theexfiance Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Hi everyone, It's been a rough day. I started it out this morning by cleaning up my Facebook and removing some old posts and clutter from my FB. I did this when my engagement first ended to remove any trace of my ex from everything. Guess I missed a few things. I was reading through old comments and stuff from friends to put myself in a good mood. I didn't realize that even though I blocked my ex from FB and her "likes" don't show up anymore, her comments and photo will still pop up. Works been slow the last couple of months. No one has been around where I work (because it's summertime) until just this week. I'm 23 and joined the professional staff at my place of employment (a university) right out of school. So I was glad when we hired three new staff members (all female) one of which I was immediately enamored with. I flirt with all of these staff members (one professional, two student staff), to keep things interesting for myself. Two of them aren't interested at all, but flirt just because they're naturally flirty (100% innocent). The last one I feel some kind of a vibe with, she seems to notice when I flirt with the other two, and is always making eye contact with me from across a room and tries to be flirty, but she seems shy. The problem is, my confidence is shot to hell and I keep convincing myself that I'm making it up. Plus...she's 19 and is student staff. It's college, so everyone is an adult (she's a junior)...so it feels ethically questionable or something for me. I'm in a really weird place. I'm getting over my break up and things only hurt every now and then as opposed to every day. I feel a little better with every passing day and I'm slowly getting back into the groove at work. But this type of sh*t just slows me down. Any advice here? I think I'd like to slowly form a bond with this girl, but I'm not sure how and I don't feel confident at all. My ex's bullsh*t really got me down today too. Thanks for any help
Reels Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 You are still not doing that bad. Yes it is scientific that if you have remembered or thought about same person everyday for a while, you wouldn't forget but here you may have to concentrate on other things, considering that you are still not ready for a new relation.
Author theexfiance Posted August 6, 2014 Author Posted August 6, 2014 You are still not doing that bad. Yes it is scientific that if you have remembered or thought about same person everyday for a while, you wouldn't forget but here you may have to concentrate on other things, considering that you are still not ready for a new relation. You're right...I'm not ready for a new relationship. But this isn't about a relationship or making a serious commitment. I just think it'd be nice to have the confidence to flirt with a girl that I find attractive and get to know her. I don't care if I get rejected...I just feel like it's healthy for me at this point. I just feel so low and so unconfident that I can't even tell if she is vibing me or if I'm deluding myself into thinking she is.
Reels Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 You're right...I'm not ready for a new relationship. But this isn't about a relationship or making a serious commitment. I just think it'd be nice to have the confidence to flirt with a girl that I find attractive and get to know her. I don't care if I get rejected...I just feel like it's healthy for me at this point. I just feel so low and so unconfident that I can't even tell if she is vibing me or if I'm deluding myself into thinking she is. Then you will have to stop taking things so seriously, not that you will have to take very lightly now but think about what to do next without thinking much about past. You took things very seriously before and this all happened.
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