Heart In Two Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I'll start off by saying this: I've just turned a teenager, and I don't have a clue about this whole women and love thing. Three weeks ago, though, I met the most beautiful girl I ever saw. She was perfect; smart, funny, clever, beautiful, and a really good shot with a .22 rifle. I'd had minor crushes before, but never anything like the feeling I got around her. We went to a little camp dance together, and there she said yes to a date. That was two weeks ago, and I've been giddy ever since. Just got this text: "Hey, I had a pretty good time at the dance. I'm sorry to say this, but I'm just not interested. I wish you the best." Now I have some kind of feeling in my chest that's probably total and utter despair, and I'm not sure what to do. I don't know why she doesn't like me, either, and I don't want to ask because I'll sound creepy or like one of those buggy Microsoft "why are you uninstalling" questionnaires. So, for someone more experienced than me, may I ask what exactly do I do in this situation?
daisydook Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 "Hey, I had a pretty good time at the dance. I'm sorry to say this, but I'm just not interested. I wish you the best." She is wishing you the best, in finding someone else, and by the sounds of things, does not care to keep talking to you. At least you found an honest one! Lol. She may not be interested for any number of reasons, so do not just jump to the conclusion you did anything wrong or that you had anything to do with why she isn't interested. It may be you, it may be her parents, it may be another boy she likes... Who knows. Please do not ask her. I would just leave her alone, to be honest. She was nice, polite and honest with you, at the very least. Take it at face value. As you get older, you will realize more people lie about their feelings, or how interested they really are, and I would be thankful she was at least honest. You said you are young, so I would assume she is too. Is she older than you? Younger? Same age? I know I wasn't really allowed to actually "date" or "be interested" when I just turned teen! Lol. My parents would have killed me. If they had any knowledge of a boy liking me and I had a cell phone I was texting him on at 13 years of age, you bet your butt they would make me respond with something similar, like "I had fun but, I am not interested. Good luck!!!" Something nice, and not rude, but NO YOU CANNOT DATE ME! I also know that if she is older, it is a tough age to try to get an older girl to like you. When you are 27, it isn't as hard to get someone a few years older. When you are 13 or 14, you have nothing on an 16 or 17 year old guy. Lol. Dont worry, you will figure it all out, my friend. I would leave this one be.
TheyCallMeOx Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 What's bad isn't the situation you've been dealt with; what's potentially bad is your perspective. It's disappointing that she doesn't like you back, but a better way to look at it is...at least you got your heart broken NOW than later on down the road. She could've gotten into a relationship with you just for the sake of it and, I guarantee you, I'd rather be heartbroken sooner than later. Things didn't escalate, but it's good they didn't escalate because although it hurts, your pain could've been so much worse had you got into a relationship or anything like that. At least you know she's not interested, so now you can draw your attention to someone who is more compatible for you. Take time to heal, let go of your negative emotions (also forgive her), and you'll be back on track in no time. Sorry for your bad experience, but I hope you make the best of it. 1
Requiem4Dreams Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 You're young. Welcome to the dating world. You'll eventually figure out through trial and error the many things women say to show interest, or displeasure. She had a good time at least, and you have an actual answer. A lot of women wont even give you that. So my young friend, you move on, focus on having the time of YOUR life, and everything else will fall into place eventually.
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