mysticalstar Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 Hey everyone. Need a little advice I think. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and things have been going good. The first 4 months were amazing.. but then again...its always amazing in the beginning of relationships. Well lately i have been feeling like I am the only one in it who has been giving the full 100% and i'm getting very frusterated. He has been getting a little short with me lately i mean not always but he does get way more crabby than he normally does. I know he really does like me but sometimes i just don't understand him. I dont know...maybe this is why I like him so much. Another thing that I honestly can't stand and it just hurts my feelings is when we go places together he walks ahead of me and never with me. I have said something about it to him...and he will walk beside me for a little bit and then go back to his old way. I dont konw maybe i am being a little anal but its rude to walk ahead of your significant other i think. In the beginning he was not like this. I still really do like him a lot. I just feel like I do everything. Do any of you have any good advice for me? I want him to be like he was in the beginning. I know relationships are not easy and need work at but i sometimes think i'm the only one giving it my all. Thanks for your help.
curiousnycgirl Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 Sounds like you've hit what I like to call the "comfortable stage." He feels comfortable with you and is no longer thinking about every little thing he says and does. That is not necessarily a bad thing, but you need to learn how to deal with it. When he gets crabby do you take it personally? After a few months with my b/f he started snapping at me - I took this very personally, felt hurt, and started to be afraid of saying something to set him off. Then I realized that was counterproductive and the next time he snapped I said "don't yell at me!" Only took a few times for him to stop/change this behaviour. As far as feeling like you give 100% - are you making it too easy for him? Does he know what you would like him to do (other than walk slower)? Men don't really think the same way we do - we pay attention to what's important to our friends, and do our best to make them happy - men need more direction. They want to make us happy - they just don't know how. You need to meet him halfway here, give him some clues. I hope this helps!!
allina Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 It could be just a few things that can be worked out just by calmly bringing it up to him or it could be the beginning of him turning in to an a**h***. This post really got to me because a little over 2 years ago I started dating an awesome guy, first 3-4 months were great, then he started being snappy with me and doing that walking ahead of me trhing (I know what you mean it is rude) His rude behavior escalated to him calling me a ****ing cunt one night when he was drunk. I of course dumped him but was amazed how quickly things went downhill, just keep your eyes open.
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