Panatana90 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Was thinking of travelling the States for three months, maybe in the new year. Has anyone ever done anything like this? Was thinking it could be good for my head and I would get to see a lot of cool things. Only problem would be work and time off. I figure I'll never get to do something like this again and can only do it when I'm young (i'm 24). Is it worth leaving/jepordising a decent job?
writergal Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Traveling the world is the best cure for any heartbreak or life-rut. And since you're a young 24, well, don't pass up the opportunity. There are plenty of great jobs out there for you. And you never know, you may decide to relocate to one of the cities you travel to and that could easily happen if you have even a little bit of savings. When I was 25 I spent a year abroad in southern China, to teach at a university and it was a fantastic year of experiences and adventures that I'll never forget. 1
redbaron005 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 (edited) Was thinking of travelling the States for three months, maybe in the new year. Has anyone ever done anything like this? Was thinking it could be good for my head and I would get to see a lot of cool things. Only problem would be work and time off. I figure I'll never get to do something like this again and can only do it when I'm young (i'm 24). Is it worth leaving/jepordising a decent job? Yes its absolutely worth leaving a decent job. However, I think traveling only makes you have a better sense of who you are and develop a greater perspective on life. The degree to which these help you aid heartbreak depends on the attitude and dedication you bring to the healing process. Happy travels! Edited August 7, 2014 by redbaron005
Chi townD Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Dude, I've been around the world and back. Definitely helps the heartache. You're in new surroundings and around people that don't know your situation. There's normally nothing around there that's going to remind you of your Ex versus all the places around where you live and you find yourself not saying, "Oh, there's the park where we had a picnic. There's the restaurant we always ate at. There's the movie theater I took her on our third date." Those triggers are gone. 2
Justsimplyliving Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I hope that it is going to help me. I am fresh out of a break up and I just decided I needed sometime somewhere tropical to work on myself and relax. I really hope the sound and the feel of the ocean is going to make me feel much better. I highly suggest it.
shoegal4 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Absolutely. Travel, travel, travel. See as much of the world as you can. It will help clear your mind and you will meet a lot of people. Some with problems worse than yours - and it can put a lot into perspective. P.S. Can you take me with you??? LOLOLOL
Chi townD Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 As a matter of fact, Michael93 is currently in Venice at the moment enjoying Italy. Can't wait for him to come back and tell us about his trip! I also want to find out if he found traveling to Italy was therapeutic to his healing.
shoegal4 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Chi townD - that's right!! I can't wait to hear either.
guest569 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Personally I would heal a bit first. You don't want your holiday to be a waste because you're miserable as I was after my breakup. And I would definitely not leave a good job.
NC-Thomas Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Definately man! Im going to Vancouver today, been to germany and portugal all in 2 months post BU. I felt like brand new. New people, new environment. Just felt like I left my BU at home. Go and see the world! There is more to your ex! PS: i wouldnt leave my job for it though, unless I would work at McDonalds.
Transplant Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 I would certainly suggest it - after my nasty breakup I ended up moving 9000 away and it aided in the healing process. However, the closer the travel is to the breakup heightens the chance of random stimuli that will inevitably trigger various memories...those are nearly impossible to rid yourself from, at least in the interim. You're young; do it!
Chi townD Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 I will admit. If you make a trip very soon after a break up. You're mind might wander a bit thinking "WOW! Look at that! You know he/she would have loved to see that!" or "Look at that car! I really want to snap a pic of that and send it to the Ex. He would have loved to see that!" or "Wow! Look at that chocolate cake! It's not cake, it's a piece of art! I hate to cut into that and ruin it. My Ex, she was a chocolate lover. She would have liked this." That happens. But, the more trips you take, the less it happens. You discover that these adventures are yours. Not his or hers. He/she had a chance to experience these things but they decided to take a different path. OH WELL!!! Their loss! 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 (edited) Yeah. That's what I like about it. It's all yours. You're not forced to share it with the ex. Well, beyond your own mind anyway... Go for it!! I love travelling. And travelling by yourself is great. You will meet so many interesting people along the way and you only have to be accountable to yourself. No one else to ask permission of... Oh, and you can travel beyond your early twenties too!! I'm double that and travel frequently. Just got back into teaching again, so summers are open season!! I plan to hit Europe again and Asia both by 2016... And after that, who knows? Maybe Africa or Australia. Done the Latin thing to death already. Edited August 8, 2014 by mtnbiker3000 1
shoegal4 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 I took a trip to Punta Cana in the Dominican Republic this month and it did loads for my mental state and self esteem. Just talking to different people and knowing their stories. Met a nice guy down there and barely thought about my ex. Which is weird to think about considering I spent 10 minutes in the bathroom the first night I was there crying and feeling sad over everything. Then boom, I met my guy the next day. Works wonders.
Chi townD Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Last trip I took was to France and Spain. Spent more time in Spain and the Food was AMAZING!!! I didn't think that Spaniards were known for their wine, but the wine in the Basque Country in Spain has the SWEETEST wine you will ever taste. Perfectly balanced with it's sweetness and the bite from the alcohol. Nicest people I've ever met was in Norway. EVERYONE in Norway is nice. And a close second is Japan. The Japanese are extremely nice and respectful. Hard to believe we were at war with them 60+ years ago. The most shy people were in China for me. Korean's were okay can't say too much about them. The English were damn near Americans just with accents. So, very easy to get along with when I visited London, Brighton and Dover. The Irish are a little leery when they first meet you. But, when they warm up to you, they're the craziest and most funny people you will ever meet when I was in Dublin and Ennis. In Brazil, people just keep to themselves for the most part. And German's are like American's as well. You just can understand what they're saying! Italians are a little rude, but the country is so beautiful! Rome is AMAZING! The Bahamas and Jamaica, well they're tourist traps, But come on! Beautiful Island paradises! Damn you people! You got me going again. I'll shut up now. 2
Author Panatana90 Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 Thanks for the advice, everyone. It's something I really want to do and feel it would benefit me greatly. However, my main concern is to do with my job. I have a 'career' job where I make ok money, just don't know how my boss would react if I asked him for such a long time off. Is it worth the risk? I have worked at this place for two years.
shoegal4 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 That's up to you. Job security is wonderful but rich life experiences are priceless. Talk to your boss about it. You never know what could happen. Think about how you will feel sitting at your desk six months from now. Would you rather still be there, wondering what if or having loads of good experiences under your belt? Jobs come and go....you can wait tables in the meantime! LOL
Chi townD Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 All the traveling I've done, I've never did it over the loss of my career or my job. Three months is a bit extreme. Your boss can easily replace you. And you don't want to lose a good thing. You just have to learn how to work the system. For instance, I really wanted to go to the Bahamas, but I didn't want to chew up too many of my vacation days. So, I thought about Thanksgiving day in the states. On Thanksgiving, I stayed and had Thanksgiving with my family That evening I was at the airport taking a flight to Nassau. I got in about 10 pm when I checked in my resort. The club was still jumping, so I spent the remaining evening in there. The next day was black Friday back home so people were off from work anyway, so it didn't count against me. My job automatically had weekends off (so, that didn't count against me) and then I gave myself three vacation days. Monday through Wednesday and back on Thursday. Almost a full week off and it only cost me three of my vacation days. You just have to learn to work the system. Where did you want to go in the States anyway?
Iris17 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Broke up with my bf recently and planning to travel too. It is something I wanted to do a long time ago and now is the chance. Abit scared that I won't enjoy it as much because I came out of a break up. I'm going alone but will meet some friends in some countries. Also afraid that when I travel alone I might start missing him and start crying into the middle of the jungle somewhere
writergal Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 OP, ask your boss if you could take some personal time off for 3 months. Ask if you can hire a temporary employee to do your job while you're gone (if that's possible). It's clear that you *want* to travel. Well, then I think, why not take the opportunity? 2 years is long enough for you to have built up trust and respect from your boss, and long enough for you to ask for the time off. 3 months isn't that long in the grand scheme of things. Plus, women take twice that amount of time off from work here in the U.S. for maternity leave. If you live in Europe, you'd already have 6 weeks of vacation - that's half of your 3 months you say that you need tot take off. Sad isn't it, that U.S. companies are so rigid with vacation days they divy out (oooh 2 weeks, that's so much! *not*). Life is short. If you want to take a 3 month vacation now, then I think you should seize the opportunity to do it. Ask if you can get the time off. If you really want to stay at your company and are too afraid to ask for 3 months, ask for 1 month or 3 weeks and see what your boss says. Start there. There's no harm in asking. The worst your boss can say is no. And then you need to decide what's more important to you: the job, or some life changing travel?
Author Panatana90 Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 Well due to current circumstances such as work, family and money, I wouldn't be going until around end of next May. At least this means I will have more time with the company. I really hope I can pull it off. I still live at home with my folks (sad I know at 24, but all my friends still do - it's a money thing) and my dad is the kind of person who would shoot down the idea of me travelling. He would call me a fool for potentially threatening my job and would maybe even kick me out of the house. So there's that too.
writergal Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Ah, well since you live at home this means you have until next May to really save a hefty amount from your biweekly paychecks for your planned travels. As for your dad's opinion, that shouldn't really hold any power over you. Yes, you live at home, but maybe it's a blessing in disguise that you do. Now you can save a LOT more money b/c you don't have to pay a monthly rent payment. And next May 2015? A lot could happen between now and then with your life. Still, travel is good for the soul. So keep that in mind.
me85 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Last trip I took was to France and Spain. Spent more time in Spain and the Food was AMAZING!!! I didn't think that Spaniards were known for their wine, but the wine in the Basque Country in Spain has the SWEETEST wine you will ever taste. Perfectly balanced with it's sweetness and the bite from the alcohol. Nicest people I've ever met was in Norway. EVERYONE in Norway is nice. And a close second is Japan. The Japanese are extremely nice and respectful. Hard to believe we were at war with them 60+ years ago. The most shy people were in China for me. Korean's were okay can't say too much about them. The English were damn near Americans just with accents. So, very easy to get along with when I visited London, Brighton and Dover. The Irish are a little leery when they first meet you. But, when they warm up to you, they're the craziest and most funny people you will ever meet when I was in Dublin and Ennis. In Brazil, people just keep to themselves for the most part. And German's are like American's as well. You just can understand what they're saying! Italians are a little rude, but the country is so beautiful! Rome is AMAZING! The Bahamas and Jamaica, well they're tourist traps, But come on! Beautiful Island paradises! Damn you people! You got me going again. I'll shut up now. I. love. you.
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