TouchedByViolet Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I came to a realization today that my life has been filled with more bromances than romances. Is this a common theme among men? I feel like most guys can form close friendships with other men easier than romantic relations with the ladies. I have personally always had a few close guy friends I could trust and enjoy spending time with. In comparison I have spent about 80% of my adult life without a women to share it with.
gaius Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I'm the exact opposite. Almost never form a friendship with a guy beyond the formal stage but I do enjoy conversing with women. But I was raised by a single mother and grandmother. Maybe you had a dad and brothers or something. 1
Author TouchedByViolet Posted August 6, 2014 Author Posted August 6, 2014 I'm the exact opposite. Almost never form a friendship with a guy beyond the formal stage but I do enjoy conversing with women. But I was raised by a single mother and grandmother. Maybe you had a dad and brothers or something. I am an only child, raised by both parents...
todreaminblue Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I am an only child, raised by both parents... you could be making up for lack of a brother by forming relationships that are brotherly...did you always want a brother? if so you seek out what you always felt you lacked as a child maybe..i know as a female i seek brothers normally older ones...i am the oldest sister my older brother died at birth...guys mistake my affection as being otherwise...i really wish my older brother had lived....i know my life would have been different...but it wasnt meant to be....wish it was though.........deb 1
Author TouchedByViolet Posted August 6, 2014 Author Posted August 6, 2014 you could be making up for lack of a brother by forming relationships that are brotherly...did you always want a brother? if so you seek out what you always felt you lacked as a child maybe..i know as a female i seek brothers normally older ones...i am the oldest sister my older brother died at birth...guys mistake my affection as being otherwise...i really wish my older brother had lived....i know my life would have been different...but it wasnt meant to be....wish it was though.........deb Sorry to hear about your brother. Growing up I was happy being an only child and my friends definitely provided plenty of social interaction. I feel like I was just fortunate to always have a friend I could talk to about stuff and enjoy childhood with. I never felt depressed as a child. I was generally introverted too and lost in my own imagination. 1
somedude81 Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I've never had a bromance. When I had friends I was always in a group thing. I also spent a lot of time with my brother until he turned into an as*hole.
hasaquestion Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I think bromance is more important to living a full life than romance. My best friend has been by "best friend" since we were 3 years old. Never known a world without him. Rather be single forever than not have him around. Easier to find a girl who is 50% of a good wife than a guy who is 10% of what he means to me. Women come and women go. But my dudes have been here the whole time.
carhill Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 IMO, unless a man is homosexual, 'bromances' don't exist between men, if one is attempting to compare the dynamics of such associations with those hetero men engage in with women. Totally different planet, IME, both having had long-term (multiple decades) male friends and having been married. At this stage of life, I'm fine with male friends. If those relationships earn or are given the moniker 'bromance', well OK. People are entitled to their viewpoints. 2
Smilecharmer Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I have tons of friends but I chose the man I want to share my life with and that bond is much stronger than with my family or my best friends since childhood. There are many people who do not want long term romantic relationships and commitments and that is ok. However, sharing your life with your bromances in an attempt to substitute it for a romantic relationship may not work out for those men who want to build a family and share their lives with a woman. This terms seems to be used by teens and twenty somethings because they aren't ready for building families or sharing their lives yet or they want to remain single since they are having a great time partying and hanging out with their bros. They usually grow up or the bonds fall apart with bromances when one of them finds a woman to marry or have a LTR with. 1
Woggle Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 After my first divorce I always said I would never remarry unless I found a woman who can give me the kind of loyalty and friendship that my friends give me plus sex and romance and I actually found a woman that offers that. I still can't stand to see guys who let their friendships go because of a woman. 2
No Limit Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I'm female and was accepted into the bro-cult of two guys. Yeah, bromances are definitely in fashion.
Els Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Ummm. Most guys I know have had more male friends than relationships.... but, unlike you, they don't happily refer to them as bromances. Do straight guys really call their buddies that???
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