Hella Lost Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 I'm not sure what category to put this in so I'll go with this. Me & my ex broke up over a year ago. She left me for someone else and cut me off completely. It's been really depressing for me. 2 Months ago I met someone new, and we've been dating ever since. It's great but, I feel like something is missing in this new relationship. I think back to when I was with my ex, and how happy I was. I was moping around Social Media and came across pictures of my ex, and she's more gorgeous now. I want to go back to my ex, but shes with that *******, and we're strangers now. I know this isn't fair to my current GF, I know she loves me, but I still harbor feelings toward my ex. Any advice on what to do?!?
Allumere Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 break if off with current GF because your heart isn't open to love her (or anyone else at this point) and it isn't fair to her at all. As far as your ex I would say there is nothing you can do. Lets see, she left you for someone else...ok, now say it out loud 100 times...oh and she is still with them. Hmmm...so if she left you for him how did she know that was the perfect lily pad to land??? Did she spare you from day one when she felt a spark for him or did she take her time testing the waters while keeping you around. I would say these things together would be enough to at least piss you off a bit. And she isn't all that much better looking...you just have her up on that high chair. It does stink to still have feelings. Unfortunately the head and heart tend to be two stubborn brats that refuse to talk...when they do, you'll be fine. 1
Missy0724 Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 YES! Be a grown up. This is not high school. Be responsible with someone else's feelings! It's not right to be with someone exclusively, in a committed, intimate relationship with someone, and still be harboring feelings for another! Sure, maybe think of other's you've loved in the past, smile when you think of the memories, that kind of thinking is healthy. But if you have feelings for another, you questioning if you want them back, you do want them back, you are attracted to them... not fair to your new partner! To me that is emotional cheating. Because you are thinking of another in an intimate way and keeping it from your new girlfriend. How do you think she would feel if she knew this? And you looking at your exe's pics, online? Yes, part ways until you either process and end your feelings for the other person, or take action and try to get back with this ex you are pining for. You can't have your cake and eat it to!
d0nnivain Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 You can't have your EX back. The fact that you still want her a year later says you're not ready for the new person in your life & that person is just a filler. She's your rebound. Let her go, It's not fair to her for you to use her to fill the hole left by your EX.
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