Marathonman911 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 My girl friend of about 7 months of steady very happy dating pulled the plug the morning after a nice hiking date - we had great sex that night and woke up happy in the morning. After I returned from church with out notice she dropped the gauntlet. What do you make of that?
Dork Vader Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Did she give you any reasons? It's hard to say what happened and why with such little information. I can gaurantee there was a reason and she was likely thinking about it for a while. People just don't end relationships out of no place for no reason. There is more going on here..
Trimmer Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 (edited) One possibility is that she had been thinking about it for a while, but was giving it her "best effort" over the last weeks to see if she would change her mind. Even that last hiking date that she seemed to engage in with enjoyment - it may have been almost a last straw kind of thing... NOT like she didn't genuinely enjoy it, but in the end, that may have been all it was - enjoyable - when she was looking for something more to spark her passion. (However realistic or unrealistic we may think that is...) I use that word - passion - because this reminds me of my ex-wife. A couple months before she decided to leave, she got extra passionate with me for a while. I think this was kind of a final phase of testing the relationship, a last gasp (in retrospect), which just didn't create enough of a spark to overcome all the built up junk that was already weighing her down. For a long time, I looked at it like I failed that final test, but I think in the long run, I now realize that the cards were stacked against me by then. By that point, I had already failed the test, and this was just her last effort to satisfy her conscience that she really did try. So even in those final hours she may not have been acting, per se, but the situation probably already had some inertia built up. Edited August 8, 2014 by Trimmer
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Can you think of anything that could have been said/done that has made her panic? x
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