Author reservoirdog1 Posted April 6, 2005 Author Posted April 6, 2005 Well, you did want an update WWIU... Things are progressing. Or at least, I think they are. Just really slowly. We got together one additional time, a couple of weeks ago, but have talked a number of times since. Finding points of intersection schedule-wise has been hell. She's a nurse and often works nights, and she has a daughter who's with her something like 70% of the time. I have my kids too, about 35% of the time. We were scheduled to get together the Monday after Easter but she had to cancel -- turned out she had to unexpectedly receive her daughter that day. Apologized and asked to reschedule. Since then, things have changed a bit... she's actually started initiating some communications, totally unprompted. So in that regard I feel like I've crossed some magical hurdle, or demonstrated that I'm interested, or tenacious, or something. In one of our conversations last week, I asked her (I hate doing this!) how she felt about the way things were going so far. She said she liked things so far, but our schedules were preventing more frequent dates. Said it depended what I was OK with and how patient I was able to be. I said I wasn't in a hurry, just liked to know where I stood. I was heading away for the weekend and she asked me to call her when I got back. Anyway, so I was away for the weekend. She's working most of this weekend and has her daughter, and is away for about a week after that with her daughter. She says she does want to get together again; I suggested sometime during the week after she returns, and she said that will work well as she's not working nights that week. So, if this is a runaround, it's elaborate and drawn out. And no problem, the logistical issues are a bitch. I like her a lot... I think a lot will hinge on the next date. Or, maybe I should've given up on this already and am acting like a chump? What can I say... I like her.
whichwayisup Posted April 8, 2005 Posted April 8, 2005 Res, I can't see her giving you the run around...Personally I can't see her doing that. I would really hope someone in her position (meaning, a nurse with crazy hours, a 75% daughter who is there, divorced etc) would play a game...She says she's interested, she is... Hang in there and you'll know when you see her next. In time though if things have not moved along enough then it's come on out and come clean time...But I'm pretty convinced that you'll be a smilin' man soon... She sounds nice and sincere, so don't go looking for stuff eh. And hey, you're no chump baby! Thanks for the update!
Mz. Pixie Posted April 8, 2005 Posted April 8, 2005 She's interested- I'm sure. Dating when you're divorced, work and have kids is TOUGH- a logistical nightmare. My Bf and I have our custody times aligned so that when he has his son, I have my kids- that makes it easier! Still it is a scheduling nightmare at times, and definitely not many "spur of the moment" get togethers!
Author reservoirdog1 Posted April 23, 2005 Author Posted April 23, 2005 Definite progress this evening. Had her over for dinner (I cooked). Nothing too heavy, physically... but some very nice "making out" (I put that in quotes because I can't believe I'm using it... it's like being in highschool again). I told her that I liked her a lot, that I thought she was beautiful and fun to be with, and she really seemed to like hearing that. Then she asked what my schedule was like coming up, and we should be getting together again early this week. The girl is definitely interested... I think I've satisfied myself on that. I just need to take it slow, which is OK for me... I've done the rush-into-bed thing a few times in the last year but I'm still single. Time for fresh tactics!
whichwayisup Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Glad you updated here Resdog...I actually was thinking of that and see that you've posted! So ya did some "makin' out" eh? Yeah, that is highschool Lingo, but hey! IF you're feeling that way, GOOD for you! I do hope it gets better. One question...You say she liked hearing that you like her and all, but did she tell you that she felt the same way? You didn't menton that...Just wondering... Fresh tactics! Well, when you need afew, let me know!
Author reservoirdog1 Posted April 26, 2005 Author Posted April 26, 2005 One question...You say she liked hearing that you like her and all, but did she tell you that she felt the same way? You didn't menton that...Just wondering... Nope, she didn't say that -- she said "thank you" in a sweet kind of way. That was the exact point at which she asked what my schedule was like and when we could get together again. (Actually, "thank you" is what my ex-wife said to me many years ago when I first told her I loved her... a return of the statement came shortly thereafter.) We were supposed to get together for lunch yesterday, but she phoned about an hour before and had to cancel... apparently her girlfriend's husband just left her. However, she then asked if I was free on Sunday. Which is the day before she heads away for six days or so. So, she seems to be doing her best to find opportunities to see me! Anyway, we ended up talking on the phone last night for over three hours (we both had our kids with us). Covered some "new ground", shall we say. The conclusion I'm coming to is that she's a pretty cautious person when it comes to her feelings, and is hesitant to put herself out there in that way. Which means I've got my work cut out for me in that regard. I'm cool with that... nothing wrong with a challenge!
whichwayisup Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Well, if she's worth the time and effort, GO For it. My motto has always been, never rush a good thing...Seems you have a good thing going and so just enjoy it for what it is now. No long term plans yet there definately seems to be something good there! LOL, seems I'm the only one now who is following your life! LMAO! Kinda funny eh. Oh well, I'm just glad to see ya happy after what you've been through in the past. You definately deserve somebody great and who makes you feel happy!
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