Catnipper Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 ok so i was seeing someone last year and i really liked them. He ended things with me and i got really hurt. I have spent the last 6 months trying to get over him and it has been really hard as i am so heartbroken. I had started getting better and even felt more confident and have started to like myself ( i have always had issues with this and have been having help with building my self esteem etc). I have to work with this person which is very difficult. When i came into work on Monday i actually felt really good and seeing him about didn't affect me so bad. I had started to realise it was his loss and i deserved better. Usually seeing him about work is difficult for me. Well all of a sudden he started sniffing around me , i tried to stay strong so much and keep away however yesterday i ended up caving in and saw him and well one thing led to another and you can guess what happened!! Now i know it takes two & i am responsible for my own actions but i am so dissapointed in myself. I felt like i had started getting my power back & just gave it away again. I worked so hard to feel better & now any small amount of self esteem has gone again. Its almost like he knew - like he could tell i was feeling good & just swooped back in. I am now seeing this guy is a jerk and i don't want this but my heart is still involved in the emotions and it hurts. I wanna get over him as he hurt me so much. can I get back to the place i was when i started to feel better - it took so long. How do i get my power back
OwMyEyeball Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 You certainly can get back to where you were and may very well find that it takes much less time. I would encourage you to continue pursuing the activities and engagements which have been helping you regain your sense of self. Understand that who you are is not something that ever goes away. Your soul does not die. It seems that way in our darkest hours - that our self is no longer there. But it is ever present. It's our minds that mask it and it can take much time to uncover that person. To free ourselves. The quickest way to regain your power is to accept what happened with no reservation or judgement. Seek now only to carry forward in the good work you've been doing for yourself and to consider this latest lapse as only that. A small error, but also a valuable lesson. Best wishes 1
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