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anyone here go complete NC with an ex while on BAD TERMS with them

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music_and_poetry Established Member

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I've done NC every time regardless of bad blood or not (and in some cases there were). NC is really the only option. No sense in being where you're not wanted! ;)

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Cav - Are ya back cause your new girl didn't work out, or just popping in for a bit??

 

Hey what's up bro!!! Hope all is well. Nope didn't get dumped. All is well. It actually might be headed toward marriage believe it or not. Just decided to pop in. Miss you guys and sometimes....even the searing pain of the BU hahaha. It was great experience in retrospect :) How are u? Cav

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KatZee Established Member

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Yup. My last ex. Honestly, the blood is so bad between us (at least from my end) that I look back at our relationship and can't even find one redeeming quality about him, or our relationship. It started on a foundation of lies, was then built with drama and crumbled with cheating and emotional abuse from his end.

I reamed him the last time we spoke and it was the best thing I ever did. I never said anything while we were together, just let him act however and I rolled over and took it.

 

When I got the chance to tell him what I really thought of him, I took the opportunity and ran with it. I wiped him right out of my life at that moment. It's over 2 years later and I still don't regret it, I would never apologize for anything I said, and if he ever found a loop hole after being blocked, & deleted from Facebook, email, my phone, and my life, and tried to apologize, I would laugh in his face.

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Wings Of Love Established Member

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My ex and I didn't get into a fight or anything, but he became so two-faced after the breakup and disrespected me with a bunch of ridiculous lies about how I'd tried to kill myself. I was hurt and upset after the breakup, but not suicidal.

 

The final straw was when he started posting all over FB about a girl (that he had told me while we were still together that he didn't even know) and how much he missed her and wanted to be with her. I feel sure he did this deliberately to hurt me. So I deleted and blocked him. That was October and I've never looked back.

 

So we never really cleared the air and neither of us have ever reached out to apologise. I'm certain that he never will, but if he did...well I think I'd simply ignore it. Answering would only invite further contact. :/

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Ordinaryday Established Member

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My ex and I didn't get into a fight or anything, but he became so two-faced after the breakup and disrespected me with a bunch of ridiculous lies about how I'd tried to kill myself. I was hurt and upset after the breakup, but not suicidal.

 

The final straw was when he started posting all over FB about a girl (that he had told me while we were still together that he didn't even know) and how much he missed her and wanted to be with her. I feel sure he did this deliberately to hurt me. So I deleted and blocked him. That was October and I've never looked back.

 

So we never really cleared the air and neither of us have ever reached out to apologise. I'm certain that he never will, but if he did...well I think I'd simply ignore it. Answering would only invite further contact. :/

 

I just dont see the point of contacting an ex, and any ex who contacted me to apologise or breadcrumb me or something, well I just dont appreciate it:

 

I always think "what is the point"?

 

I was in love with them, wanted to be with them, they decided I was not good enough for them so they dumped me, I have not heard from them in 8 months and now out of the blue they send me a "happy birthday" text message. what am I supposed to do? respond with "thanks" and then they will ignore that response and I will never hear from them for another five years when out of the blue they send me a "hi how are you?" message on facebook?

 

- I think to that "what is the point"??? better to just remove them from your life and move on.

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I just dont see the point of contacting an ex, and any ex who contacted me to apologise or breadcrumb me or something, well I just dont appreciate it:

 

I always think "what is the point"?

 

I was in love with them, wanted to be with them, they decided I was not good enough for them so they dumped me, I have not heard from them in 8 months and now out of the blue they send me a "happy birthday" text message. what am I supposed to do? respond with "thanks" and then they will ignore that response and I will never hear from them for another five years when out of the blue they send me a "hi how are you?" message on facebook?

 

- I think to that "what is the point"??? better to just remove them from your life and move on.

 

My feelings exactly. I made the mistake of allowing him to remain in my life for nearly 3 months after he decided I wasn't good enough. But once I'd cut him out of my life a huge weight seemed to lift and I've never felt any need to contact him since then.

 

Birthday messages from an ex just seem pointless to me. He obviously didn't say anything on my birthday (though he struggled to remember it when we were a couple anyway) but I'd already made up my mind to ignore him if he did.

 

The way I see it, he made the decision to end it and in doing so, forfeited any right to have anything to do with me.

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I have a few times. Things ended bad and then went straight NC. Haven't been on speaking terms and lying, cheating dumpers haven't contacted me to apologize. If they did it would be too little, too late. I've never lied, cheated etc and always the dumpee, so I've got nothing to apologize for.

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I spent the entire time in my on and off relationship apologizing for my shortcomings to my ex gf. I was dumped 3 out of the 4 times and each time I forgave her for her transgressions. And for what? To be dumped again? Never be treated as I should have been?

 

At this point, I have an immense hatred for her for the trauma she caused me. I will never apologize for how she treated me and left me when I was there for her during the hardest moments of her life.

 

Worst part is she is managing to take my friends that I worked years building friendships with. It's so depressing.

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