JBlackstone Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 This is a bit of an angry post. I am four weeks post breakup and I think I am coping pretty well. I had a small stay in depression and denial land but mostly I've been happy and looking forward to the future and it's possibilities. I've been doing a lot of soul searching, self love practices, yoga, and meditation. These activities are keeping me in a positive state of mind, mostly. But of course I am human and I have my moments. Since the breakup I've had some pretty weird dreams about my ex and sometimes the feelings they bring stay with me during the day. I feel I'm pretty well equipped to deal with my emotions but there are times when id like to lean on a friend. Here is my issue, I feel like most of my friends are not interested in being leaned on. They will respond to me with comments like "Don't worry about it" or "don't put your energy into him" or "let it go" then that's it. Conversations over. Yes I understand that I should be moving on and I am, not one part of me wants to return to him, but this is part of my coping to talk things through. Am I being too needy or are my friends not compassionate enough? Is talking about my emotions as they come up dragging out the breakup or moving it along? Has anyone else encountered this? I do have to same some of my friends have been with the same guy since we were 20, so they have no idea what a break up is like. Maybe they really do think it's just that easy to get over it!
Shields boy Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Yes I understand where you are coming from. You just have to find the right friend who will be prepared to listen to you. It feels good when you get the emotional demons off your chest to someone close, and who will offer their perspective. I know the type of friends who just say "move on" and "let-go" as if it's easy to do. These people have never had their heartbroken and just do not have a clue of how painful it is.
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