fnbdave Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I've been with my bf for 6 years now and what started out as awesome has slowly turned into what I think is incompatibility. He constantly tells me how "normal" people should be in a relationship and that he finds it weird that I am not like that. A lot of the things that I thought he liked about me from the beginning now seem to cause him stress all the time and he feels like I don't need to change, I just need to be normal like everyone else. Whenever I bring up the possibility that maybe he needs to go find a normal person for him to be in a relationship with and we should split up he blames me for being negative and going to a negative space. He thinks I just want to give up and throw in the towel. The fact is we argue about the same issue every 3 weeks for the last few years and its not changing. I deally he wants me to be this other person who acts normal to him and I can't seem to meet that. I feel guilty to break up with him because I feel like I am in the wrong for giving up like he says I am. What should I do? I just can't see myself repeating the same argument for years to come and having him call me not normal for the rest of my life. PS My friends think I am totally normal and that he is the problem but I still can't find myself to do it.
Philosoraptor Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Well he's stated he isn't happy with who you are naturally. If he's not happy with what you offer, and you don't want to change... then you've really only got one option that will lead to any sanity. You're not giving up though. If he is unwilling to love and appreciate you for who you are then you're giving both of you the chance to find someone more compatible.
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