shoegal4 Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Dated someone twelve years. We ended it officially over two months ago with LC and slowly turned to NC. However, it's been at least seven years of highly dysfunctional turmoil (ridiculous to think about now, ugh). Thought I would never get over it. I was going to die alone. I would never love again. I would never move on. Everyone would have someone but me. No one else will ever come along. Etc. Etc. Etc. I swear to you...in the most general terms ever...you will get over it. I promise!! I didn't believe it when I first came to LS but I sure as hell believe it now. I couldn't get out of bed in the beginning most days. I would cry into my pillows, my couch, my hands (I would cry into anything really) and my body would physically ache. My family didn't know what to do with me, my friends couldn't listen to me anymore. No appetite, no desire to do anything. No motivation. No hope for the future. NO anything. Fast forward two months. Enrolled in grad school, dropped tons of weight, quit the job that made me unhappy and just enjoyed a week in the Dominican Republic and developed a crush (I FELT something for someone again. That's HUGE!). The heart is resilient regardless of what it's been through. I was walking on the freakin' clouds (as if being in the DR wasn't wonderful enough). You will FEEL something again and it will be amazing!! I promise you. Getting over a broken heart isn't easy but you learn tons about who you are and what you want in a life partner and even though it SUCKS it's a life experience you will be grateful for. Weird to think about. Getting your heart broken at some point is as certain as taxes and death. We all gotta get through it. You will get over the hurdle but you have to WANT it and you have to stay NC. NC is CRUCIAL!! I did NOT stay NC even though I thought I was. (Note to self: checking Facebook and Instagram is NOT NC and you WILL eventually find things that make you sad and set you back.) I deactivated everything for a while. (Another note to self: GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA). Going NC enabled me to get over the hurt and the sick to my stomach feeling anytime I saw or heard his name. When people tell you NC is crucial (like we do millions of times a day on here) it's for a reason. I just wanted to rant and express my experience for people coming on here feeling sad. You will feel better. You will move on. You will find someone who gives you that high feeling again. It will be when you least expect it and you WON'T see it coming. Get better not bitter!! And please...stay NC. It's the best thing you could ever do for yourself. 2
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