missnessa85 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I have been with my now ex boyfriend for 5 and 1/2 years. It has been far from perfect but we both never stopped loving each other. I still hold some resentment for him cheating on me and have since felt insecure. We were living together up until a month ago when i asked him to move out because we fought too much. I dont think that was smart. Then on Monday i told him via text i wanted a break and to explore other options. Now, i do this all the time. And i know its a High School game to play to get the other one to pay more attention and work on things. It always worked before. This time, it backfired. I finally heard from him yesterday and he called just to see about getting the final things from the house. That was it I later texted him to talk but he was rude and said i broke his heart. That was it. This has never happened before (and we break up at least 3 times a month)...he has never just not contacted me. Does this mean its really over? Did he find someone else so soon? I feel so dumb playing a game instead of just talking to him. I think i may have lost him since he wont say a word. What should i do?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Does this mean its really over? No, but by that I mean this game you call a relationship. I'm sure you two will be back and breaking up together in no time. Did he find someone else so soon? Yes, but just to have sex with. I'm sure he'll get tired of that and be back with you shortly. What should i do? Move on. You don't have a real relationship to get back. So why keep holding onto whatever this thing you have with him is?
Author missnessa85 Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 (edited) Does this mean its really over? No, but by that I mean this game you call a relationship. I'm sure you two will be back and breaking up together in no time. Did he find someone else so soon? Yes, but just to have sex with. I'm sure he'll get tired of that and be back with you shortly. What should i do? Move on. You don't have a real relationship to get back. So why keep holding onto whatever this thing you have with him is? So because we didnt have a mature relationship it wasnt a real one? 5 and 1/2 years is a long time. How i feel for him is real. I have been there by his side for everything. But if he is able to just go out and have sex with someone else maybe its best i do move on. Edited August 7, 2014 by missnessa85
eching Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Honey, it seems as though for 5.5 years, the relationship you shared was not the healthiest or most stable. When you've been together with someone for so long, you're bound to have grown very close. The thing is, because you have these super strong feelings of attachment, they're not letting you let go of something that may not be working. While together, you fight and fight and fight to the point that you cannot live in the same place, and that is when your head is the most clear. When you are removed from each other, that is when the fantasy comes back. My advice, though it may be tough, is to end it.
Author missnessa85 Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 Honey, it seems as though for 5.5 years, the relationship you shared was not the healthiest or most stable. When you've been together with someone for so long, you're bound to have grown very close. The thing is, because you have these super strong feelings of attachment, they're not letting you let go of something that may not be working. While together, you fight and fight and fight to the point that you cannot live in the same place, and that is when your head is the most clear. When you are removed from each other, that is when the fantasy comes back. My advice, though it may be tough, is to end it. Your correct. After all these years we have grown apart, not closer.
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