jinjin113 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I'm just curious how other people feel about this. I don't ever feel like my boyfriend is hiding his phone from me or sneaking contact with other women he shouldn't be having or anything like that. But, we both have iphones and both had the passcode locks on our phones. So, because I never explicitly ask to see his phone or demand he let me use it, it basically usually sits face up on a table somewhere with the passcode lock on. I see a lot of people on here worried about their significant other hiding their phones from them. I'm just curious what constitutes hiding? Do you only feel comfortable if the other person gives you access to their phone? Do you ask for it? I personally have the passcode on there because of my camera roll. I am ashamed to admit it, but I take a fair amount of selfies....and some sexy pictures of myself (to send to him, but as any girl knows, it takes numerous takes to get one we're satisfied with). I would be so embarrassed if anyone (including him) saw those. I'm afraid I would seem vain and immature (which it is). Anyway, just explaining why I use the passcode. Also, I have a toddler and wouldn't want her messing with my phone.
d0nnivain Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 If you trust your SO, the number of passwords on anything is ridiculous. Don't get overly excited about it. Many times on boards like these you only hear the bad stuff. More people post to complain. 1
longjohn Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I'd worry if it where always facedown, hidden out of sight, always in their pocket, being whipped away as you enter the room or get close. I always leave mine face up too and it's always locked just in case it's lost or stolen. If asked by a gf I'd let them see it and/or have the code should they need to use it for anything e.g. hotspot.
Author jinjin113 Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 No, no I don't think he's cheating and I don't think he's hiding his phone from me, but I see people on here talking about their bf/gf hiding their phones from them. I'm just wondering what this means to different people. Like maybe someone in my situation would consider what my bf and I do to be hiding. We both leave it face up laying around and don't freak out if say the other person hits the home button to check the time or something. But, even if I were to directly ask him to use his phone and he hesitated, I don't think I would think anything of it. Honestly, I'd be a bit hesitant myself but only because I'd be afraid he'd pull up safari and see that I was googling some weird health question or something. Maybe I just get embarrassed too easily.
ktya Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 My ex used to have an obsession with going through my electronic devices, email, Facebook, tablet, you name it. She knew all my codes and I didn't really care. Until... Her obsession started infuriating me. Being grilled about segments of your personal online diary, Google searches and drunken unsent and deleted emails, why you talked to this or that girl and why is not fun. I changed all of my pass codes on everything to stop the madness. It drove her insane because now she felt certain that I had something to hide, even though I plainly told her what i.was doing and why after yet another argument over her crossing the line. We broke up a few months later, and she was still trolling my email for months afterwards because I never got around to changing that one as my computer downloads and removes everything periodically. I'm also seeing this girl who has a boyfriend (let's not get into that lol) who before they even had a label woke up in the middle of the night to scour through her phone but keeps a death grip on his own and never leaves it out. Now that they have moved in together he is going through her mail, email, computer, you name it. Obviously it isn't doing him any favors, she's coming over for nookie in a couple weeks.
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