Glamvineflower Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I have been in a flirtationship with a very cute classmate for quite some time now. We know we are both interested but because of our major/department's strict and professional environment, it is inappropriate to openly express our feelings. Because if we date, there would be an insane amount of inappropriate gossip. There has been many mixed messages on both sides and it is only leading to further frustration. And then I recently found out that there was an intruder in our blossoming interest. Last year, there was a guy that kept on trying to hit on me and I had rejected him many times, being mean to him. This guy became friends with my crush in the meantime. Recently, I started talking to him and noticed that he was saying nasty things about my crush to me, and I'm pretty sure he said some not so nice things about me to my crush as well. As if he is plotting revenge, he is intruding because he noticed this blossoming flirtationship. And I can't help but get the nagging feeling that this is part of why my crush may be feeling reluctant to ask me out. This is somewhat creating a wall between me and my crush, or maybe it's just my perception of it but it is making me even more frustrated. I wish my crush would just be a man and ask me out but it hasn't happened so far. Sometimes, when I'm not around him, I get doubts and the frustration makes me want to move on, but then when I see him I feel happy and I can feel that he is into me too. We just have all these barriers. Obviously, I do not have the courage to ask him out myself and risk my reputation in our seminar class. And I know that he does not have it either cause his risk is bigger as he is the head of our class. What should I do to encourage him to move forward with me without directly asking him out myself? If it was so simple as to just asking him out, I would not have come on here to write this post.
Assasda Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Youre on this tirade about why doesnt your crush just be a man and ask you out. I post your own question to you, why dont you be a woman and ask him out?
JungleLover Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Youre on this tirade about why doesnt your crush just be a man and ask you out. I post your own question to you, why dont you be a woman and ask him out? Right. Someone in a thread not too far down on this page says the same thing. In society, couples get together generally by asking each other out. It is, by far, the most popular method of getting a relationship going. If neither of you will ask, the chance greatly approaches zero. 1
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