hotpotato Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I dont follow. A woman can meet men at work, school, etc without the help of female friends. In fact, some women have mostly male friends already, and they choose bfs from their pool of male friends. I dont understand... I wanted to add, promiscuous woman with no female friends is already meeting men if shes sleeping with them...
somedude81 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Ofcourse I have issues, I highly doubt you're perfect either. Obviously I'm not perfect. I've been single for 99.9% of my life and I'm very aware that I have several issues that make it harder for me to attract and sadly, to keep a girl. No matter how hard I try, I will never truly be rid of impactful health issues such as cancer and memory loss. If anyone holds that against me and fails to take those factors in consideration, then they can take a hike as I certainly don't need them in my life. Having those things be a part of your life does unfortunately affect you. Plus Leigh on these forums (as well as several others who sadly don't come to mind right now.) has stated many times that 'plenty of dumbarse, boring people get into relationships easily all the time.' and lowering yourself to such a level is not something to aspire to. Yeah, that's true. But all that says is that not everybody who is in a relationship is free from having issues. As with anything, it feels like a numbers game. Eventually the right one will come along, but I feel that I have waded through enough crap as it is. So yeah, contrary to the party-animal, and no commitment age peers, I do happen to know what I want from life and more than ready for commitment, lol. Yet, such opportunities do not readily present themselves. Yup, it is a numbers game, and it's all about putting yourself in situations where you can meet women and feel comfortable interacting with them. But with regards to guys who are essentially thugs, have a thousand pages long rap sheet, beat up women, etc. then indeed, I do NOT have issues. No, your issues are just different than theirs. 1
mikethemechanic Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 (edited) I dont follow. A woman can meet men at work, school, etc without the help of female friends. In fact, some women have mostly male friends already, and they choose bfs from their pool of male friends. I dont understand... Is it fair that a woman has to remain friends with another woman who has slept around. How'd you feel about letting the cat guard the cream? If you knew that your BFF could easily threaten your relationship with s.o. How does that sound if someone said to you that even though she slept around, in the end she (BFF) wants to be your friend therefore the two of you must continue being friends and continue hanging out together! I think it's a lot easier to get males with female friends, it's working in unison for a common goal. Remember your girlfriends probably know hundreds of guys this makes the numbers came so much better. Edited August 13, 2014 by mikethemechanic
KaliLove Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I have issues but I date a lot. I have 2 dates this weekend. I'm completely open about my issues (it's hard not to be). Plus I just got a new job..but I can't scream about it because I'm at my current job..so AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 1
hotpotato Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 (edited) Is it fair that a woman has to remain friends with another woman who has slept around. How'd you feel about letting the cat guard the cream? If you knew that your BFF could easily threaten your relationship with s.o. How does that sound if someone said to you that even though she slept around, in the end she (BFF) wants to be your friend therefore the two of you must continue being friends and continue hanging out together! I think it's a lot easier to get males with female friends, it's working in unison for a common goal. Remember your girlfriends probably know hundreds of guys this makes the numbers came so much better. If the women dont want to be her friend, thats her prerogative. If a woman wanted to meet a lot of men there are many venues. Many women do just fine meeting men without the help of other females. Its as easy as putting herself where the men are. Ill use myself for an example. I dont have any female friends. That has nothing to do with how many men I meet. I have a lot of traditionally male interests, so in theory I should be able to meet a lot of men. I just dont because ive become a hermit lol. See, it has nothing to do with other women. That being said, there are plenty of women with male orbiters and no female friends. They are doing just fine meeting men. Edited August 13, 2014 by hotpotato
Polak Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 I can only speak for myself, but I have pretty much relegated myself to a new belief: Being single isn't bad, and if this is how the rest of my life plays out, I'd still be perfectly fine/content. In fact, I am enjoying being single now more than ever. After my last rejection, it hit me and now I'm like "screw it." It is what it is. Just figured recently I might never be a family man. Or if I do... it'll be in my mid-late 30s. +1 It has taken me a few years to get accustomed to this way of thinking, but I agree, it's not bad at all and I certainly don't mind. And I'm only 22.
mikethemechanic Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 not necessarily... Depends entirely on the person(s) involved. I don't know about that, there's a lot of "SLUT SHAMING" out there.
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