jessicachoi Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 I have been together with my now fiance for 6 years, I am 21 and he is 27. He was my first boyfriend, first real relationship. Our relationship has been great, including a few down points. He is a businessman and goes on businesstrips often. There were some points of our relationship where he didn’t gave me any kind of attention and we were spending no time together. He always tries to make it up by giving me very expensive gifts. Now I am two months pregnant and we got engaged. Bought a house together and will move in next month. Just two days ago, I found out he cheated on me; he had sex two times with a woman he met on a businesstrip three months ago. He said that since that last cheating night, he realized he only wants me and wants to be with me forever, hence the engagement etc. My friends say I shouldnt be with him, since they see it as a materialistic relationship and think he will cheat more/is hidden stuff behind my back. My family sees him as the perfect husband and want me to stay with him forever & they are willing to ignore the fact he cheated on me. Maybe it is my own fault, people have said that I am very needy and can act like a spoiled princess. But he is still the perfect man in my eyes. I cannot imagine a life without him, especially not now I am pregnant and engaged! Soo… what am I supposed to do? I love him very much and I know he loves me & our family wants us to be together, especially mine love xo
stillafool Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Well since you and your family don't mind you being married to a Cheater as long as he provides cash I guess it's okay. Do you have a question you would like to ask? 1
marcjb Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 (edited) There is no excuse for cheating. He has bought you out for your sympathy, made you think that it's somehow YOUR fault that HE cheated and it has apparently worked. Do not be surprised if he cheats again. He knows that he is able to do whatever he wants without consequences. Edited August 4, 2014 by marcjb
No Limit Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 This wasn't the first time he cheated on a business trip, just the first time you noticed. Who cares what your family wants. What is it that you want? Because the least you can expect from that guy is being faithful.
CarrieT Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Here is why you should reconsider getting married. You are not grown up yet. Yes, I know that legally, you are an adult, but medical studies show that the cerebral cortex -- that part of your brain which helps you make intelligent decisions -- isn't fully attached until you are 26 or 27. Read about here. This means that in about six years - when you start turning 26 and 27 - you are going to feel ENTIRELY DIFFERENT about this guy who was your first. Those of us that have gone through this process can attest that the years from early 20s to late 20s are a huge period of change in how we think about who we are and what we want. So right now you can't see a life without this guy. But I guarantee that he can see a life without you and that is one of the reasons he so easily was able to cheat on you. And will probably do so again.
d0nnivain Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 This guy started dating you when he was a 21 year old man & you were a 15 year old child. The beginning doesn't give me much confidence in his character or ethics. You already know he will cheat on you when you are married. Are you willing to put up with all that entails, including the health risks that he will contract a disease & give it to you? You may have to make this decision without your parents. I don't have much confidence in them since they threw you to this wolf when you were only 15. 1
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