Mjm1014 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 My girlfriend is a massage therapist and recently she got a client that constantly texts her and tries to get her to do things with her (go on dates and skydive)...she tells him that she loves me and if she goes skydiving then I have to come along too...problem is they keep texting. He sent her a text today saying when he gets back from vacation we are all going on a "date" (the three of us to skydive). It's really annoying because she says he asks about me a lot and it seems like he is jealous of me because he always talks bad about how I'm a pilot and prob hook up with tons of flight attendants-clearly this guy is trying to turn me into a bad guy. My gf says he sends her texts almost everyday asking if they can meet up and she thinks it's weird but for her to keep talking to him is odd. My gf said in the past she wants to keep it civil since he tips her a lot and doesn't want to lose his business.. I know if I confront my girlfriend she will get upset because I don't "trust her"...what should I do? Also I've seen the guy and no homo he doesn't seem very attractive so I don't see how she could be attracted to him but I guess I could be wrong
deathandtaxes Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 It sounds like your gf may have a huge issue with setting boundaries with clients. It could be that or she kinda likes this guy and the attention so she is not willing to tell him to keep it strictly business. This is a conversation worth having. But you have to come to her from a position of love, not jealousy. 2
mammasita Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Your GF is 200% wrong. She's a massage therapist, no where in that job description does it read exchanging numbers and texting clients. Let me guess, she's young and loves attention. Does she change her profile pic on Facebook everyday? Does she have a ton of selfies? 3
Stumble Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Errr hellooo...he tipped her a lot because he wants to sleep with her, did you tell your GF that? She should know better. How can she think that it is okay to go and date another guy? And bringing you along? WTF. If someone tells me oh my bf is a pilot he probably is a womaniser, I would never speak to that person who speaks bad of my bf ever again. Okay he is her client but she needs to respect you!!
Stumble Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Well don't tell her that he wants to sleep with her but you know what I mean. Explain to her why he tips her because there is a reason for it which is not just a professional reason
Keenly Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Sometimes people can think that talking about or declaring you are in a relationship is the extent of what you need to do in order to constitute as your loyalties " due diligence " . That doesn't thenean you can keep talking to this person. This guy keeps asking for dates, and your girlfriend keeps talking to him? and that's extremely shady. All this scenario takes is one fight between you guys and then boom she's cheating on you.
No Limit Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Does her massage profession type require a cellphone during work? No? Then tell your GF to go NC with this guy. If she continues kick her to the curb.
The Way I Am Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 How much in tips are we talking? If it's some insane amount, maybe she is letting him get away with it for the tips. If it's not super high and she's not hurting to pay her bills, I think the money is an excuse. Because it's not enough to put up with that behavior from a guy she's not into.
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 My girlfriend is a massage therapist and recently she got a client that constantly texts her and tries to get her to do things with her (go on dates and skydive)...she tells him that she loves me and if she goes skydiving then I have to come along too...problem is they keep texting. He sent her a text today saying when he gets back from vacation we are all going on a "date" (the three of us to skydive). It's really annoying because she says he asks about me a lot and it seems like he is jealous of me because he always talks bad about how I'm a pilot and prob hook up with tons of flight attendants-clearly this guy is trying to turn me into a bad guy. My gf says he sends her texts almost everyday asking if they can meet up and she thinks it's weird but for her to keep talking to him is odd. My gf said in the past she wants to keep it civil since he tips her a lot and doesn't want to lose his business.. I know if I confront my girlfriend she will get upset because I don't "trust her"...what should I do? Also I've seen the guy and no homo he doesn't seem very attractive so I don't see how she could be attracted to him but I guess I could be wrong She doesn't know how to set boundaries for her work/business. She has no need to be texting her clients. That needs to be addressed as well as her not telling him to back off.
Dork Vader Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 It is time for her to end the relationship she formed with this man. It's a very toxic situation and it is creating issues in your relationship. Your girl friend needs to understand that clients are clients. They do not need her personal number. If that is part of her business then she needs to learn how to set boundaries with Clients. It does not matter how much this guy pays her or how much he tips. No amount of money is worth compromising your commitment and morals. Just talk to her about it and tell her she needs to end the relationship she has formed with this man. That includes him being a client in the future.
bubbaganoosh Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Sounds like this guy wants "Happy ending" wink, wink. All in all I think that you should let her know that your not real thrilled with all the texting and this guy is hitting on her and if she isn't aware of it which I doubt, then make her aware of it. Ask her how she would feel if it was you and a female friend always yacking it up with text messages and if she wouldn't feel the same way. Not to mention that he's filling her head up with doubts about you and that's dirty pool in my book and I would let her know that and your not going to put up with it any longer. If she loves you then she'll make the changes but and it's a big BUT. She can stop with the texts but this bum is still going to see her for his daily/weekly/monthly rub down so IMO, you got a problem either way. Sorry for being a downer.
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