martys Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Hi, Please don't think I'm a bad guy, I'm really not... But anyway, I have known this girl for a few years, but only recently for about 2 weeks have we started talking properly because we both started working at the same place. I'm 25, she's 20. We get on extremely well, we both have the same sense of humour, so we laugh and joke around every day pretty much. Then about 5 days ago things got a bit flirty... Saying flirtatious things to each other, her asking me to give her a leg massage, looking at me with seductive looks, cheeky smiles, etc. I could tell she likes me, looking at me constantly, always there around me, very smiley, I catch her looking at me all the time, where she smiles and looks away after... All that stuff. Then 2 days ago she stopped working at the place I currently work at, she found another job. So we started talking on Facebook... Where she was asking questions, like when she can book herself in for me to give her that massage, and she hopes it will be a full body massage, and basically asking me to pick her up and **** her, to put it bluntly. But it didn't happen. I was holding back a little because I knew it was wrong, since I knew she has a boyfriend. The next day she messages me on Facebook telling me that she was sorry, to forget the whole conversation we had, she loves her boyfriend and it was wrong for her to do this, she only did it because she never sees him that much and she loved the attention... To which I said it's OK, you did the right thing, I'm sorry too and not too worry, and we have left it at that. I'm feeling a little low I guess. I know what we did was wrong, but I do like her, and I do know she likes me... Just looking for advice I suppose!
marcjb Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 What is there to really say besides if this girl would do that to her boyfriend, why would you even consider being with her? She would do it to you too. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 She was lonely. You were there. The attention felt good. Although she slipped, she pulled back before things really got out of hand & regrets her actions. Enjoy the memory but otherwise forget about it. If she breaks up with her BF she knows where to find you.
AnneT1985 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 I am in full agreement with the others. Best of luck to you!
Phoe Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 RUN. Get away from her and the situation. It will be nothing but problems. 2
Author martys Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 Thanks for the advice everyone, I will follow it! 1
eching Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 One of my closest friends is a girl like this. What you have to understand is that she really doesn't feel anything for you. What she said about her boyfriend was absolutely true in that because he didn't give her enough attention, she went looking for it elsewhere. Really awesome of you to not go for her while she was vulnerable and sticking to your morals. 1
zack.cole.graves Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 You don't have to stay away from her. You just have to STOP FLIRTING BACK. It's okay to be close with the girl especially if you like her. But you have to know your limits. If you really want this girl, you just have to wait for her. I'm pretty sure you are not stupid and you know what's the right thing. Just be yourself. Be that "try-and-not-to-destroy-relationships" kind of guy.
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