loppydoppy Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 basically i want to get over how i acted in my past relationship at the end we had a bad fight and i used alot of mean names and called her them. i had alot of pent up frustration from her and she punched me in theface called me ugly and took personal shots at me and i lost it and caled her lots of names and ran her down through the dirt 2 months later i feel like crap calling her that how can i make up or forget about it
Tbisb74 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 You apologise to her the moment you get an apology from her for hitting you. Totally unacceptable. No matter what the provocation, there is absolutely no excuse whatsoever for taking it out on that person, physically. None. 1
Author loppydoppy Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 You apologise to her the moment you get an apology from her for hitting you. Totally unacceptable. No matter what the provocation, there is absolutely no excuse whatsoever for taking it out on that person, physically. None. true but i would like to be the bigger person and spologize
hoping2heal Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 basically i want to get over how i acted in my past relationship at the end we had a bad fight and i used alot of mean names and called her them. i had alot of pent up frustration from her and she punched me in theface called me ugly and took personal shots at me and i lost it and caled her lots of names and ran her down through the dirt 2 months later i feel like crap calling her that how can i make up or forget about it Could you clarify what you mean by ran her down through the dirt? As in you chased after her in the dirt or you ran until you knocked her over? What was the fight about when all of this happened? Had she ever used physical or verbal violence against you before? Had you against her prior to this?
newmoon Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 i think a letter might be good in this case. since there was name-calling and physical stuff this is the type of thing best sorted through no contact. write her a letter and either mail it or not, but get your thoughts and feelings and apologies down on paper. it would be a bad idea to contact the person directly, so write her a letter and decide to send it (or not)
Author loppydoppy Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 Could you clarify what you mean by ran her down through the dirt? As in you chased after her in the dirt or you ran until you knocked her over? What was the fight about when all of this happened? Had she ever used physical or verbal violence against you before? Had you against her prior to this? called her many names as through the dirty..no violence before
hoping2heal Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 called her many names as through the dirty..no violence before Okay, so prior to this fight you have never been aggressive with her, right? You still haven't said what the fight was about, or if she's treated you this way before. The less details we have, the less helpful we can be.
erklat Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 It will get better. Do not send the letter ! She will laugh at you with her friends at how weak you are. The issue is you still have her on the pedestal. Knock her down and you will see how, even though you were rude, she put you through a lot of pain at that moment. People do not lash out for fun. I am sorry I called my ex names. But even more I am sorry I sent the letter. That was fubar.
Author loppydoppy Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 Okay, so prior to this fight you have never been aggressive with her, right? You still haven't said what the fight was about, or if she's treated you this way before. The less details we have, the less helpful we can be. she duped me becuase she wanted to sleep around///she tried to get back with me and i said no and slept wth another girl...my ex found out and punched me
Simon Phoenix Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Um, you need to stay away from this woman. No apology, just turn the page. And no letter at all.
Tbisb74 Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Um, you need to stay away from this woman. No apology, just turn the page. And no letter at all. I second this. You may feel you committed a gross error, but in comparison to hers, really, you have nothing to apologise for. Her behaviour was despicable. If it makes you feel better, apologise to us. OK Apology accepted. Well done. Now, move on.
hoping2heal Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 she duped me becuase she wanted to sleep around///she tried to get back with me and i said no and slept wth another girl...my ex found out and punched me LOL:lmao: So, your ex lashed out like an out of control toddler throwing a fit in the store because she couldn't have her toy. Sorry, none of it is funny. I like your thoughts on being the bigger person, I just don't think the situation warrants it. If anyone should be giving the apology it should be her to you. Is this about an apology though, are you thinking you want to get back together with her?
erklat Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Is this about an apology though, are you thinking you want to get back together with her? Yeah, I wonder. Even if my ex came with the apology I'd say it is not necessary because I learnt to live with the status of dead relationship with her, be it platonic or romantic. I would never apologize myself ever again. Even if I lashed out.
samg313 Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Stand your ground, don't say sorry to the abusive lil B___!!!! People say sorry all the time for lashing out when in a rocky or dying relationship. Hell, I think I even have sent flowers or something to an undeserving POS. The only part that was really my fault was having that strong of emotions for the person in the first place. The other person feels like they won and they reap the rewards only to either laugh at you, feel that they earned a cookie or burn you again.
Author loppydoppy Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 LOL:lmao: So, your ex lashed out like an out of control toddler throwing a fit in the store because she couldn't have her toy. Sorry, none of it is funny. I like your thoughts on being the bigger person, I just don't think the situation warrants it. If anyone should be giving the apology it should be her to you. Is this about an apology though, are you thinking you want to get back together with her? no its not to get back wth her. im dating another girl im happy with its more of a closure thing...tell her im sorry for calling her names and wish her the best in the future
hoping2heal Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 no its not to get back wth her. im dating another girl im happy with its more of a closure thing...tell her im sorry for calling her names and wish her the best in the future Let it be You know what you did wrong and that's enough You're dating someone else, don't make your ex the focus of your attention. Plus, considering she punched you the last time you two made contact, how is she going to handle it when you don't want her back and have a new girlfriend to boot? You contacting her is probably going to lead to false hope for her and open up a new can of worms.
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