xxJuliexx Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 It's confusing to me how this piece of crap get girls that are supposedly "decent" when he's an alcoholic, he says he does coke "occasionally" hmm , he can't hold a job, all he does is talk bad about people, he's vindictive, he has a horrible history with women and was even violent with his ex. He is extremely confident, but still he's not that nice and he is just trash. I am a decent girl and for the life of me I can't find a decent guy, I don't get how he has these pretty women that fall for him when he is such a loser. He doesn't have a car, and he doesn't even have his own apartment, etc. And he's like 28 years old. I'm 22 and I have my own car, and I am living with 3 other room mates in an apartment. According to him this new girl he has doesn't swear, doesn't smoke, doesn't drink....so she's a very good girl and an angel basically, then why in the hell is she with him? If she's such a "good girl" and "decent" Then how could she relate to a person like him? I am decent girl and I didn't fall for his crap. I am very giving and loving, but even though I liked him I knew there would be nothing that would come of the relationship because I am on a completely different path and I am NOT like him, and I knew how much of a bad person he was so I knew it wouldn't work out, so I don't get how these "decent" women don't see it too? Or is there more to the story with women like that? Maybe they're not decent for all I know. I don't get it why a girl like me gets losers and he gets decent girls. Makes no sense!
HappyLove Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 "He is extremely confident" BINGO! Oh, and the women are probably desperate and like "bad boys". Who cares at least he's not your problem! You can't win sometimes because the good guys fall for psycho crazy women too while the good girls stay single. 8
TouchedByViolet Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 So before getting to know him you found him attractive? Is he just physically good looking?
carhill Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I recall one male friend, now deceased, who could charm the pants off nearly any woman, married or single and I watched him do it, occasionally right in front of the lady's husband. The key was he was both charming and confident and was easy enough on the eyes to stimulate the nether regions of those he targeted. Ultimately, his habits (smoking and drinking, mostly), along with being mentally ill, likely killed him but it was spectacular to watch him work the ladies. He simply had no fear, of anything. 'Nice' women were like lambs to the slaughter. IIRC, he was on his fourth M when he died at 50. That's how it goes! 3
Author xxJuliexx Posted August 6, 2014 Author Posted August 6, 2014 So before getting to know him you found him attractive? Is he just physically good looking? No at first I thought he was funny, so I was attracted to his sense of humor, cause he is honestly not a good looking guy at all. He's 28 but looks like he's 40 years old and has yellow teeth cause they are rotting out from all the drugs he's doing. I am not trying to sound mean, I feel bad even saying it bad like that, but it is what it is. I am just telling it like it is. That adds to my confusion why women go for him, cause he literally has nothing to offer looks wise, money wise, luxuries wise, personality wise. He has nothing. I liked him a little bit but it was only cause of his personality for a split second , the third time I hung out with him his personality turned me and made me sick, cause he's actually obnoxious and cruel. He talks bad about women and people in general, he was violent with his ex, and had her in the hospital that's how badly he beat her. He doesn't have his own place, he lives with his mom, he doesn't even have his own car! The guy is a bum but he has these working women, who are supposedly "decent" fall for him? I don't know what it is? To be honest, it confuses me, and it makes me angry cause I am decent girl and I can't get a decent guy for the life of me, but this loser can get a good girl. Unless they aren't good girls.
Author xxJuliexx Posted August 6, 2014 Author Posted August 6, 2014 I recall one male friend, now deceased, who could charm the pants off nearly any woman, married or single and I watched him do it, occasionally right in front of the lady's husband. The key was he was both charming and confident and was easy enough on the eyes to stimulate the nether regions of those he targeted. Ultimately, his habits (smoking and drinking, mostly), along with being mentally ill, likely killed him but it was spectacular to watch him work the ladies. He simply had no fear, of anything. 'Nice' women were like lambs to the slaughter. IIRC, he was on his fourth M when he died at 50. That's how it goes! Oh my! I am so sorry about your friend's passing! That is so sad!
Author xxJuliexx Posted August 6, 2014 Author Posted August 6, 2014 "He is extremely confident" BINGO! Oh, and the women are probably desperate and like "bad boys". Who cares at least he's not your problem! You can't win sometimes because the good guys fall for psycho crazy women too while the good girls stay single. That's what I was thinking, that they were desperate. Cause I can't think of any other logical reason lol. It confuses me, and makes me angry cause I am decent girl, yet I can't get a guy for the life of me, but yet this loser does, makes no sense. Thank you.
gaius Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 There's so few guys that know what they're doing anymore that even a guy that's a disaster like that can do pretty well if he does. 1
Woggle Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Not saying all women are attracted to guys like this because that isn't true but I have never seen a man like this struggle with women. I can't figure it out either but people in general seem to like crap.
GemmaUK Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Why are you so bothered? Let these women and him do whatever they want. Why does it affect you so much?
Tayken Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I guess it's true that "women like a bad boy" Tongue in cheek of course. Perhaps this guy is a smooth operator, or that these women don't see all the things you have mentioned? Also, at your age group it's all about looks isn't it?
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Why are you so bothered? Let these women and him do whatever they want. Why does it affect you so much? Annnd speaking of the devil, there's one now... I'll let you guys fight it out...don't get too upset OP, you'll see this the rest of your life, and of course...no woman will step forward and admits she does, when/If she does/did. 1
oldshirt Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Sounds to me like you have the hots for him and wish you could ride him like a stolen horse yourself. I think what is giving you angst here is not why they are attracted to him because you know darn well why. What's giving you fits is you are letting these other things stop you from tearing his clothes off but they aren't letting those issues stop them. You're jealous of their lack of restraint. 4
GemmaUK Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Also, at your age group it's all about looks isn't it? I find this quite amusing... I'm 45 and I get approached in real life and contacted online by men from 26 up to 74 (so far). The younger ones are interested in me for me 'as well as' how I look. The older ones (shockingly from 42 upwards) would rather I have no brain or opinions of my own (and tell me so). Why?? I would date them if they weren't so damn shallow! It's tedious!
pteromom Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 The women are either rescuers (they believe that their affection can turn him away from drugs and magically make him nice), they had daddies who were absent, druggies, or alcoholics and they are trying for a re-do with this guy, or they have such low self-esteem that they believe this is the best they can do. Either way, it isn't your problem. Forget this guy and go find someone great - with nice teeth. Nice teeth are very important. 3
GemmaUK Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Annnd speaking of the devil, there's one now... I'll let you guys fight it out...don't get too upset OP, you'll see this the rest of your life, and of course...no woman will step forward and admits she does, when/If she does/did. I honestly don't get it and why to even think about it et alone post or be angry about it as the OP mentioned she is?? Sorry if I am the devil for whatever reason....which I honestly don;t understand either? *feeble smile....not 'getting it*
Dork Vader Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Not that I'm doubting you.. But if you're such an awesome catch why were you even with him? If he is such a D-bag and loser why do you care? Your post doesn't make a ton of sense to me.. Do you do coke as well? Do you dabble in other drugs? Even if you do not if you hang around people that do you're going to send the "good" guys running. Just saying..
GemmaUK Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Not that I'm doubting you.. But if you're such an awesome catch why were you even with him? If he is such a D-bag and loser why do you care? Which is where I was coming from.....I'm well confused! To the point where I am wondering if xxJuliexx might be xxJohnxx in the real world and is the nice guy/good guy (there is a huge difference) who got trumped ....sorry OP, I mean no offence to you...tis but a thought. 1
BlueIris Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 It’s one thing if you know from some outside source that he’s had all of these women and that they were wonderful people. But if your only source of information is him? Pfft... I wouldn’t believe it. Maybe a couple flukes, but so many people lie about their pasts and their ex's and their prowess, I take it with a handful of salt. There are people like Carhill described, here and there, but even they haven't had as astounding ex's as they usually describe. 2
No Limit Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I actually just enjoy to watch the show these kind of couples usually make of themselves. I also remember a post in another forum where a guy wrote proudly how he had learnde how to get nearly every woman he wants into bed. The rest of his post was more narcisstic crap ending with "but I just can't find the right one". Life as a smooth talker must be so hard.
stillafool Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 That's what I was thinking, that they were desperate. Cause I can't think of any other logical reason lol. It confuses me, and makes me angry cause I am decent girl, yet I can't get a guy for the life of me, but yet this loser does, makes no sense. Thank you. Do any of your girl friends date nice guys? You just have to keep looking for them. Also you can't compare a woman's experience with that of a man. Maybe there are just more nice girls (in your area) than guys. Also remember one woman's trash is another woman's treasure. Regardless of what you say this guy must have something.
marcjb Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I'm just wondering why a thread was created about this guy that you apparently claim not to be interested in because he's so horrible. How many "nice" guys have you dated OP, or do you continually go for the bad ones even though you claim otherwise?
hoping2heal Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Doesn't smoke, doesn't swear, and doesn't drink really doesn't mean a whole lot. Doesn't make them "good" or "decent" people on that alone. If their aspirations for men are alcoholics with a coke habit, they probably aren't too bright. Damn, I can be so bitchy sometimes. 2
todreaminblue Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I have often been told by parents of so called bad boys ....you are too good for him deb.....the thing is they(the parents)dont know my history ...i am a good person...but i am not perfect and no one is.....i have always believed you can enhance a partners life by being the best you can be to them and the best you can aspire for yourself and that is what i do ....the reason why i have dated bad boys is......they ask first......they are confident on approach i take what they say as genuine until proven otherwise...i prefer to be with good guys who will enhance my life too.....but once i date i commit to seeing it through bad boy or not.i have learned through experience that if a guy is into drugs i cant save him and i cant change the life they want to lead by simply being good to them..when they are not good to me.....deb. 1
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