pepsimax Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Hi, I met a guy through online dating in April. We met 4 times. He sometimes does the disappearing act. Lately he has been in touch again and calls and hasn't disappeared in a while but he won't make plans to meet and when i ask him he says we will definitely meet. Anyways, today i called him to find out what his story is coz it pisses me off that he says we will meet and we don't. He told me that he started seeing someone and that I am really cute and not to disappear on him now. I told him i am not the one that disappears. He mentioned that it's in the beginning and he doesn't know how it will go. Despite my age I still don't get guys and i am hurt. Why would he want to stay in touch???? Back up plan in case he gets dumped?? Hate being second priority or third or whatever...it hurts. Thanks
Zahara Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Yes, you're the back-up plan. Also, he does this because you allow it. 2
Assasda Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Come on, meet some other guy. Its definately not a good sign if he doesnt wanna meet 1
Dork Vader Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Hi, I met a guy through online dating in April. We met 4 times. He sometimes does the disappearing act. Lately he has been in touch again and calls and hasn't disappeared in a while but he won't make plans to meet and when i ask him he says we will definitely meet. Anyways, today i called him to find out what his story is coz it pisses me off that he says we will meet and we don't. He told me that he started seeing someone and that I am really cute and not to disappear on him now. I told him i am not the one that disappears. He mentioned that it's in the beginning and he doesn't know how it will go. Despite my age I still don't get guys and i am hurt. Why would he want to stay in touch???? Back up plan in case he gets dumped?? Hate being second priority or third or whatever...it hurts. Thanks Yeah move on the guy is not worth your time. He is basically saying "I met someone else. I'm more interested in her then you at the moment. But I'd like to keep you here on the side incase things don't work out." "BTW I enjoy talking to you when I am lonely and she's not around. So I'm going to give you just enough to keep you happy." If a guy really likes you from the get go. He is going to show it and he's not going to let opportunities to see you pass him up unless he has work/other plans. Find a guy that puts your FIRST. Guys like the one you are talking to.. They'll date you and have fun with you until something better comes a long. Once it does they are long gone. 1
RomanticGal Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 This guy is playing the field. He will continue to do this to you because he knows that he can. He's trouble. Walk away! 1
Author pepsimax Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 Thanks for the replies. I agree with all your comments. I don't want to be put second , third or wherever i am on his list. It hurts and I know I deserve someone who puts me first and wants to see me and be with me! I am definitely, not waiting for him...at least no more
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