Natsu21 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Here's a scenario. Boy meets girl, boy likes girl Girl is dating an older male who beats on her and threatens her. Uses boys as sexual rebound, leads him to believe she likes him Goes back to abusive douchebag but claims that you'll always be friends. Ever been friendzoned in a similar fashion? Tell your stories here and how you handled it.
Dork Vader Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Been friendzoned a few times.. I meet woman. I tell woman I have HPV. She friendzoned me. Woman dates guy he gives her HPV. Woman then comes back and attempts to unfriendzone me. My response was "i view you as a friend sorry." I like girl. Girl says she is not ready for relationshio friendzones me. 48 hours later I get a phone call at 1:00AM. "This other guy I was seeing is telling me if. i don't sleep with him he'll leave me in SD can you come get me?" I drive 7 hours south pick her up and drive 7 hours home. 2 of the 7 hours she attempts to convince me she might have been wrong about us just being friends. Never spoke again.. On a better note.. I was in love with a woman.. She friendzoned me we remained friends.. After 1 year of true friendship I see we are truly just friends. She is now my best friend. I've helped her through turmoil with her boy friend. She's helped me through dating turnoil. I love her as a friend now. We truly are the definition of best friends. So much so her boy friend trusts me to go to Vegas with her just the two of us. And no nothing sexual has ever happened or will ever happen. Woman is drop dead gorgeous. Physically everything I wanted. I did not want to move to fast so I put the brakes on when she wanted to have sex (i was only 20). She then friendzones me.. After 7 months of friendship and hearing her dating life I dodged a bullet. She slept with upwards of 60 men in 5 months. Been friend zoned other times too.. But I've friendzoned people as well..
jay1983 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Boy learns white knights are chumps and turns back on girl. 2
Author Natsu21 Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 Been friendzoned a few times.. I meet woman. I tell woman I have HPV. She friendzoned me. Woman dates guy he gives her HPV. Woman then comes back and attempts to unfriendzone me. My response was "i view you as a friend sorry." I like girl. Girl says she is not ready for relationshio friendzones me. 48 hours later I get a phone call at 1:00AM. "This other guy I was seeing is telling me if. i don't sleep with him he'll leave me in SD can you come get me?" I drive 7 hours south pick her up and drive 7 hours home. 2 of the 7 hours she attempts to convince me she might have been wrong about us just being friends. Never spoke again.. On a better note.. I was in love with a woman.. She friendzoned me we remained friends.. After 1 year of true friendship I see we are truly just friends. She is now my best friend. I've helped her through turmoil with her boy friend. She's helped me through dating turnoil. I love her as a friend now. We truly are the definition of best friends. So much so her boy friend trusts me to go to Vegas with her just the two of us. And no nothing sexual has ever happened or will ever happen. Woman is drop dead gorgeous. Physically everything I wanted. I did not want to move to fast so I put the brakes on when she wanted to have sex (i was only 20). She then friendzones me.. After 7 months of friendship and hearing her dating life I dodged a bullet. She slept with upwards of 60 men in 5 months. Been friend zoned other times too.. But I've friendzoned people as well.. Wow....that second scenario has me like "Bro, I wanna buy you a beer" Glad you got out of that sitch.
fred123 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Been friendzoned a few times.. I meet woman. I tell woman I have HPV. She friendzoned me. Woman dates guy he gives her HPV. Woman then comes back and attempts to unfriendzone me. My response was "i view you as a friend sorry." I like girl. Girl says she is not ready for relationshio friendzones me. 48 hours later I get a phone call at 1:00AM. "This other guy I was seeing is telling me if. i don't sleep with him he'll leave me in SD can you come get me?" I drive 7 hours south pick her up and drive 7 hours home. 2 of the 7 hours she attempts to convince me she might have been wrong about us just being friends. Never spoke again.. On a better note.. I was in love with a woman.. She friendzoned me we remained friends.. After 1 year of true friendship I see we are truly just friends. She is now my best friend. I've helped her through turmoil with her boy friend. She's helped me through dating turnoil. I love her as a friend now. We truly are the definition of best friends. So much so her boy friend trusts me to go to Vegas with her just the two of us. And no nothing sexual has ever happened or will ever happen. Woman is drop dead gorgeous. Physically everything I wanted. I did not want to move to fast so I put the brakes on when she wanted to have sex (i was only 20). She then friendzones me.. After 7 months of friendship and hearing her dating life I dodged a bullet. She slept with upwards of 60 men in 5 months. Been friend zoned other times too.. But I've friendzoned people as well.. u drove 7 hours to pick up a girl that wasnt even ur gf?!!
Dork Vader Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Yeah I did. I don't care how badly a person has treated me. If they need help I'll do what I can. No person should ever have to chose between a ride home and sleeping with someone they do not want to. She learned a hard lesson. 1
slizl Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Been freindzoned once in my life and it turned out to be the best friendzoned ever. Divorced my wife after years of turmoil. We have two children together and decided to be as amicable as possible for the kids. I have been divorced for a year and a half now and she is literally one of my best friends now. Crazy how a relationship can be so much drama, but as friends, things can't be any more perfect. The kids are so well adjusted and both of us are loving our new lives! 1
smackie9 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Yeah I did. I don't care how badly a person has treated me. If they need help I'll do what I can. No person should ever have to chose between a ride home and sleeping with someone they do not want to. She learned a hard lesson. It's bit ches like that that need a slap for being so dense.
fred123 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Yeah I did. I don't care how badly a person has treated me. If they need help I'll do what I can. No person should ever have to chose between a ride home and sleeping with someone they do not want to. She learned a hard lesson. u think if it was the other way round she would do that?
Author Natsu21 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 u think if it was the other way round she would do that? HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELLLLL NO! You can be as morally upright as you want in this case, by turning the other cheek, but she won't respect you... She'll just think of you as a doormat 2
notsointerested Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 From the start it was already over. I meet girl, I like girl. I help girl at college with her work and we exchange numbers. I planned to ask her out 3 weeks later at a birthday party, during that time I tried to strengthen our relationship (doing everything for her), giving me ample time to abort plans if I sensed the dreaded 'f' word. We got pretty close, unfortunately it was the fact that her friends were my friends and we were in a 'circle of friends'. It was getting closer to that time and then I did feel that she wasn't being as close to me as I was being to her, that should have been warning bells telling me to give it up. But i didn't. I tried to do more things for her to get her closer but the only thing I was getting closer to was the friendzone, that sealed my fate. Of course she said no and it caused me 3 weeks of hurt. Could it have been prevented? Yes! The fact she was my first crush and the first girl I ever asked out, there are a lot of improvements to work on...This happened 5 months ago. Guess I'm too much of a friend... Oh and we still talk, since we're 'best friends' now...
Author Natsu21 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 From the start it was already over. I meet girl, I like girl. I help girl at college with her work and we exchange numbers. I planned to ask her out 3 weeks later at a birthday party, during that time I tried to strengthen our relationship (doing everything for her), giving me ample time to abort plans if I sensed the dreaded 'f' word. We got pretty close, unfortunately it was the fact that her friends were my friends and we were in a 'circle of friends'. It was getting closer to that time and then I did feel that she wasn't being as close to me as I was being to her, that should have been warning bells telling me to give it up. But i didn't. I tried to do more things for her to get her closer but the only thing I was getting closer to was the friendzone, that sealed my fate. Of course she said no and it caused me 3 weeks of hurt. Could it have been prevented? Yes! The fact she was my first crush and the first girl I ever asked out, there are a lot of improvements to work on...This happened 5 months ago. Guess I'm too much of a friend... Oh and we still talk, since we're 'best friends' now... Question. Why do you stay?
notsointerested Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Question. Why do you stay? Why did I stay as friends? Because she probably has friends to set me up with. Why did I stay to ask her out after continuous signs that she didn't like me? Because I was stupid, inexperienced and I liked her a lot.. I thought it would work out but it didn't and it failed badly.
Moonborn Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 u think if it was the other way round she would do that? I think you are missing his point.
smackie9 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 You lose your value when you: do everything for them, you message them 24 7, talk about intimate personal things, act jealous or get moody, let them cry on your shoulder, cuddle in bed (making no move for a kiss or sex), take weeks or months to ask them out, get obsessed with them, have many female friends and little to no bros, buy them gifts to win them over, are overly available to them.... You increase your value when you: have confidence in your self, you hit on them, and ask them out when you first meet them, don't get jealous when other guys are around them, pay little attention to them, are not too available to them, don't do favors for them, don't suck up to them, don't buy them gifts, don't pay their way, only respond to text that are flirty, keep messages short, be busy a lot, spend most of your time with your bros, focus on your own activities like play sports, working on cars, doing man stuff, show interest in other girls in front of them, post selfies with other girls, don't eagerly respond to them, keep cool and aloof.....it's not what you can do for them, but what they can do for you.
smackie9 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 ''Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option''. ^^^This will clear up most of your friend zoning issues. 4
Author Natsu21 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 You lose your value when you: do everything for them, you message them 24 7, talk about intimate personal things, act jealous or get moody, let them cry on your shoulder, cuddle in bed (making no move for a kiss or sex), take weeks or months to ask them out, get obsessed with them, have many female friends and little to no bros, buy them gifts to win them over, are overly available to them.... You increase your value when you: have confidence in your self, you hit on them, and ask them out when you first meet them, don't get jealous when other guys are around them, pay little attention to them, are not too available to them, don't do favors for them, don't suck up to them, don't buy them gifts, don't pay their way, only respond to text that are flirty, keep messages short, be busy a lot, spend most of your time with your bros, focus on your own activities like play sports, working on cars, doing man stuff, show interest in other girls in front of them, post selfies with other girls, don't eagerly respond to them, keep cool and aloof.....it's not what you can do for them, but what they can do for you. Disagree but agree... The idea with women is to not put them on a pedestal. As long as you do that, they'll see the value in you. Make them believe that you'll be fine without them, and it drives them nuts.
smackie9 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Hey I was one of the biggest friends zoner around. Just trying to give these guys a leg up with some do's and don'ts. 1
phineas Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Every woman who friendzoned me ended up sleeping with me when she realized I could care less if she slept with me or not & started getting with other women. I personally would NEVER be able to develop feelings for a woman such as the OP described but if she was hot i'd still bang her.
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELLLLL NO! You can be as morally upright as you want in this case, by turning the other cheek, but she won't respect you... She'll just think of you as a doormat sorry i dont understand pleaae explain
fred123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 ''Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option''. ^^^This will clear up most of your friend zoning issues. easier said then done. women will lie to men to make them think they wqnt them then friendzone them out the blue.
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I'll be alone forever. Goodbye to this ****ty website filled with ****ty people who give ****ty non advice. But that statement is true. We hate being put up on a pedestal or worshiped. We like to be treated equally like anyone else. If you have self worth, others will respect you.
Assasda Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Wow. You seem to me like a slimy piece of ****. But that's what today's women pine for. I dont think Busman gets it. hahahaha Has weird anger issues about it too. Anyway, I think you can still cuddlle, and let her cry on your shoulder, and be attentive to her. You just have to not be taken advantage of... in the long run. I 've never been friendzoned. Guys that get friendzoned, have the patience to hang around with the women they like for so long. Its strange to me 1
Assasda Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 easier said then done. women will lie to men to make them think they wqnt them then friendzone them out the blue. hahahahaha. you never get friendzone "out of the blue" it takes a long time to keep friendzoning a guy. Doesnt happen, "out the blue" bro 1
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 easier said then done. women will lie to men to make them think they wqnt them then friendzone them out the blue. The only way to know if they want you is when they are willing to have sex with you.
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