Boymeetsgirl Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Found this.. it's pretty much exactly what happened to me! Any chance of reconciliation in this instance? All thoughts are welcome. "If you think back, you will probably admit that you weren't making your girlfriend feel safe and secure in your relationship. Before you broke up you were scared. You could see that things were getting bad. She was slipping away from you. Then, after she broke up with you things got worse. You were desperate to get her back so you tried anything and everything to persuade her to change her mind. In short, you weren't being yourself. There was no connection as you pleaded with her or tried to force her to feel something for you again. If you're honest you will admit that you were acting like a scared, desperate little rabbit. Women can sense fear and desperation and the don't like it. These emotions send a message that something is wrong with you and as a result she rejected you. While you were doing everything in your power to make your girlfriend love you, this other guy was her refuge. While you were basically pushing her away with your behavior, the other man was there by her side listening to her and agreeing with whatever she had to say. It was easy for him. He probably didn't have to try at all to win her over. He became her best friend, her confidante and the one that she felt understood her better than anyone else in the world. He created a connection with her"
hoping2heal Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Yeah, so... About that whole passage, there's no excuse for jumping to another man (or woman) whilst in a relationship because your current partner is not meeting your needs. If something is lacking in your relationship, you talk to your current boyfriend (or girlfriend) about it, and you get it sorted. If your current partner just simply cannot meet that need for x,y,z reason then leaving the relationship is always an option. It seems that a person who does this usually has or will make a pattern of doing it, so they really aren't worth trying to "get back" in the first place. 2
OK_computer Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Yeah, so... About that whole passage, there's no excuse for jumping to another man (or woman) whilst in a relationship because your current partner is not meeting your needs. If something is lacking in your relationship, you talk to your current boyfriend (or girlfriend) about it, and you get it sorted. If your current partner just simply cannot meet that need for x,y,z reason then leaving the relationship is always an option. It seems that a person who does this usually has or will make a pattern of doing it, so they really aren't worth trying to "get back" in the first place. Typical White Knighting right there. I've had my ex slip between my fingers just like that. She'll do it to him too, and he'll be left high and dry, desperate and lonely like I was.
SoThatHappened Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Yeah, so... About that whole passage, there's no excuse for jumping to another man (or woman) whilst in a relationship because your current partner is not meeting your needs. If something is lacking in your relationship, you talk to your current boyfriend (or girlfriend) about it, and you get it sorted. If your current partner just simply cannot meet that need for x,y,z reason then leaving the relationship is always an option. It seems that a person who does this usually has or will make a pattern of doing it, so they really aren't worth trying to "get back" in the first place. This ^^^ !!! I was going to respond to the OP but no reason to after this.
lauri Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Love is a choice. You choose to stay loyal to a person and work things out. Ultimately, each situation is different but I do strongly believe that its the guys responsibility to maintain that attraction and interest level in him..but that doesn't excuse a guy or girl jumping from one relationship to another. When I'm with someone, I make sure to avoid putting myself into situations that could ruin what I have with someone With the experience from my last breakup it allows me to pick up on those clues a little bit better. Its easier to understand the concepts rather than actually applying then of course.
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