Gaslightfan59 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 So my girlfriend and I had been going out for four months and everything was great. We had our small arguments but we always got over them and forgave each other. We hadn't seen eachother for 3 weeks due to her family the last 3 weeks. I was always busy at work and she always had to take care of her sister's kids. We talked on the phone every night. We saw eachother a lot before those 3 weeks and were very physical and things weren't very stressful at all. 2 weeks ago we started to get stressed but we were still making it. This past Sunday we got into a large argument and then in the heat of the moment on monday night i broke up with her. We texted till 1:30 in the morning though talking about why we were so mad at eachother and still told eachother we loved and cared for eachother a lot and wanted things to still workout between us. Tuesday morning we talked about our problems some more and figured out what we needed to work on. She agreed she understood what happened cause sometimes she lets her anger get in the way too and clouds up her judgement. Everything seemed fine and we continued to talk for hours and then she just quit texting me. That was Tuesday night. I didn't think I would ever heard back from her but today at midnight she called me exactly then and told me happy birthday very cheerfully and said she wanted to be the very first person to tell it to me. I asked if she wanted to talk and she said yeah and we talked for an hour. Is there still hope? We were eachother's firsts. We never felt the love we had for one another with anyone else. We truly care about eachother. We were both very comfortable with one another. We were even talking in about moving in together cause we just knew we were perfect for eachother. Now I feel like there is no way back but on the otherhand I feel like everything will work out since she is still communicating with me and made sure that she called me exactly at midnight to say happy birthday and talk to me for an hour. We laughed, and it felt like we were fine. I dunno what to do anymore...I want her back so bad. I know I just need to give her time and space though. Cause she said she would call me again and we would talk again soon.
Author Gaslightfan59 Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 So what is your question? If it sounds like things might work out in the future for us?
Gaeta Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 You sound very young to believe you are meant to be together after only 4 months dating. At 4 months you should not argue about anything and sounds like you do a lot of that. What do you argue about?
smackie9 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 If it sounds like things might work out in the future for us? You should never put so much emphasis on "it's out first ever". That is no reason hang onto a hopeless situation. Hopeless meaning, since you are only 4 months in and have such issues already, it's not right or healthy. You don't have the experience to know when to call it quits. Speaking from experience, a relationship cannot survive on love alone. Honeymoon stage: the beginning stage of a relationship where you are obsesses with each other, over look the red flags and flaws. There is always talk of marriage and together foreverness, but in reality that is all it is TALK and should never be taken as a promise that it is for sure. It's the chemical release "dopamine" or known as the love chemical is why this happens. It lasts from anywhere from a few months to about a year. You are now at a point where the cloud of lust is starting to dissipate, and the fighting starts, the flaws come to the surface, and the bliss is crumbling away. You need to put the emotions aside, and reassess. If it's not working, don't force it to work. Move on. 1
Assasda Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 I think youre leaving out very critical information. Like what you said to her. Why you broke it off with her. What you texted, so she didnt text back. - If you too actually didnt break up. I dont know what is your motive for leaving all that information out. So we cant just guess if youre going to "Make it" or not
d0nnivain Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 If the relationship has a chance you need to work through your issues through something other than texts To say you were each other's firsts: that you have been together for 4 months but haven't seen each other for 3 weeks which is about 20% of the time you have been together: that everything was "great" despite an on-going series of little arguments doesn't make sense. There's too much drama for too short of a time. If this is going to survive long term you both need to learn effective communication.
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