cappy81 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 after 6 months...he just disappeared had a convo about possibly progressing the relationship....said he had some concerns (our personalities etc) and that he just needed some time to think...said a couple days.... the convo was open, and raw...no crying/fighting..just very raw. that was a week ago. since then i reached out once (at the 5 day mark) to ask how his weekend went..he replied, said it was good he had fun...that was it didnt bring up what we had to talk about didnt ask me how I am and since then..nothing either... i dont know how to approach this....what the best thing to do now is...yes i know "experts" will say, cut your losses. some will say, dont text him, it looks needy. will texting him really make me look needy? is it ok to reach out and say, hey, ive given our last convo a lot of thought can we talk tonite..or whatnot? up until THIS point..this man has had no problems telling me what he likes, doesnt like..hes been overall open with me...so its a bit shocking he just disappeared like this... the only other thing i can add is that in 6 months i can tell you that i know he does like me..he has feelings for sure but we haven't progressed very fast...he assured me he still has feelings and he did think about the future and things like marriage, kids etc (hes 38)...and he openly said he's not seeing anyone else... anyone with thoughts?
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Things are usually not how they seem. Your views and thoughts of him and how he feels about you may be incorrect. People just don't disappear on someone they care about. My guess is, even tough you think he did, he didn't care... And that sucks. Sorry
Author cappy81 Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 you are likely right... i didnt make it up in my head however, i went off of what he said to me and how he treated me when we were together...i believed he did care but i suppose you are right...
Zahara Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 is it ok to reach out and say, hey, ive given our last convo a lot of thought can we talk tonite..or whatnot? Obviously he hasn't given it the thought and care that you've invested. There is no need to reach out. Silence is a response. A very clear one, infact. It's not uncommon for someone to promise you the moon and the stars, all talk and fluff but when time comes to put words into action, they're gone. I have to think the honeymoon period is over and now that effort and commitment has to come into play to help progress the relationship, he doesn't have that to give or isn't able to provide you with what you desire. 1
Candice Luna Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 If I were you, I'd take that as a slap on the face. I would reach out to him, yes, but to write something like "Hi, I gave this a lot of thought and I'm ready to move on. I want someone who will communicate to me and not disappear on me when things get tough. Just wanted to let you know, byebye" But that's just me. I can't stand being with a guy I've dated for 6 months who doesn't need to talk to me for a whole week. 2
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