Victoria7 Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 (edited) The first man you get to know is your dad. I got to know my dad. The best thing I could say about my dad is that he never sexually abused me. Actually, that is the only decent thing about him. He destroyed so much of me and my little family but he left my sexuality alone. Here's my problem. Because my father is narcissistic (with antisocial tendencies) I've learned you cannot trust anyone. I'm married now. Trust is an issue which is hard on our marriage. I'm guarded and can see a betrayal a mile away. I've tried to convince myself that I'm overreacting when certain events come up that force me to throw up my weapons but it never works. I cannot fool myself into trusting anyone and I accept that is who I am. It's easier to accept it than to fight it. I'd like to know if anyone else has a narcissistic dad and how do they cope with the emotional scars. Edited August 5, 2014 by Victoria7
Philosoraptor Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 It's hard, but the skill one with any sort of trauma in the past needs to learn is to not judge others for someone else's mistakes. Don't accept that someone's actions can have a negative effect for the entirety of your life. Have you sought counseling to help cope with what you are struggling with?
Author Victoria7 Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 It's hard, but the skill one with any sort of trauma in the past needs to learn is to not judge others for someone else's mistakes. Don't accept that someone's actions can have a negative effect for the entirety of your life. Have you sought counseling to help cope with what you are struggling with? I saw a therapist for two years and he really helped me. My father use to call me and abuse me on the phone; my therapist convinced me I can hang up. For years I couldn't hang up on my father and then one day I tried it and it was amazing. I've cut my father out of my life completely and it has helped. I don't go to therapy anymore but I do meditate and listen to spiritual talks on youtube which gives me a sense of peace. However, I do feel very cut off from the human race and feel more comfortable away from the general public.
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