aprilisi Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Been online dating a while men will message constantly, some even give me attitude when I don't get back to them right away. One man kept texting me at work asking why I was quiet. A couple days later I texted him while he was at work and he snapped at me to leave him alone while he was working. Had one guy last night who went on a rant about women not knowing a good thing when they see it when I didn't respond in one hour. I hate this. In my experience the men like this are the quickest to disappear. The last ex was good at this for 6 months and he would also get upset like this. He texted often, before the slow fade started. So how are women supposed to know if you're truly interested? You communicate well, you take us out on dates, you act like you care. Then you just disappear after 6 months.
Dork Vader Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 The EXACT same can be said for woman. Except you don't message men. I've had all sorts of wonderful experiences with net dating. I had one tell me she was ready for a serious relationship. Lead me on to think that we might have a future together if things went well. Wouldn't you know it she was sexting just about every guy that she was no related too. Eventually she dumped me for another guy.. She would not admit to it but did blame for the end of the relationship. I've had others that acted interested in a serious relationship. Only to be a meal and drinks ticket. Net dating can be just as difficult for men as it is for women. Does it get old yeah.. I've become so fed up with all the BS I've had to deal with that I have suspended my OKC account. the next 3 months I'm going to focus on myself. Then I might try one of the more serious dating web sites again. 1
44tt Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 The EXACT same can be said for woman. Except you don't message men. I've had all sorts of wonderful experiences with net dating. I had one tell me she was ready for a serious relationship. Lead me on to think that we might have a future together if things went well. Wouldn't you know it she was sexting just about every guy that she was no related too. Eventually she dumped me for another guy.. She would not admit to it but did blame for the end of the relationship. I've had others that acted interested in a serious relationship. Only to be a meal and drinks ticket. Net dating can be just as difficult for men as it is for women. Does it get old yeah.. I've become so fed up with all the BS I've had to deal with that I have suspended my OKC account. the next 3 months I'm going to focus on myself. Then I might try one of the more serious dating web sites again. was the meal and drinks on the 1st date?
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Been online dating a while men will message constantly, some even give me attitude when I don't get back to them right away. One man kept texting me at work asking why I was quiet. A couple days later I texted him while he was at work and he snapped at me to leave him alone while he was working. Had one guy last night who went on a rant about women not knowing a good thing when they see it when I didn't respond in one hour. I hate this. In my experience the men like this are the quickest to disappear. The last ex was good at this for 6 months and he would also get upset like this. He texted often, before the slow fade started. So how are women supposed to know if you're truly interested? You communicate well, you take us out on dates, you act like you care. Then you just disappear after 6 months. People (both men and women) need to learn that texting is not for immediate responses. If you need an immediate response, call the person. This isn't necessarily an issue with a man not being into you, just that they don't know how to text. 2
44tt Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 People (both men and women) need to learn that texting is not for immediate responses. If you need an immediate response, call the person. This isn't necessarily an issue with a man not being into you, just that they don't know how to text. right, lots of people think it's instant messaging lol
Dork Vader Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 was the meal and drinks on the 1st date? LOL No.. Basically all she had time for was going out to eat and having a few drinks. I was entertainment for her.. That was it and that was all she wanted.
44tt Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 LOL No.. Basically all she had time for was going out to eat and having a few drinks. I was entertainment for her.. That was it and that was all she wanted. Well I stay on the lookout for that type of women because if she is not contacting and showing interest there is no way I am asking her out to go anywhere. I believe in wise spending lol
Author aprilisi Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 I try to avoid texting now. One man asked how were we supposed to get to know one another I don't know, maybe an actual phone call?
44tt Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 I try to avoid texting now. One man asked how were we supposed to get to know one another I don't know, maybe an actual phone call? lol, what was his answer to that? "Im not a phone person?"
Author aprilisi Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 It was I don't like talking on the phone. Well I see texting as too cold and impersonal. Even email is better I think. But he didn't want to email either.
44tt Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 It was I don't like talking on the phone. Well I see texting as too cold and impersonal. Even email is better I think. But he didn't want to email either. so he wanted to speed up the meeting process?
Mrs Carter Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 So how are women supposed to know if you're truly interested? You communicate well, you take us out on dates, you act like you care. Then you just disappear after 6 months. Make sure you boundaries are firmly kept and they are not walking over you, pushing their own agenda. Those that are unreasonable and unstable will be filtered out quickly this way.
Author aprilisi Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 Women are taught that the relationship process is a game. The man chases you. I'm beginning to see the pros of this. I always message or call a man, show my interest. Yet they never stick around once they get what they want. And no, I'm not giving it up too soon. I will kisss and touch. I waited to have sex with one guy for 3 weeks, he stuck around for 2 more once the abacadabra...he disappeared. So I am done playing it straight, being honest and open about my feelings. I hate to say it, but its time for me to play that game too. Maybe that's why girls don't text men, why we're hard to read...we've been played so much so we go to the old fashioned Rules.
Mrs Carter Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Women are taught that the relationship process is a game. The man chases you. I'm beginning to see the pros of this. I always message or call a man, show my interest. Yet they never stick around once they get what they want. And no, I'm not giving it up too soon. I will kisss and touch. I waited to have sex with one guy for 3 weeks, he stuck around for 2 more once the abacadabra...he disappeared. So I am done playing it straight, being honest and open about my feelings. I hate to say it, but its time for me to play that game too. Maybe that's why girls don't text men, why we're hard to read...we've been played so much so we go to the old fashioned Rules. It's quite straight forward really: guys that know what to say in the beginning, those that handle the initial stages almost perfectly, who know what to say are the players, they are the ones with lots of practice. That's how you know. 1
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 I try to avoid texting now. One man asked how were we supposed to get to know one another I don't know, maybe an actual phone call? And if you're going to talk on the phone, why not just talk in person? 1
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Maybe that's why girls don't text men, why we're hard to read...we've been played so much so we go to the old fashioned Rules. Both sides need to be forward and honest about what they're looking for and whether they see the relationship progressing. Women also like to just go slient and make the man wonder whether she's not interested, dead, or just "playing the game" and waiting for him to approach her.
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