Despair090 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Few variations on this theme. I'm older and married, woman is younger and separated and dating. We are best friends , most of the time , but I'm head over heels in love. I can't bear to hear about the boyfriend. I know I should just cut this relationship off. Can't do it. 1
jackslife Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Bit sparse on the information front. Can you be a bit more specific, it isn't clear who is married to who. What your relationship is with your wife is, what the problem is. The feedback and responses on this website are often honest, thoughtful and occasionally brutal. But the more you give the more useful advice you'll get back. 1
No Limit Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Divorce your wife, confess your feelings to your "best friend" and see what happens. Good luck.
MuddyRock Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Men can't be best friends with women. Sorry but she is cut out of your life or divorce your wife. Anything in between is unfair to your wife and unhealthy.
tnimbus Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 I agree with jackslife..the post was a bit sparse. But, that you posted here at all means the smart part of you knows that you're at the crossroads of some very bad decisions. Don't go any further down the road!! Listen to your brain and cut this relationship off...it has nowhere to go. I'm not judging, I've been there. If I had listened to my brain and my gut when it was saying,"Cut this off, now!!!!", a lot of hurt wouldn't have happened. Listen to what your insides are telling you, you'll be glad you did.
Mr. Lucky Posted August 7, 2014 Posted August 7, 2014 But, that you posted here at all means the smart part of you knows that you're at the crossroads of some very bad decisions. And his choice of username simply reinforces this. OP, you said younger. What is your age and the age difference? Mr. Lucky
bbird Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Few variations on this theme. I'm older and married, woman is younger and separated and dating. We are best friends , most of the time , but I'm head over heels in love. I can't bear to hear about the boyfriend. I know I should just cut this relationship off. Can't do it. I feel your pain brother. I'm dealing with the aftermath of a similar scenario. Those of us who find the fulfilment in an affair partner that we lack at home almost always lose. Finances, obligation, nostalgia, maybe children keeps us with our spouses so we try to balance both worlds.....rarely works long term. While my AP didn't extensively date or screw around with other guys, she broke a promise to be upfront if she did and lied to me. The passionate love affair that we shared was something I've always wanted in a partner or spouse but the BS she pulled tainted the relationship and I chose inertia over action. It lasted almost 3 years until she got fed up being second fiddle and ended it abruptly a couple weeks ago and I'm still in agony over the loss. Looks like my marriage is ending now too which was inevitable. If only I had sucked it up and filed for divorce before embarking on a new journey with someone else I might not be on here whining about this. If I had a do over I'd do the hard work up front to be happier in the long run.
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