RomanticGal Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 My ex keeps looking at my dating profile. We broke up three years ago. Many months ago on the same site he wrote me a note saying he was sorry for how it ended and wished me luck. Yet, he keeps looking at the profile. What's up with that?
me85 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Hmmmm...he's definitely curious and trying to come creeping back into your life. How do you feel about it?
Author RomanticGal Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 Don't know how I feel about it. Why bother after almost three years?
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 He's curious and fishing. He doesn't want to make the first move, so he keeps checking your profile KNOWING you see this and hoping you'll reach out. 1
Author RomanticGal Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 I at first thought the same thing. He wants me to contact him because he knows he hurt me. I do still have feelings for him. However, I am on the fence about contacting him. I have not been with anyone since him.
me85 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Time means nothing and everything at the same time. It doesn't always erase the past. Have you thought about him before he contacted you? Like, ever just thought about him?
Author RomanticGal Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 I think about him all the time. That is why I have not had another relationship. I have dated but just not comfortable being with someone else as I still think about him.
Author RomanticGal Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 People are telling me not to contact him. He had issues that caused the breakup-he didn't want to work on them. I tried to keep us together but he just bailed.
me85 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Sorry, I was posting my last reply the same time you were posting yours and did not see that you in fact do still love him. The fact that you haven't been involved in another serious RS since your ex says a lot. I'm in the same boat you're in, except I've only been BU with my ex a year. I too have dated but just can't 100% get over my ex. I haven't found a spark with anyone else. So you're not going to respond, then? What do you want to do?
Author RomanticGal Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 Part of me wants to contact him because, like you, I haven't found a spark with anyone else and I do still have feelings for him. Another part, the more rational part, feels that if he really did love me, he wouldn't have walked away. 1
me85 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Part of me wants to contact him because, like you, I haven't found a spark with anyone else and I do still have feelings for him. Another part, the more rational part, feels that if he really did love me, he wouldn't have walked away. I feel ya girl, I really do. That sums up how I feel. My ex bailed on me too and replaced me in the same week. Ouch ! But the jerk still contacts me. Always has. Always will. So why not just respond...a short response...? How long since he contacted you?
Author RomanticGal Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 That stinks! Why are they so heartless? Why does he still contact you? I am afraid to contact him. What if he's really not interested? I would feel more heartbroken. He emailed me in February to say he was sorry and wished me luck. I wrote back and accepted his apology and offered one of my own. But that was all I responded. He then looked at my profile on Valentine's Day. A week after that he clicked he wanted to meet me (which is an option on the site). I hadn't heard from him since then until his profile checks this week.
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 If he broke up with you, then steer clear. Let him make the first move, and even then, don't respond. If he broke up with you, he obviously didn't want to be with you, or wanted to be with someone else more. What's changed?? What is now any different than 3 years ago?? Better be something. Something big!!!
Author RomanticGal Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 It was a mutual breakup. We just had enough of the bull?*** that was happening between us and split up. Most of the bull was on his side and I had had enough.
irresolute Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Are you checking his profile as well? Or it's only him checking yours? My case: he checks my profile regularly. I guess until he'll get tired, because I'm not checking his. Not this time. I'm pretty sure he checks mine because he wants to know if I'm still available for him. In the meantime, he's dating someone else. why he just can't stop bothering me? why he doesn't let me alone? He wants to check on me. And this time I'll show him that he's not important at all, and even though I still can't let him go in my mind, I need for him to realize I'm not game anymore. And, most importantly, that he's lost me.
Author RomanticGal Posted August 10, 2014 Author Posted August 10, 2014 No, I don't look at his profile. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of letting him think he was still on my mind. Not only does he look at my profile, but whenever I change the text of it, such as I like such and such, he'll post a picture of himself doing just that???? I am sure he regrets what happened between us, but if he was interested in rekindling anything, why don't he just send me an email?? My advice to you, irresolute, is to stop looking at his social media. It will only bring you heartbreak.
Summerrose2013 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Honestly, it really sounds like a case of him just being nosey and/or interfering rather than wanting a reconciliation. If it was me, I would move to another dating website or block him if you can?
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