Wellington Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Okay, so, the guy Im seeing is all over the map with words, actions..... We have known each other for a LONG time and have recently decided to test the waters. He took me away for my birthday. Pulled out all the stops. Fancy hotel, fancy dinner, romantic walk the works. Then it's like Mr. Hyde came out the next morning. He actually started talking about other women and flirting with the attractive waitress, and joking that maybe he would stay an extra night, get her number, take her out. I thought he was kidding, but then he started acting like a total Dbag. Like literally gawking and making eyes at this chick who was making eyes back!!! I was almost in tears (held it together) but insisted he stay and have a good time and I would make my way home on my own. He just laughed like it was all a big joke and we left town. Car ride home was ok. He gave me a huge hug and I avoided the kiss, texted me a couple of hours later,saying he had the best time. I haven't responded. Wth happened to my friend? I thought things would be great considering we have been so close for so long. I don't get the Jekyll and Hyde routine....
mammasita Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Have you slept with him? What do you mean by test the waters? It seems like because you were friends you might have to define things a bit more for him. Men can be a bit dense sometimes....or he could just be a total douche. What's his history with women? Are you kidding yourself into thinking he'll treat you better than any of his past conquests (hypothetically speaking since I don't know your answer yet)....?
Dork Vader Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Any guy that is truly interested in you would not do that. He might be thinking you two are still friends. I've done things like that for female friends. I was not sleeping with them and it was still a platonic friendship. Was he leading on that it was more then friendship? If not he still thinks it's friendship. He might view your entire arrangement as casual dating and exploring the waters. Which in his mind makes him think dating other women is still okay. which it sort of is.. But come on what kind of D-bag would do that kind of thing around a woman they are "dating" or "testing the waters" with. I'd move on..
Author Wellington Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 Yes, we slept together a few times now. He has always been a sweetheart, apparently has had it for me since high school. He and I have a great history and this "dating" thing is new by about 4weeks. I mean, why take me away, do all of this for me, then act like a total douche? He acted like a complete jerk. A side of him that I have never seen before when we were just friends. Serious effort to turn me off??? It worked.
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 Okay, so, the guy Im seeing is all over the map with words, actions..... We have known each other for a LONG time and have recently decided to test the waters. He took me away for my birthday. Pulled out all the stops. Fancy hotel, fancy dinner, romantic walk the works. Then it's like Mr. Hyde came out the next morning. He actually started talking about other women and flirting with the attractive waitress, and joking that maybe he would stay an extra night, get her number, take her out. I thought he was kidding, but then he started acting like a total Dbag. Like literally gawking and making eyes at this chick who was making eyes back!!! I was almost in tears (held it together) but insisted he stay and have a good time and I would make my way home on my own. He just laughed like it was all a big joke and we left town. Car ride home was ok. He gave me a huge hug and I avoided the kiss, texted me a couple of hours later,saying he had the best time. I haven't responded. Wth happened to my friend? I thought things would be great considering we have been so close for so long. I don't get the Jekyll and Hyde routine.... I'm assuming you didn't put out that night. So he's probably feeling like he wasted hundreds of dollars on you, and was trying to get back at you and show his anger/disappointment by flirting with the waitress.
Assasda Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I'm assuming you didn't put out that night. So he's probably feeling like he wasted hundreds of dollars on you, and was trying to get back at you and show his anger/disappointment by flirting with the waitress. I think it was that, or OP didnt show him any affection back. So the guy was just spending all this money on you, and youre just taking it, and ating friendly with him, and stand-offish -So he decides that he'll have his own fun for the night. Ofcourse I could be wrong.
preraph Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 He might have been trying to get a rise out of you. Since you've known him forever, you have to sit him down and say WTF was that all about? You take me out, show me a great time, and then start talking to me about hitting on other women? It was out of character for you -- or am I just now getting to know the real you. Apparently he may view you as FWB.
Author Wellington Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 I asked him flat out..."is this some sort of test"?!?!?! "Are you waiting for me to freak out"?? "If you really want to stay and ask that chick out, go for it". He just laughed like it was a big joke. It was like a huge game. A whole side I have never seen before. He even had the nerve to recount stories of old girlfriends too. Who he was in LOVE with etc. it was just so inappropriate. It was like he was totally bipolar. I just wanted to run in the opposite direction. Only reason I didn't was because in all the years I have known him, he was never like that. As for "putting out the night before". I totally did. The night before was fantastic, then I woke up to a wannabe gigolo.
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