Daph Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for approximately 6 months. We met in work, and despite the 9 year age gap between us it was hardly noticeable at the time. We worked in a mental health hospital for 12 hours a day, he was on contract employment and I was casual, however I would find myself working 8 out of 7 days. With this our relationship was difficult, we would work together and class the time at work we spent together as our relationship time and on his days and evenings off he would go and party with his friends. I lost my job May this year and have recently found work which I start next Monday. During my time of unemployment he woild refer to me as a 'bum' and a 'dosser', I explained that I found these phrases hurtful and disrespectful as since the age of 14 I have always worked and been as independent as possible, yet he would just claim it was banter and I should 'get over it'. I find him to be unsupportive, he not once offered to help me in finding work despite me being supportive whilst he was going through the intense interview process for his new job, e.g lock interviews, extra pair of eyes for his application form and c.v... All we seem to do is argue, we bicker like crazy. He always seems to put his friends over me, and these friends are drama. There's affection but zero romance and he just keeps saying he's adapting to having a girlfriend as he hasn't had one in 3 years. Feel abit lost, any advice?
preraph Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 we would work together and class the time at work we spent together as our relationship time and on his days and evenings off he would go and party with his friends. During my time of unemployment he woild refer to me as a 'bum' and a 'dosser' All we seem to do is argue All I really needed to read was that first bit up there about him spending his free time with friends and not you. If that's not enough, he kicks you when you're down because he LIKES it when you're down and he's not. I would definitely take this opportunity of changing employment to break up and have no contact whatever with this guy, who sounds like an abusive a-hole and who doesn't even care enough to see you on his days off! I know you can do better! 1
smackie9 Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Yes this relationship sucks and you should end it. The infactuation period is over and you see what he is truly like after he gets comfortable in a relatioship. He never really did fulfill your expectations so why did you end bother to stay in the first place. Stop being a patsy and dump his ass.
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