zhaulk Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 My ex had a 1999 dodge neon for a while when we were together, and we shared it (though the car was in her name), and we took a loan out on it. I helped pay for the loan while we were together, and the car eventually broke down. So she got a new car, a nissan, and continued to pay the loan off. Well she broke up with me shortly after she got the nissan. A friend of mine has an account with the same company, and apparently they asked him if they had heard from her, because she told them that: "My boyfriend broke up with me after cheating on me. He left me with several bills and I can't afford this loan payment anymore. The car has been impounded, but I'd like to take a new loan out on the nissan because I need the money for bills." Apparently, they were/are planning to repo the nissan today, because she hasn't been paying the bill, and they are planning to sue her for the neon, because she illegally had it impounded while there were outstanding loans upon it. Now I know none of this is any of my business, but hearing about her has made me think about her a lot. I don't want her back, and I don't plan on contacting her, but frankly she isn't welcome in my head. Part of me wants to say that karma is a real thing, and she had all of this coming, but the other part of me is thinking, does it really matter? She's not in your life anymore, keep moving on. Naturally, there is a small part of me that feels somewhat gratified by this...and I suppose I feel a little guilty of that, but it reminds me that I'm not totally over her, or else I wouldn't care at all. I've been 45 days no contact, and I'm looking forward to keeping it up, but every time I hear about her, it sort of sets me back in a small way. Anyone have a similar situation like this?
Pleasant Surprise Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I imagine that more or less everyone has situations like this. Having removed someone completely from your life that was once one of the most important people to you and then hearing about them will be difficult for a long time. It kinda reminds you that (just like you) your ex is living a life without you and doing things that have nothing to do with you anymore. It doesn't seem to bother you much, though, it seems it has impacted you in one way or another. Excellent job on the NC! Wish I could do it lol 1
Reels Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Seriously you are doing good job with NC. Yes Karma is the best theory of all. It is pretty obvious that she had strong reason to never break up with you, it was not only about the feelings but also about finance but she still went for it. Obviously she has to manage it all herself now, you can grab popcorn and watch. 1
Author zhaulk Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 Yeah, I guess you're right. And thanks a lot! I'm trying. I have no urge to break it, it's been the best thing for me. I've lost 25 pounds (needed to), hoping to lose some more, and I've enrolled in college for the first time in my life (I'm 24 years old). So it's all been positive for me..even though it didn't seem like it at first!
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