Biscous Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 This annoys me to no end when I talk to her. I've told her she's a bit of a dry texter. In person she laughs a lot and a bit more open to me. I understand she is a bit more reserved, but her 1-2 line responses kind of annoys me. I know she is interested in me and likes me, but I'm the type of guy that likes feedback when I talk to a girl. It does tell me a bait where I'm 'at' with them. The "Hi" or "Hello" responses just irk me and make me not want to text at all.
Dork Vader Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Fairly confident that would irk any person. One worded responses come off as cold and not interested. They also make conversation very difficult which is annoying to say the least. How many dates have you been on? How much time have you given her to open up? If the shyness is improving just deal with it for now. Talk about things that she likes.. If she is not opening up just be honest and say I think you're a nice woman and I'm really interested in you but I can't deal with this shyness anymore.. If you're not willing to work with me on it I don't think I can continue this. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 She told you about her shyness to explain why she can't give you what you want. You either have to give her a break or break up with her. 3
Author Biscous Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 Fairly confident that would irk any person. One worded responses come off as cold and not interested. They also make conversation very difficult which is annoying to say the least. How many dates have you been on? How much time have you given her to open up? If the shyness is improving just deal with it for now. Talk about things that she likes.. If she is not opening up just be honest and say I think you're a nice woman and I'm really interested in you but I can't deal with this shyness anymore.. If you're not willing to work with me on it I don't think I can continue this. I've known her for a few months but just as friends. She then asked me to have dinner with her and I tell her that I was attracted to her and she likes that. So we did something next week ( a few days ago ) and things went really well. She isn't much for words and she admits she has a bit of anxiety. I may make her nervous. In person at least I can gauge her. She definitely has opened up for me and given me compliments. Through texts she can be really dry and I told her and she said "That's just my personality". She is a bit older than me. Thanks for the advice. She told you about her shyness to explain why she can't give you what you want. You either have to give her a break or break up with her. We have only ventured down the romantic path for a week. I've known her for a few months though and we would talk casually. This is a different side of her.
preraph Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 OMG, just call her! Then if she can't even carry on a conversation, at least you'll know.
Author Biscous Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 OMG, just call her! Then if she can't even carry on a conversation, at least you'll know. Can't always call between work hours. Also I mentioned that in person that she is fine. It's not like I'm saying she's incapable of talking or that I'm not engaging in conversation with her.
mrs rubble Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Can't always call between work hours. Also I mentioned that in person that she is fine. It's not like I'm saying she's incapable of talking or that I'm not engaging in conversation with her. So her major "problem" in your eyes are her texts are "a bit dry":lmao: Sorry for laughing, but really!?!?! You've got some pretty unbelievable standards going on there. 7
Dork Vader Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I have to agree with Mrs. Rubble. Texting is not the end of the world. Really think about it you're going to end an entire relationship because the texting is dry? Come on now...
Author Biscous Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 I have to agree with Mrs. Rubble. Texting is not the end of the world. Really think about it you're going to end an entire relationship because the texting is dry? Come on now... I didn't say I was going to end things lol
todreaminblue Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 hey biscous one thing that combats shyness is being with familiar with someone, that takes time...so in time shyness settles when you relaize the person you are with accepts you fro who you are confidence in that person develops......that si what i have found...i have been able to bring people out of their shells.....because i have a shell at heart myself...takes time trust and familiarity....to develop confidence in what you say or she says....it will happen are you willing to be patient....and some people do not relate well through text and never will........deb 1
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I hate to text conversations! HATE.IT. I text, call me wyc, On my way!, bring me your dirty clothes, but hey how's it going, types texts I despise! Call me! Also, you need to read up on introverted people. That isn't the same as shyness, and they dislike banter. I think that might go a long way to helping you understand her. If its not your thing then cut the cord. 1
acapelo_dp Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I tend to find when people are "painfully shy" they prefer texting and it's actually quite a relief to them. I know because I am kind of shy at first, so when I am getting to know a guy I love texting to break the ice, etc. She probably just isn't a big texter, which is okay too. If you like the way she is on the phone and in person I don't see it to be a big deal. 1
Author Biscous Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 (edited) hey biscous one thing that combats shyness is being with familiar with someone, that takes time...so in time shyness settles when you relaize the person you are with accepts you fro who you are confidence in that person develops......that si what i have found...i have been able to bring people out of their shells.....because i have a shell at heart myself...takes time trust and familiarity....to develop confidence in what you say or she says....it will happen are you willing to be patient....and some people do not relate well through text and never will........deb I am really patient with her. She actually likes that I'm very attentive to her and she knows I genuinely mean well. She is the one who admits that she is painfully shy. Even on our date last week she said "I think some of this is my fault...I'm sorry". I was totally comfortable with her and used to how she is. I just like feedback, just like when she likes that I compliment her or something. I hate to text conversations! HATE.IT. I text, call me wyc, On my way!, bring me your dirty clothes, but hey how's it going, types texts I despise! Call me! Also, you need to read up on introverted people. That isn't the same as shyness, and they dislike banter. I think that might go a long way to helping you understand her. If its not your thing then cut the cord. I have a really good friend that is an introvert. I've known him for maybe 11 years. Really good friend. I think he is just more reflective on things. I'm not super extroverted. This girl called me more 'impulsive' though, but I do need time to self reflect and value my time alone. I do know that introverts tend to observe and absorb things first then react. The shyness thing she said herself, not me. I will see how it goes and hopefully through our relationship she will build trust. I just like when there's open communication. Sometimes I like perspective on things from my partner and talking. If they give me an "ok" or something, then it doesn't help. Edited August 5, 2014 by Biscous
somedude81 Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 So she's not that interactive in texting. Solution, stop texting. You're welcome, I just saved your relationship. 1
Mrs Carter Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I think it's the first time I've seen an adult complain about 'dry texting'. The onus is on you just as much OP when it comes to communicating. If it's not her forte, you need to find something else.
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