Quokka Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 So long story but I'll short it as much as possible. She very recently got out of a relationship of 3 years on and off. So my friends knew I had a crush on her and told me to text her so I did and we hung out at her place with all our friends (we have the same friends). Anyway we end up talking about going to a music festival and she decides to go with us. We ended up sleeping beside each other and we did everything except sex. The next day she told me how much fun it was and wants me to come over, so I do and we hangout, watch movies and generally have a good time. During this time our conversations were intense. She says she has always liked me she just couldn't do anything about it because she was in a relationship. So we continue to hang out and even stay the night with each other. Well she did something to piss me off and I started to stray away slowly. She would text me wanting things to go back to normal and she said she didn't lie when she told me she really really liked me. She said we were moving way too fast and needed to slow down but she just can't have a relationship right now. I say okay I'm not even trying to rush you into that. So she invites me over that night and I say okay. Well when the night rolls around I ask her if she still wants me to come over. "If you want to" Do you want me to? "If you want to lol" I didn't go over there. She didn't text me that entire day she has always been the one to initiate conversation and all my friends were going over there so I go over there with them. Well I was pissed and got super drunk and nothing was awkward or weird. We made eye contact, and she sat by me a couple times but it felt different. So I leave and she asks if I made it home safe. I say yes and that was it. Next day I told her we need to talk and asked if she still likes me. She says yes just can't have a relationship right now. I say okay that's fine I'm not even worried about that and this was 2 days ago. She hasn't texted me all day yesterday and not this morning which is weird for her. I just feel used and it sucks because it's hard to avoid her when we all have mutual friends who want me to hang out. I'm thinking NC is the best way to go right now. Basically just want to know if I was used or was she being honest because I asked her if she was bringing me into her life because she doesn't want to be alone and she said no I really like you. Any advice as to what to do or what has happened?
Dork Vader Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 It does not sound like she used you. It's hard to know whether or not you were justified in getting up set with the whole "she pissed me off" Some advice.. If you want to see her then invite her over. Don't invite yourself over to her place. That is for her to do.. She's been fairly clear with what she wants. She likes you but she's not ready to commit to a relationship. It does not mean she'll never want one it just means she doesn't want one right now. It also doesn't mean she's going to go sleep around or date other guys. She might but she is free to do that. If she starts sleeping with other men and you are not okay with it then walk away. But for now I'd just have fun with her. You both enjoy each others company.. Quit trying to make it a defined relationship. Enjoy the relationship for what it is and have fun with it.. Her feelings will likely grow for you and you'll eventually get what you want.. You just have to quit being so rigid about it.
Author Quokka Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 It does not sound like she used you. It's hard to know whether or not you were justified in getting up set with the whole "she pissed me off" Some advice.. If you want to see her then invite her over. Don't invite yourself over to her place. That is for her to do.. She's been fairly clear with what she wants. She likes you but she's not ready to commit to a relationship. It does not mean she'll never want one it just means she doesn't want one right now. It also doesn't mean she's going to go sleep around or date other guys. She might but she is free to do that. If she starts sleeping with other men and you are not okay with it then walk away. But for now I'd just have fun with her. You both enjoy each others company.. Quit trying to make it a defined relationship. Enjoy the relationship for what it is and have fun with it.. Her feelings will likely grow for you and you'll eventually get what you want.. You just have to quit being so rigid about it. I'm not going to clarify what she pissed me off about but it wasn't anything to do with jealousy. I wasn't trying to make her rush into a relationship with me at all. I told her that from the beginning. But yeah, she's just seeming very distant lately compared to how it used to be. Should I wait for her to initiate contact?
Assasda Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I'm not going to clarify what she pissed me off about but it wasn't anything to do with jealousy. I wasn't trying to make her rush into a relationship with me at all. I told her that from the beginning. But yeah, she's just seeming very distant lately compared to how it used to be. Should I wait for her to initiate contact? Hard to make a judgement if we dont know what happened. Anyway, youre the one that seems a bit insecure here. Hopefully OP you can just move on from this and work on yourself
Author Quokka Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 Hard to make a judgement if we dont know what happened. Anyway, youre the one that seems a bit insecure here. Hopefully OP you can just move on from this and work on yourself It really wasn't a big deal. It was just something she did (not jealousy) that I didn't agree with because of my past.
Author Quokka Posted August 6, 2014 Author Posted August 6, 2014 Hard to make a judgement if we dont know what happened. Anyway, youre the one that seems a bit insecure here. Hopefully OP you can just move on from this and work on yourself Anyone more advice? I'm really at loss right now.
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