DazedandConfused8 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 ''Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option''. ^^^This will clear up most of your friend zoning issues. Brilliant.
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I'll be alone forever. Goodbye to this ****ty website filled with ****ty people who give ****ty non advice. You just joined today. Perhaps part of the reason you're alone is also because of your quick-to-judge temper and quick-to-quit attitude. That's my advice. 1
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 The only way to know if they want you is when they are willing to have sex with you. are you a female?
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 are you a female? Judging by her profile, yes.
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 wow how come ur so honest to tell us these things? so if a girl has sex with u thats the key to knowing if she likes u?
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 btw i got fri3ndzoned out the blue. it does happen cos it happened to me and to this day i cannot understand wat the hell happened?!
Rockemsockem Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 My only friendzone horror story is that people believe in the construct of the friendzone, it's not a real thing. The only person who can "friendzone" you is yourself. Don't want to be friends then don't, simple.
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 btw i got fri3ndzoned out the blue. it does happen cos it happened to me and to this day i cannot understand wat the hell happened?! Guess what....it takes a female 7 seconds to consider if you are BF material or not. So it's not out of the blue. Just because a girl is nice to you, or messages you a lot doesn't mean she wants you. The only way to know is to ask her out, sometimes within minutes of meeting her, or very soon afterwards. BTW read the ladder theory. It's not exact science but it has a lot of good points.
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 My only friendzone horror story is that people believe in the construct of the friendzone, it's not a real thing. The only person who can "friendzone" you is yourself. Don't want to be friends then don't, simple. Guys needed to put a title on this phenomenon. Friends zone is just another name for being rejected.
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Guess what....it takes a female 7 seconds to consider if you are BF material or not. So it's not out of the blue. Just because a girl is nice to you, or messages you a lot doesn't mean she wants you. The only way to know is to ask her out, sometimes within minutes of meeting her, or very soon afterwards. BTW read the ladder theory. It's not exact science but it has a lot of good points. you dont sound like a women. all the other women on here say completely different advice to you. you sound like one of the guys. is this how women reli thi k? then why do women disagree with it if we ask them on this forum? is it cos ur just so honest and they are not?
Assasda Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 btw i got fri3ndzoned out the blue. it does happen cos it happened to me and to this day i cannot understand wat the hell happened?! I take it that you were making out with this girl all the time then she said "Oh no youre my friend" out of the blue, is that what happened to you then. Since you got friendzone "out of the blue"
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Guess what....it takes a female 7 seconds to consider if you are BF material or not. I don't buy this. 7 seconds to determine whether he's worth speaking to maybe, but relationships and determining "boyfriend material" take longer than that.
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 you dont sound like a women. all the other women on here say completely different advice to you. you sound like one of the guys. is this how women reli thi k? then why do women disagree with it if we ask them on this forum? is it cos ur just so honest and they are not? No they are not lying, this is how they view things. The problem is, is that they are oblivious to how a man's brain truly works, they just simply go by how they think. This is why there is so much mixed signals and confusion. You know... they expect you to be able to read their mind. But the thing is, women are like snowflakes, no one is the same and they just don't get that. I on the other hand yes I am like a guy with tits. I understand men more than the average woman. I know I have the advantage, and I have np navigating through relationships with men, friends or lovers. I do agree that women contradict themselves with what they say and what they do. They just don't realize they are doing it, so that why they fight you on these topics. It is what it is.
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I don't buy this. 7 seconds to determine whether he's worth speaking to maybe, but relationships and determining "boyfriend material" take longer than that. It's general, you know, the first step to interest. But some women will launch their imagination into the relationship, sex, marriage category in that short of time. Remember women are guided by their emotions,and our brains fire off in different directions in a millisecond. Our perception, and how we think is very differnt to men. Our priority is genetically is to find someone to support us and our future children, romance and status (subconsciously)...men think sexual contact in those 7 seconds in most cases.
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 No they are not lying, this is how they view things. The problem is, is that they are oblivious to how a man's brain truly works, they just simply go by how they think. This is why there is so much mixed signals and confusion. You know... they expect you to be able to read their mind. But the thing is, women are like snowflakes, no one is the same and they just don't get that. I on the other hand yes I am like a guy with tits. I understand men more than the average woman. I know I have the advantage, and I have np navigating through relationships with men, friends or lovers. I do agree that women contradict themselves with what they say and what they do. They just don't realize they are doing it, so that why they fight you on these topics. It is what it is. you could help me then. i was talking to this girl online who lived abroad. for 2 months we were chatting. wen we came to meet she screwed me over and said we were only ever friends and that the night we met finally we went to a club and that it looked like i wqnted to be more than friends
Rockemsockem Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 you could help me then. i was talking to this girl online who lived abroad. for 2 months we were chatting. wen we came to meet she screwed me over and said we were only ever friends and that the night we met finally we went to a club and that it looked like i wanted to be more than friends I'll help you. In bold there's your problem. She owes you nothing, it doesn't matter what you want if she doesn't want the same that's it. Game over. You are entitled to nothing. If you don't want to be her friend then that is fine but she didn't friend zone you she just isn't interested in you. Period. I'm a dude by the way I'm just so sick of guys whinging about girls who are not interested in them to begin with and feel these women owe them something. Just take it on the chin and move on. 1
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I'll help you. In bold there's your problem. She owes you nothing, it doesn't matter what you want if she doesn't want the same that's it. Game over. You are entitled to nothing. If you don't want to be her friend then that is fine but she didn't friend zone you she just isn't interested in you. Period. I'm a dude by the way I'm just so sick of guys whinging about girls who are not interested in them to begin with and feel these women owe them something. Just take it on the chin and move on. right u dont know the whole story. this girl i believe led me on. saying things i reli likw you i have feelings for you. i want us to work. i promise il like you. i want to visit you often etc. always messaging me every day
Carenth Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 right u dont know the whole story. this girl i believe led me on. saying things i reli likw you i have feelings for you. i want us to work. i promise il like you. i want to visit you often etc. always messaging me every day Doesn't matter she changed her mind, it happens a lot. She still owes you nothing. The sooner you realise this and not give a **** the sooner you will be happier. 1
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 right if thats the case am i allowed to go on a date with a girl then get off with another girl in front of her? if she complains she has no right to because she is entitled to nothing correct?
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Ok that's easy, when chatting with someone for 2 months, there is obviously some interest or there wouldn't be 2 months of chatting. But nothing is concrete until you finally meet in person. You found her attractive, she didn't find you attractive....so now what eh? She is put on the spot because of your expectations of a romantic connection (I'm assuming), so she tosses the we are only friends card. She didn't screw you over my friend, you can't go into something like this expecting her to want you. It's 50/50. That is why you should never invest yourself unless you are officially in a relationship. Until then anything can change in a moments notice. Rule of thumb: don't expect anything
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 right if thats the case am i allowed to go on a date with a girl then get off with another girl in front of her? if she complains she has no right to because she is entitled to nothing correct? If it's a date or you invite someone out, you respectfully entertain them as promised. There is always a chance attraction can happen. You can't expect a woman to want to commit on a first date. Like I said, don't expect anything. If she rudely says you are only friends, you end the date or don't take her out at all.
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 If it's a date or you invite someone out, you respectfully entertain them as promised. There is always a chance attraction can happen. You can't expect a woman to want to commit on a first date. Like I said, don't expect anything. If she rudely says you are only friends, you end the date or don't take her out at all. right let me xplain. we had plans to go to a restaurwnt together but never happened. she invited me out to the club with her mate as i said i dont think its a good idea as i was feeling the vibe they didnt like me. she begged me to come out and even said il pay for your taxi home. i came and travelled an hour to their hotel room just three of us. we pre drink and then went to the club. she kissed another guy in front of me and talked in german all night
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 right u dont know the whole story. this girl i believe led me on. saying things i reli likw you i have feelings for you. i want us to work. i promise il like you. i want to visit you often etc. always messaging me every day Tip of the day: internet relationships are 20% reality and 80% fantasy. It so easy to get caught up in the fantasy. When there is no physical contact, your imagination fills in the rest and it can totally be misleading. Take what they say with a grain of salt. The proof is when you meet, never take those words as a promise....that is just foolishness. You can't possibly know someone you have never met before. She only have mislead you if she made you had paid for her plane ticket, and she takes off. That then is a scam.
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 right let me xplain. we had plans to go to a restaurwnt together but never happened. she invited me out to the club with her mate as i said i dont think its a good idea as i was feeling the vibe they didnt like me. she begged me to come out and even said il pay for your taxi home. i came and travelled an hour to their hotel room just three of us. we pre drink and then went to the club. she kissed another guy in front of me and talked in german all night You didn't meet her expectations and instead of being honest with you, she dealt with it in an immature manner. You should have not stuck around, or have not bothered. Next time follow your gut.
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