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I've been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now, but I don't feel the excitement I had with other girls in the past. This new girl is great and all, but I feel jaded in a way. I want to be able to have that spark, but something is holding me back. My last girlfriend & I fell in love quickly, honeymoon phase was in full swing about the same timeframe that I'm with in this new relationship.

 

It's like I'm unable to fall in love. By the way, me and this new girl haven't had sex yet. Me & my ex we're very sexual, It was mostly physical than emotional.

My new girlfriend and I are emotionally connected. We have deep talks & have a lot of fun, but still feel something is missing.

 

Is sex the answer?

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You are dating the wrong girl simple as that. Just because you get along with someone, and have great talks doesn't mean it has to turn romantic. there's no chemistry obviously so stop trying to force something to happen. Keep looking.

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You are dating the wrong girl simple as that. Just because you get along with someone, and have great talks doesn't mean it has to turn romantic. there's no chemistry obviously so stop trying to force something to happen. Keep looking.

 

She's into me 100%, I'd like to make this work... But I guess I'm not over my ex, even though I know she's never coming back.

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Jordvn,

I gotta agree with the above. You're dating the wrong chick. That's it.

 

Beachead

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But I guess I'm not over my ex, even though I know she's never coming back.

 

No sex doesn't have to be the answer. This is already what is wrong with having multiple sex partners. You now will have the constant longing for the physical connection you've had with your ex with every partner you have later on. It no longer becomes special having sex with every partner without commitment. There are studies on this as well. Not just pulling it from the air. :)

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She's into me 100%, I'd like to make this work... But I guess I'm not over my ex, even though I know she's never coming back.

 

Then it's not 100% fair for you to be dating her because you are emotionally unavailable. IMO you are being selfish, in reality you are using her to forget your ex. It would really suck for her if she's already fallen for you.

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I also have a problem with being shallow. My ex was a dime, she was in music videos and all that, but was a bitch. She didn't always treat me the right way, but satisfied my needs with sex. After we broke up we were still having sex.

 

This new girl is okay looking. She treats me good, and is always there for me. She's great company and there is never a dull moment unlike my ex. There are times where I'm in the mood to have sex, but I don't want to force it with her. I'm taking it slow...

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I also have a problem with being shallow. My ex was a dime, she was in music videos and all that, but was a bitch. She didn't always treat me the right way, but satisfied my needs with sex. After we broke up we were still having sex.

 

This new girl is okay looking. She treats me good, and is always there for me. She's great company and there is never a dull moment unlike my ex. There are times where I'm in the mood to have sex, but I don't want to force it with her. I'm taking it slow...

 

She sounds like a great girl but doesn't sound like the right one for you. Don't force what you don't feel because it doesn't help you and it's not fair to her.

 

Beachead

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It's probably going to end up being quite vanilla......good luck with that a few months from now when you are still feeling unfulfilled.

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It's probably going to end up being quite vanilla......good luck with that a few months from now when you are still feeling unfulfilled.

 

I don't understand what that means, are you trying to diss me?

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