Akynos Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Hello ! So I have this female friend with whom I am quite close, but I am not sure of her intentions. I said I wanted us to be close friends, but I get the feeling that she is flirting ( and maybe I am unconsciously flirting too). She is quite shy, prude and not very talkative. She also has a LDR boyfriend for a couple of years but told me she didn't know if she still loved him ( and apparently she rarely sees/talks to him anymore). Could you guys tell me what you think? Here are the details of our latest evening together. -She hinted she had a lot to do, but told me she came anyway because of me -When I tease her playfully she always slaps me gently -She grabs my arm every time she teases me -I think she often looks at me even when we're not talking -She sits close to me and likes to toy with my forearm ( poke and such) -Sometimes even grab my hand/fingers for a second or two -I often initiate hugs, but I feel they are just friendly hugs. However she always like holds my hand which is on her shoulder when I do and rests her head on my shoulder. -Laughs a lot, but I can crack decent jokes that everyone will laugh at - I don't know if this matters, but her eyes sometimes seem large and wet? Like with lots of lighting reflections? -She's also super shy, likes to listen rather than talk and hates to touch strangers. Also I'll be going abroad to the US for ten months and she showed me she was really hurt by that... Thanks dudes and dudettes, Cheers from Wales !
Assasda Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 These are the tell tale signs that she's in love with you man. Especially, the pupils dilating. Thats an involuntary sign. When that happens, you can do anything with that girl and get away with it. You can kiss her, you could probably take her home and have sex with her. - That was the biggest sign of all 1
Author Akynos Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 Thanks for the answer man. I don't know if her pupils were dilated though, but I remember thinking that she had large shiny eyes ( while looking up at my eyes). But could it be possible at all that despite all these signs she just wants friendship?
phineas Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 LTR? eject. If you wern't going away and she got too close i'd tell her to dump her boyfriend then we can talk. but since you are going away do you really want to be the no-strings attached guy she cheats on her BF with?
Dork Vader Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Okay so here is the deal... Be going 10 months and just starting a relationship is going to be a VERY bad idea. That said she clearly likes you more then a friend. I do NONE of that with my friends. I mean NONE of it with any of my female friends. If you want to explore a relationship with her do it AFTER you get back from your 10 month trip to the America's. My only some what concern is that she might find someone else while you are gone. But there is not a whole lot you can do about that. I'm unsure if telling her you like her and would like to explore a relationship with her when you get back is a good or bad idea.
Author Akynos Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 Well I don't want to be in a relationship with her since I'll be off for a few months. However I care a lot about the girl and her feelings as she is a good friend, but I feel that asking her about how she feels towards me would be inappropriate ( and she probably wouldnt be honest, shy as she is). In fact, I think that she keeps her LDR boyfriend to discourage the pain of considering a potential relationship between us.
Assasda Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Good job, do not ask how she feels about you. Thats a silly question
fifipheebs Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 she fancies you loads. i am shy by nature and i do some of those things to clue the guy that i fancy him. classic tell-tale signs. if you make a move on her, theres a good chance it'll be positive.
Beachead Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 (edited) She definitely likes you. Sucks for her long distance boyfriend but that's the way life goes sometimes. There are 2 things you could do. 1. Explore the feelings before you leave and know for sure how she feels. You two can figure out a solution together then. 2. Don't do anything and maintain friendship, seeing how you are leaving for almost a year. It'll be that much more painful to leave once things start up. IMO, relationships can only survive long distance once both parties have explored their feelings and have gotten to know eachother pretty well to the point of comfort. It takes time. If you start relationship and disappear for a year, both of you are going to hold eachother back but with friendship, there wouldn't be the kind of pressures or expectations that exist once a relationship has started. Goodluck Beachead Edited August 8, 2014 by Beachead
Author Akynos Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 In the hope that I didn't solely pick up on one side of the signs, I'll assume she isn't just overly friendly then Thanks a lot for all your contribution. Guess we'll see what happens when I get back from my trip abroad !
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