mguevara_209 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Hello, I am 22 years of age and so is my ex. We were together for 8 months, and he met a girl in his science class and left me. Here is the story: We work at our school library, and in the beginning everyone supported us being together. He was just the perfect guy! He was super loving and charming; it was too good to be true. As time went by, I noticed that he had a very short temper and would not even let me hang out with my own friends. If I was on Facebook, he would message me asking me which guys I was talking to. He would also bring up my ex and say bad things about him and call him names. He was never okay with me even taking a fitness class with one of my co-workers who is a girl because he said that I was only supposed to work out with him. As you can see, I let this guy control me. Now that I look back, I realize that I don't deserve that. I am just very upset over the fact that I let him do all these things to me and as soon as he meets another girl, he leaves me. He started his class this past June. A week after his class started, I noticed him acting a little weird. He would not want to text, call me or hangout with me. I asked him what was going on, and he said he was busy. I would go on Facebook, and this guy was literally on the whole day. This happened for two weeks, and after those two weeks, he broke up with me and said that he wanted to be single. I found out that during these two weeks, he had been online talking to and getting to know this new girl. The day after we broke up, he hung out with her and a week after that he took her to his house. He didn't even wait three weeks after our breakup to ask her out. I do not want to be with this guy ever again; I just feel so betrayed because I knew he was interested in this person while him and I were together and even lied to me about it. I just feel like he betrayed me because I was always there for him and cared about him very much. He was very paranoid about me talking to other guys, even having conversations with my other male co-workers. This guy has also had over ten girlfriends and none of them have lasted over a year. I also know that this guy has left one of his ex's for another girl. Would you consider this an emotional affair, overlapping or a rebound?
harrybrown Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Good to get this player out of your life. Time to move on to less traveled pastures. Sorry for your pain.
music_and_poetry Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 It's either overlapping or a rebound. Time will tell. One guy I dated dumped me and started dating a fat blonde chick and took her to prom. She IMed me to harass me when I hadn't even commented on their "relationship". Real peach. Their relationship time span was 3 weeks. Rebound. When that ended he seemed to hate me even more. Another ex left me and started dating another chick 1 week after our two week relationship ended. To be fair, I had a suspicion something was up between them. Well they've been together for over 3 years and are engaged with a kid together. I say good riddance You just never know....
hoping2heal Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 I would consider you lucky that he decided to dump you, since you didn't have the strength at the time to put an end to a relationship in which you were objectified and treated like a toy, instead of a human being.
devilish innocent Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 It seems like people do this more and more these days. I guess "overlapping" is the term that people who engage in this behavior would want to call it. They're starting a new relationship before ending the old one. But I would say if you haven't told your previous partner it's over, and you're getting involved with somebody new, then that's still an affair. I wouldn't consider it a rebound. A rebound to me is when you're only with the new person to get over the last relationship. That doesn't seem to be what happened here. Regardless, even though it wasn't the right thing for him to do, it's a really good thing this happened. This seems to be what you needed to see the truth about this relationship. Now he's somebody else's problem. You're free to move on. It really is a fortunate thing for you. 1
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