harvej Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 Long story shirt. She got cold feet after telling me she lived me etc..said she wanted to be friends. K own her 6 years. I said, friends is fine and went NC to heal faster. I have not heard from her since. I expected to hear something even as a friend about how I am doing or some type of reach out, but zip! Nothing. I am remaining NC but sort of pissed that she pursued me and literally dumped me by text but begged to remain friends. I don't mind remaining friends as I have since realized she isn't long term potential, but cannot get my head around her silence. She is a severely emotional woman with a past of a bad marriage of 27 years and all her relationships have failed regarding jealousy on her end. Remain NC and write her off as a friend even as I heal? A friend calls.
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 NC is not a way to make the other person miss you & then come chasing after you. It's a way for you to heal & forget about the them. 3
love1336x Posted July 13, 2014 Posted July 13, 2014 She won't see it as a friend call. She will see it as a man she dumped trying to reach out to her. Stay On NC... You do not need her. Her problems are no longer yours to worry about.
Author harvej Posted August 6, 2014 Author Posted August 6, 2014 (edited) Ex broke up with me saying she wasn't ready for a relationship ,because of her healing issues about her past marriage which broke up after 27 years. Begged me to remain friends and not disappear or go no contact, and said she wasn't interested in other men and wasn't ready to date. Turns out the guy she used to bike and hike with who she said was married, wasn't. They are now dating and posting thru a mutual friend on Facebook together. So I was lied too. I deleted her number and all contact with her and want advice on what to do if anything, and how to get over this treatment, as I was really good to her and she begged to remain friends. I got talked out of no contact and now just got sucker punched. I would have been healed by niw much more had i did NC. Painful and anger is all consuming right now. Anybody have this happen to them? Best way to deal with it? Edited August 6, 2014 by harvej
Author harvej Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 (edited) Ex broke up with me saying she wasn't ready for a relationship ,because of her healing issues about her past marriage which broke up after 27 years. Begged me to remain friends and not disappear or go "no contact" as she knew that I knew of this method for healing and getting away from a broken relationship, and said she wasn't interested in other men and wasn't ready to date. Turns out the guy she used to bike and hike with who she said was married, wasn't. They are now dating and posting thru a mutual friend on Facebook together. So I was lied too. I deleted her number and all contact with her and want advice on what to do if anything, and how to get over this treatment, as I was really good to her and she begged to remain friends. I got talked out of no contact and now just got sucker punched. I would have been healed by niw much more had i did NC. Painful and anger is all consuming right now. Anybody have this happen to them? Best way to deal with it? Edited August 8, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Reels Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Leave her, she was just trying to keep you as one of her asset.
Mary Oak Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 What do you feel your options are at this point ?
GoBlue Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I understand your feelings of anger and betrayal. They are normal, but just because you didn't go NC wouldn't mean that this revelation would be less painful. The best way to deal with it is to be honest with yourself. She made a choice and you can't do anything to change that. Accept where it is and move forward one day at a time. Healing will come - especially if you have a support group of friends to be with. I know one thing from personal experience, isolation is a killer at times like this. Sorry for your pain. Blessings on you!
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