Moonborn Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 More or less a month ago I had asked a girl I have known for a few years out. I was starting to feel that I was over my ex and I wanted to get back into some casual dating. She said yes, but then she was "always busy", and never offered a way to get around that. So I assumed she just wasn't interested and went on my way. Now she is randomly pming me on facebook, ranging from a plain "how is it going" to stuff like "so how many girls did you charm today". I told her plainly that I am not into games of that kind, but she keeps going. She just sent me one of these messages this evening and I plan on not answering at all. So, I was curious: how would you all deal with a situation like this?
deathandtaxes Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Unfriend her. Block her. Boom. Problem solved. 1
insert_name Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Classic push-pull behaviour. Do what the poster above says. Knowing how bat**** insane women get when you snub then I expect the next step to be offers of marriage from her through the post. When you eventually relent and set a date for the wedding she will be go back to being mysteriously 'busy' again. Go figure. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 You're doing the right thing by not responding. Don't play her silly game with her. If she wanted to date you, she should've been more proactive in setting up a time and place to meet.
Dork Vader Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Yeah I agree with others. Just ignore her and move on with your life. No fun in playing games with a woman. Just ignore her.. She might ask why again but you've already told her and all she does is continue to play games.
ktya Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 You are friendzoned. She initially agreed to go out with you then realized it was a date and feigned busyness. Now that shes seen that you moved on shes curious about your dating life. 1
Assasda Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I dont think youre friendzoned in the least. She realized that you are a guy with high value, and you dont have time to follow her around like a puppy, so she kind of respects that. - I think that you should contact her and get together with her. - Dont fall in love with her just yet, but shee what she has to offer. I see no reason to ignore her, if youre interested in her 1
JungleLover Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I dont think youre friendzoned in the least. She realized that you are a guy with high value, and you dont have time to follow her around like a puppy, so she kind of respects that. - I think that you should contact her and get together with her. - Dont fall in love with her just yet, but shee what she has to offer. I see no reason to ignore her, if youre interested in her I agree. Situations like these are opportunities. You just have to know how to work them right. There is a door open, now you have to put your foot in it then kick it down. If you fail at getting her, you will claim that she was just a tease but if you go about things boldly, relaxed, and don't take things too seriously, you may wind up dating her and realize that it was all about playing your cards correctly all along.
Author Moonborn Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 I agree. Situations like these are opportunities. You just have to know how to work them right. There is a door open, now you have to put your foot in it then kick it down. If you fail at getting her, you will claim that she was just a tease but if you go about things boldly, relaxed, and don't take things too seriously, you may wind up dating her and realize that it was all about playing your cards correctly all along. Unfortunately, basing on my past experiences, I came to believe that if somebody is genuinely interested in you there should be no need of "playing your cards" whatsoever. In my book if I have to do something different from what comes natural to me to make things work it's not worth it. I also can't block or unfriend her on facebook, since we have friends in common and that would lead to a huge storm of drama. I will stick to the original plan and simply not reply. I was moderately interested in her, but her playing games is a huge turn off for me. So unless she realizes she's being dumb and openly offers a date herself I am not going to make any more moves.
smackie9 Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 You are friendzoned. She initially agreed to go out with you then realized it was a date and feigned busyness. This is what happened, and her asking about other girls is her way eliminating herself out of the equation. The "you make a great BF.....for someone else". I agree with your plan of action.....don't reply to her messages.....she will get the hint. The less you get involved, the less drama in your social circle.
Assasda Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Why not try to make a date with her again? Yeah, I dont understand either. How is she going to set a date with you if youre not replying? Its just no reason in being butt-hurt for a long time 1
Author Moonborn Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 Yeah, I dont understand either. How is she going to set a date with you if youre not replying? Its just no reason in being butt-hurt for a long time For three times from when this started, we had agreed on a date for the weekend. Every time she would vanish for the rest of the week and tell me on Friday that she was "just too busy". I am not being butt-hurt, I simply don't want to waste my time.
todreaminblue Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 For three times from when this started, we had agreed on a date for the weekend. Every time she would vanish for the rest of the week and tell me on Friday that she was "just too busy". I am not being butt-hurt, I simply don't want to waste my time. how much time does it take to set a date do it once more see if she sets a date ....and i wish you well....deb 1
Omei Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 To be honest as a girl I will tell you truths here many of us do this... We dont want to date you, but we dont want your fancy for us to go away so when you ignore us we come out and play! Haha look I made a song of it. She just wants to keep the connection so that you will still fancy her really tho she isn't into being together that's all. Girls can be worms.
Mrs Carter Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I also can't block or unfriend her on facebook, since we have friends in common and that would lead to a huge storm of drama. Definitely another reason to unfriend and block. 2
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