Ashley S Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 So if you read my latest posts then you'll know who this is about. Everyone told me to just forget about him and I am. But what I don't understand is, he called my house phone, and he's speaking to my mother. My mom posted a pic of me on her facebook, and he said "Why did you post a pic of your daughter? There are creeps on there! They are going to hit her up" My mom said " My friends are the only ones who can see it. It was old men and women that liked her pic, and some of the older men are married with kids her age. I love my daughter! I can post a pic of her if I want to!" Then he said "I wouldn't have done that! She got 50 likes and they are all by men!" Then he went onto to say he wanted to go to a baseball game with me and my dad, WHAT?!?! Why does he care if he has a girlfriend? I am just honestly wondering about this, is this game playing? I really just want honest answers. I know to move on, and I am. I just don't get why it would bother him for my mom to put up a pic of me on Facebook and he gets upset that men liked it? What does this sound like to you?
ExpatInItaly Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Yes, he's playing games. How many times do you need us to repeat that to you?And your family needs to stop engaging him, for heaven's sake. Your mom doesn't need to respond to him at all. She doesn't need to justify or defend her choices to him. Do not respond to him and his silly request to attend an event with you and your father. You really need to get out there and meet other guys, and learn to ignore this guy once and for all. Same goes for your family members. 1
smackie9 Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 This guy sounds like a freakin creep. He is stalking you, talking to your parents and talkin crap about a pic of you on FB, yikes cut this guy off, and for heaven sakes tell your mom to turn the security on her FB page to "private". 1
Author Ashley S Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 This guy sounds like a freakin creep. He is stalking you, talking to your parents and talkin crap about a pic of you on FB, yikes cut this guy off, and for heaven sakes tell your mom to turn the security on her FB page to "private". Yeah, well he's on my mom's friend's list, and it is was privately shared on Facebook with her Facebook friends, and he is one of them, but I just find it odd that he is so upset about the guys liking my pic when he has a girlfriend so it shouldn't matter and it shouldn't upset him period. I know what you mean though lol. It's crazy. I just really don't understand it. Thanks.
Author Ashley S Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 Yes, he's playing games. How many times do you need us to repeat that to you?And your family needs to stop engaging him, for heaven's sake. Your mom doesn't need to respond to him at all. She doesn't need to justify or defend her choices to him. Do not respond to him and his silly request to attend an event with you and your father. You really need to get out there and meet other guys, and learn to ignore this guy once and for all. Same goes for your family members. Sorry, just wanted to see what other people thought. I know what he's all about, I am just wondering. I am meeting other guys.
daisydook Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 So if you read my latest posts then you'll know who this is about. Everyone told me to just forget about him and I am. But what I don't understand is, he called my house phone, and he's speaking to my mother. My mom posted a pic of me on her facebook, and he said "Why did you post a pic of your daughter? There are creeps on there! They are going to hit her up" My mom said " My friends are the only ones who can see it. It was old men and women that liked her pic, and some of the older men are married with kids her age. I love my daughter! I can post a pic of her if I want to!" Then he said "I wouldn't have done that! She got 50 likes and they are all by men!" Then he went onto to say he wanted to go to a baseball game with me and my dad, WHAT?!?! Why does he care if he has a girlfriend? I am just honestly wondering about this, is this game playing? I really just want honest answers. I know to move on, and I am. I just don't get why it would bother him for my mom to put up a pic of me on Facebook and he gets upset that men liked it? What does this sound like to you? It sounds weird to me. Can you ask him? I would be curious enough to ask. He sounds controlling as well and I find his comments on Facebook to be over the top and creepy. As for a baseball game.......... ugh. No. Lol. I don't get it. I would ask him what his problem is and why he cares. He shouldn't. So I would ask. Good luck!!! 1
smackie9 Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 How about calling up his GF and ask her why her BF would be getting upset about guys liking your FB pic....that will shut him up. 2
Dork Vader Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Meeting other guys does not mean you are moving on. Moving on is shutting the door on that chapter of your life. It is removing him from your life. Delete him from facebook, delete him entirely from your life Nd ask your family to do so as well. I'm going through a break up right now. I deleted her from facebook And entirely from my phone. I asked her to delete my number. I asked her to never contact me again. I've closed that door. I'm dealing with the different emotions on my own.. The disappointment, the hurt, the anger, the loneliness.. The wondering if she's thinking of me.. Anytime I think about it I tell my self she isn't and she was a horrible girl friend. You can not move on until you start to shut the door. 2
2sunny Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Yeah, well he's on my mom's friend's list, and it is was privately shared on Facebook with her Facebook friends, and he is one of them, but I just find it odd that he is so upset about the guys liking my pic when he has a girlfriend so it shouldn't matter and it shouldn't upset him period. I know what you mean though lol. It's crazy. I just really don't understand it. Thanks. You're his backup plan. Ask Mom to remove him as her friend and stop communicating with him. He's meddling and has no right to! 3
Author Ashley S Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 It sounds weird to me. Can you ask him? I would be curious enough to ask. He sounds controlling as well and I find his comments on Facebook to be over the top and creepy. As for a baseball game.......... ugh. No. Lol. I don't get it. I would ask him what his problem is and why he cares. He shouldn't. So I would ask. Good luck!!! I don't want to talk to him, unfortunately I can't ask him lol. Thanks.
Author Ashley S Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 Meeting other guys does not mean you are moving on. Moving on is shutting the door on that chapter of your life. It is removing him from your life. Delete him from facebook, delete him entirely from your life Nd ask your family to do so as well. I'm going through a break up right now. I deleted her from facebook And entirely from my phone. I asked her to delete my number. I asked her to never contact me again. I've closed that door. I'm dealing with the different emotions on my own.. The disappointment, the hurt, the anger, the loneliness.. The wondering if she's thinking of me.. Anytime I think about it I tell my self she isn't and she was a horrible girl friend. You can not move on until you start to shut the door. I said I am "trying to move on" I never said I moved on. I'm sorry about your break up But I see the point you are making. I never dated him though, I was only friends with him..never had sex with him or anything. I just had deep feelings for him but he would do things that made me reconsider going further with him. It's kinda hard to just tell my family to not associate with him, cause really there was no relationship with him, and I know my dad and my brothers, oh no....haha. They will get involved and act like imbeciles! My dad is a pretty cool dude, but if you mess with his kids, it's like watch out! lol, so I know if I told my family, there would be unnecessary drama. Also I don't what my "friend" would do. He seems pretty dangerous. So I don't want his repercussions. It's a difficult situation, and I don't know how to get out of it. Thank you.
Author Ashley S Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 How about calling up his GF and ask her why her BF would be getting upset about guys liking your FB pic....that will shut him up. Ohhhhh...smackie9 you're good! Haha, high five me!
ExpatInItaly Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 I said I am "trying to move on" I never said I moved on. I'm sorry about your break up But I see the point you are making. I never dated him though, I was only friends with him..never had sex with him or anything. I just had deep feelings for him but he would do things that made me reconsider going further with him. It's kinda hard to just tell my family to not associate with him, cause really there was no relationship with him, and I know my dad and my brothers, oh no....haha. They will get involved and act like imbeciles! My dad is a pretty cool dude, but if you mess with his kids, it's like watch out! lol, so I know if I told my family, there would be unnecessary drama. Also I don't what my "friend" would do. He seems pretty dangerous. So I don't want his repercussions. It's a difficult situation, and I don't know how to get out of it. Thank you. What gives you the impression that he's dangerous? That should be all the more reason not to waste any more energy on this creep. (And yes, mulling over why he does what he does and posting threads here about it is a waste of energy) What do you intend to do with our feedback, OP? It seems you keep posting essentially the same things over and over (ie. his underhanded strategies at getting attention) We keep telling you the same things: Yes, he likes attention and playing games. No, he's not into you. I don't know what else we can offer you. You and your family need to stop feeding into the drama. Everyone needs to stop responding to him, and you should be telling them as much. Otherwise, you will never get over him. It's gone on long enough, hasn't it? And from his point of view, it's working. You're still fretting over him. He's an immature loser. Move on.
Author Ashley S Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 What gives you the impression that he's dangerous? That should be all the more reason not to waste any more energy on this creep. (And yes, mulling over why he does what he does and posting threads here about it is a waste of energy) What do you intend to do with our feedback, OP? It seems you keep posting essentially the same things over and over (ie. his underhanded strategies at getting attention) We keep telling you the same things: Yes, he likes attention and playing games. No, he's not into you. I don't know what else we can offer you. You and your family need to stop feeding into the drama. Everyone needs to stop responding to him, and you should be telling them as much. Otherwise, you will never get over him. It's gone on long enough, hasn't it? And from his point of view, it's working. You're still fretting over him. He's an immature loser. Move on. He doesn't know I am fretting over him though. Unless he reads my posts on here lol. I talked to some of my closest friends who don't know him at all, and this forum. I'm sorry if it seems like I am not taking anyone's advice, I am, but this situation popped up and I just wanted some feedback on it is all. Thanks.
preraph Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 I have to agree your mom shouldn't be posting photos of you everywhere ESPECIALLY if it's mainly old geezers liking them! But other than that, this guy is bad bad news. You must tell your mom and dad and anyone else he's trying to insinuate himself in with that he's a creep and they need to block him because he's just getting information about you and trying to control things. The fact he's doing that with you and has another woman, just double trouble. He very well is probably a stalker type from everything it sounds like. They will go try to get tight with relatives just to get info on you. Please make everyone pull the plug on this guy!!! 2
Author Ashley S Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 I have to agree your mom shouldn't be posting photos of you everywhere ESPECIALLY if it's mainly old geezers liking them! But other than that, this guy is bad bad news. You must tell your mom and dad and anyone else he's trying to insinuate himself in with that he's a creep and they need to block him because he's just getting information about you and trying to control things. The fact he's doing that with you and has another woman, just double trouble. He very well is probably a stalker type from everything it sounds like. They will go try to get tight with relatives just to get info on you. Please make everyone pull the plug on this guy!!! Well on Facebook everyone posts pics of their kids. My mom put up a normal pic of me on her Facebook, and it wasn't all men that like it, actually majority of the likes were women! It's older guys that are married and have children my age so I think they put a like up to it, cause they flaunt their daughters too. But I do agree with you! He could be dangerous, and I do have to think of a way to tell my mom and dad. It's difficult cause we never had a relationship so I can't say "Hey he's my ex, so stop talking to him!" It would actually be easier. But he's a platonic friend, so I really don't know what to say and my brothers and dad are ridiculous! So I also have to watch for that cause they will create unnecessary drama, for sure. Thank you.
2sunny Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Tell your Mom to block him. That you feel he's too focused on you and you don't feel safe with the way he over reacted. Tell her he's being inappropriate for a guy who has a girlfriend already. 2
Dork Vader Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 But look at what you are putting yourself through over this... You really only have one option. Decide what you WANT. If you want to move on with your life and find someone who will treat you right. Then you need to remove him from your life. If you're not willing to go to family due to the drama it creates. Then simply block him on Facebook. It should block all comments he makes. Problem solved.. But you're wasting your life with what you are doing now.. It goes by quick and you're a beautiful woman. Decide what you want to do and do it. Stick to your guns. The last thing you want to do is wake up to the fact that this guy is not for you.. and you have wasted god knows how much time tormenting yourself over it. Either go after it or move on with life. If you go to him and want to be with him and he plays games move on. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 He doesn't know I am fretting over him though. Unless he reads my posts on here lol. I talked to some of my closest friends who don't know him at all, and this forum. I'm sorry if it seems like I am not taking anyone's advice, I am, but this situation popped up and I just wanted some feedback on it is all. Thanks. I imagine he assumes you are, because he continues making inappropriate contact with your family. He knows they're going to speak to you. He doesn't need to read your threads here or speak to friends to guess the type of effect he's having on you. Look, your number one priority should be your own well-being. You need to speak to your parents and explain that there were some feelings involved but it didn't work out, and you'd feel better if they don't have contact with him. I don't see how that could possibly be a problem for them. You don't need to give them the details of his loser ways. Just a general idea that it's better for you not hear from/about him any more. Until you do so, I think you'll be spinning your wheels wondering why he's acting like a douche lord, because you are in close albeit indirect contact with him. 1
stillafool Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 I said I am "trying to move on" I never said I moved on. I'm sorry about your break up But I see the point you are making. I never dated him though, I was only friends with him..never had sex with him or anything. I just had deep feelings for him but he would do things that made me reconsider going further with him. It's kinda hard to just tell my family to not associate with him, cause really there was no relationship with him, and I know my dad and my brothers, oh no....haha. They will get involved and act like imbeciles! My dad is a pretty cool dude, but if you mess with his kids, it's like watch out! lol, so I know if I told my family, there would be unnecessary drama. Also I don't what my "friend" would do. He seems pretty dangerous. So I don't want his repercussions. It's a difficult situation, and I don't know how to get out of it. Thank you. Nonsense! If you told your mom and dad to unfriend this guy because he makes you uncomfortable and you feel he's dangerous you'd better believe they would delete him. What is the point of keeping him on when you are trying to forget about him. You are more important to your parents than he is. 1
Author Ashley S Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 But look at what you are putting yourself through over this... You really only have one option. Decide what you WANT. If you want to move on with your life and find someone who will treat you right. Then you need to remove him from your life. If you're not willing to go to family due to the drama it creates. Then simply block him on Facebook. It should block all comments he makes. Problem solved.. But you're wasting your life with what you are doing now.. It goes by quick and you're a beautiful woman. Decide what you want to do and do it. Stick to your guns. The last thing you want to do is wake up to the fact that this guy is not for you.. and you have wasted god knows how much time tormenting yourself over it. Either go after it or move on with life. If you go to him and want to be with him and he plays games move on. Yeah I understand! I am trying though. I am going out with different guys and hanging around friends and doing new things, so hopefully I wil find somebody else to like lol. Thank you I appreciate the compliment!
Author Ashley S Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 I imagine he assumes you are, because he continues making inappropriate contact with your family. He knows they're going to speak to you. He doesn't need to read your threads here or speak to friends to guess the type of effect he's having on you. Look, your number one priority should be your own well-being. You need to speak to your parents and explain that there were some feelings involved but it didn't work out, and you'd feel better if they don't have contact with him. I don't see how that could possibly be a problem for them. You don't need to give them the details of his loser ways. Just a general idea that it's better for you not hear from/about him any more. Until you do so, I think you'll be spinning your wheels wondering why he's acting like a douche lord, because you are in close albeit indirect contact with him. That's true! Thank you! It's just I know they'll question and I am trying to figure out how to answer those questions, and figure out a way where my brothers and my dad won't really get involved in an imbecile way. Thanks!
Author Ashley S Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 Nonsense! If you told your mom and dad to unfriend this guy because he makes you uncomfortable and you feel he's dangerous you'd better believe they would delete him. What is the point of keeping him on when you are trying to forget about him. You are more important to your parents than he is. I just worry about my dad's and my brothers reactions. They are ridiculous, they scared my last 2 boyfriends off. Cause my last boyfriend broke up with me and I was hurt and I didn't say anything to my dad or my brother, I just cried a lot and I guess they put two and two together and they were like bitching him out, and I am like "STOP!!!" Lol, seriously they are ridiculous, and I am trying to think of a way where they won't call him up and bitch him out, cause I don't want his repercussions. Thanks.
Author Ashley S Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 Nonsense! If you told your mom and dad to unfriend this guy because he makes you uncomfortable and you feel he's dangerous you'd better believe they would delete him. What is the point of keeping him on when you are trying to forget about him. You are more important to your parents than he is. I just worry about my dad's and my brothers reactions. They are ridiculous, they scared my last 2 boyfriends off. Cause my last boyfriend broke up with me and I was hurt and I didn't say anything to my dad or my brother, I just cried a lot and I guess they put two and two together and they were like bitching him out, and I am like "STOP!!!" Lol, seriously they are ridiculous, and I am trying to think of a way where they won't call him up and bitch him out, cause I don't want his repercussions. They could do that to my last 2 boyfriends cause they were passive, but I don't know, about my "friend" cause he's a little dangerous and I do know what he's capable of. Thanks.
stillafool Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 I just worry about my dad's and my brothers reactions. They are ridiculous, they scared my last 2 boyfriends off. Cause my last boyfriend broke up with me and I was hurt and I didn't say anything to my dad or my brother, I just cried a lot and I guess they put two and two together and they were like bitching him out, and I am like "STOP!!!" Lol, seriously they are ridiculous, and I am trying to think of a way where they won't call him up and bitch him out, cause I don't want his repercussions. They could do that to my last 2 boyfriends cause they were passive, but I don't know, about my "friend" cause he's a little dangerous and I do know what he's capable of. Thanks. Well if they scare this guy off it would be a good thing, right? You do want him to leave you alone, right? As far as his repercussions goes if he tries something he will have to deal with the fallout of your Dad and brother's repercussions. It wouldn't be good for this guy but would definitely get rid of him which is what you want, right?
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