Dork Vader Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Okay so I've been going through a fairly rocky break up over the last month or so. If you don't want to read the entire thing scroll down to the games. At some point in our relationship I had an HSV-2 outbreak. The first doctor I saw said I would never know who I got it from for certain. But that most people get an outbreak with in 4-8 weeks of exposure. She then went on to say.. how ever most people don't realize it is HSV-2. She said it could have been my current girl friend and it likely was.. But that there is a huge possibility I got it before and it's just now showing up (noticeably). I've never had a lesion or anything remotely resembling one in my life. Not even a cold sore. My Primary care doctor told me basically the same thing. But she was more convinced it was my current girl friend. but again said I would never know for certain and that I could have got it up to 5 years ago. The last person I had sex with before my now Ex. Does not have it. We had sex 6 months before I met my ex. Her primary said she likely does not have it and would have had an outbreak by now if she did. They have done 2 blood test both came back negative. He said it is possible that she has it but very unlikely. Now that I look back there were other signs that she likely had it. I found coldsore treatment in her bathroom. She also said "one of her friends husbands has/had it and this cream works really good" a lot of things like that point to the fact that she likely had it. I was some what concerned she had cold sore and asked about it. She swore up and down she did not and had never had a cold sore. yet I found cold sore treatment. When I told her about it she got kind of up set with me and said "that's all?" then she would get really up set and cry. I'm thinking that was just a big show.. So in all likelihood I got it from her. But the simple truth is I'll never know for certain. Long story short.. I caught her sexting her best friends husband. Dump her she convinces me to stay. things are sort of rocky for the next month or so but there are some good times so I stick around. 2 months after that break up I catch her sexting an ex. Dump her.. She begs me to come stay the night and I give in. The next day we talked about being a couple again. So we are.. We agreed to have a serious discussion at some point. Finally have that discussion it's basically her justifying what she did. The next day I dump her. I ignore her for the entire week but finally give in on Sunday and talk to her on the phone. We see each other and both agree we want things to work. We both agree we need time to really decide what we want and are sort of in this gray zone not quite a couple not quite single. That said she had plans to go to a Birthday party with friends that Saturday night but that she would like me to pick her up. Friday night rolls around I'm staying the night at her place and she starts to rescind the invite to pick her up. Saying "I don't know when I'll be home" "I don't want to be texting all night" "I might stay are Mer's (her best friends)" and so on.. She doesn't want these friends to know we are talking because she does not want them influencing her decision one way or the other. I sort of understand and said If you want to see me you'll see me. But I understand it's complicated so let's not worry about it.. If you see me you see me. Simple as that. The next morning I did not want her stressing about it so I said don't stress out about us seeing each other tonight.. If it happens it happens. if not it doesn't no big deal. She says okay. Then becomes distant and cold the entire day. Most her textes were nearly impossible to respond too. So I give up and quit trying after her last text message. I'm thinking she'll text me when she is ready... I make plans to go out with a friend named Evanie. My now ex did not like this friendship. Claiming it was a spot of conflict between us I had ended the friendship while me and my ex were a couple. But I figured since she is out celebrating Clints (one of the guys she was sexting) Birthday. Then I can have my friend back. I also figured while we were in this gray zone I would not toss Ev under the bus again. Around 11:30 I get a "I'm staying Mer's I'm checking out peace." I say good night and never hear a word again. Next day I hear nothing from her all day. I finally give in and call her around 10:30 and ask what is going on? She claims I thought you were mad about Saturday night. Blah blah.. I said why would I be mad? I then tell her you're the one who rescinded the invite not me. You were then distant and cold all day.. I then tell her I hung out with Evanie while I was waiting to hear from her.. She gets up set.. The next day I get this long "You should not have hung out with Evanie. I feel you're never going to change the things I ask. and I simply do not feel the same way anymore." At this point I'm furious and I went off on her. Basically telling her she was liar with a bunch of double standards immature and so on.. I also told her you were likely the person who gave me Herpes. But I took the blame to try and save a strained relationship. Despite all of this I was still here hoping you'd see the light.. hope you'd figure out that it was you creating all of our problems not me. Delete my number I've deleted yours. The GAMES A week later around 9:30 on Sunday night she calls.. I ignore it and let it go to Voice mail. She basically set the phone down and let it leave a message of her "being around the house" like it was a pocket call. I think she was hoping I'd answer but because I did not she did not want to make it look like she was trying. Thus the pocket call.. She never pocket called me once before over about 5 months of dating. Today I get a message "I just left my dr.. are you at work?" I have not responded. I don't know why she would be at the doctor unless it is about herpes. She saw her Gynecologist about 2 weeks before our final split. he said she was not pregnant we only had sex twice since that visit. I find it unlikely that would be the reason. In my mind if it was serious enough to warrant a text then she can just tell me. "I'm pregnant" or "I have another STD" I'm taking this as games and her trying to crack the door open again. I think she is getting lonely now that I'm not around. the lights might be coming on that she screwed up badly. But it doesn't matter now I am done. This last break up was the first time I was mean, angry and truly "done". I also know for a fact she has a hard time being honest. I've caught her in numerous lies and half truths. With out going into a lot of details I also feel that she had another guy towards the end of the relationship. I've suspicions about it but no hard evidence to support it. But I do suspect it was her best friends brother. Opinions? I'm not looking for sorry you're going this. I know she was a bad girl friend. Just trying to gauge what her motives are for this text.
Assasda Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 The big problem I see here is respect. She doesnt respect you. Thats why she lies to you, and you dont seem to respect her, for doing that. Not even a friendship can thrive without respect
Author Dork Vader Posted August 6, 2014 Author Posted August 6, 2014 The big problem I see here is respect. She doesnt respect you. Thats why she lies to you, and you dont seem to respect her, for doing that. Not even a friendship can thrive without respect I agree but I know there is a lot more going on her side. I know 2 people who know her ex husband. When I was dating her they did not say anything bad about their divorce. But when things ended they said from what they heard the same type of thing was going on. I also noticed all of her friends are in fairly crappy relationships. she has a fairly screwed up idea of what trust is. But that's neither here nor there. I was just trying to gauge her motives. But I know exactly what it is. If it was pregnancy or something serious she would/will just out right tell me. If she does not I'll eventually hear about it. I'm not looking for friendship with her. I don't need it nor do I want it. I was just a tad concerned it might something I actually need to know about.
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