Everyone has bad experiences, but most learn and avoid that crap from happening again simple as that. Again, don't expect anything. Don't do 2 months of chatting, date locally, let things play out. If things turn bad just leave, don't sit there all night stewing in your own juices.
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 to be fair those 2 months we were chatting she never had time to skype or pick up the fone even though i tried asking so many times. she had good excuses like believe me i want to fred123 but im so busy and wen im ill i cant skype. also im moving house so im stressed. i said when you like someone and you cant see them in person the next best thing is skype or fone calls. she says i agree and that she prefers seeing them too and talking on the fone but that shes busy etc etc. we finally found a time to skype one evening and i wqited but she flaked and she neevr told me she was ill and went to bed. i waited for her!pfft. next day she said sorry Don't tolerate excuses! excuses are a red flag. Bail out before they hoover you in.
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 were the signs there? Yes, but you were too caught up in your emotions, and desires you overlooked the obvious.
ascendotum Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Wow. You seem to me like a slimy piece of ****. But that's what today's women pine for. Nothing wrong with giving the market what it wants. He lived and learned. Why don't you take some of smakie's advice and learn to get the outcome you want, instead of saying you might be single for a long time. Nothing wrong with a woman staying on as one your friend's as long as you can handle it emotionally and the friendship is not unequal. Presumably her personality & nature was a big part of the attraction. That example where the guy helped the girl out of a crises by driving 7 hrs at short notice. If there is no way she would do the same for him, then that's when you make yourself a chump staying in the friendzone. I've been there. Most guys put themselves there, but also some girls are pretty savvy and exploit your unrequited desire for them. 1
Assasda Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Fred still thinks that he was "friendzoned" "out of the blue" hahahahaha. Maybe he thinks internet/phone relationships are real. Guess what bro their not. People in the world have real penis, and girls have real vaginas, and people really use them. YES! in Real life. So, cut out all your fantasy stuff about being "friendzoned out of the blue"
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