joystickd Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 One of my biggest problems is sharing myself emotionally. I can't do it unless I have sex first. It's like when I realize I have to wait I kind of shut down. Then the other thing is when I really like someone and really attracted to them I just have erections all the time when I'm with them even during non sexual moments. It's ends up being this thing to where when I'm told to wait it becomes a preoccupation with sex. The erections though are a unconscious thing. I'm having a conversation about work for example with a woman and BAM! I don't even have thoughts about sex at the time. Then eventually I just get frustrated. How do I handle that?
Tbisb74 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 If such things seem problematic to you, I think, in all seriousness, you would benefit from trying to see a psychosexual counsellor. These people are specifically educated to be able to support those who approach them for insight into such matters. Seriously, I think this may be a hurdle best tackled by someone who can practically help. You deserve it.
Author joystickd Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 If such things seem problematic to you, I think, in all seriousness, you would benefit from trying to see a psychosexual counsellor. These people are specifically educated to be able to support those who approach them for insight into such matters. Seriously, I think this may be a hurdle best tackled by someone who can practically help. You deserve it. I have a very low opinion of counselors but possibly willing to try
Tbisb74 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 I can fully appreciate why; finding a good one, one you 'connect' with, is like finding a needle in a haystack. But the needle is there. And hard as it may be to believe, some of them know what they're doing; they DO exist. Tell them you're prepared to give them 2 sessions. If after that, you don't feel as if you've hit the same page, you will take your business elsewhere. Just a response to that, may sort the wheat from the...hay.
Author joystickd Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 I can fully appreciate why; finding a good one, one you 'connect' with, is like finding a needle in a haystack. But the needle is there. And hard as it may be to believe, some of them know what they're doing; they DO exist. Tell them you're prepared to give them 2 sessions. If after that, you don't feel as if you've hit the same page, you will take your business elsewhere. Just a response to that, may sort the wheat from the...hay. Hay lol. I had to laugh because I talk about needing hay at work I tend to attract women there especially since there is a rumor that I'm hung like a horse
d0nnivain Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 Many men need sex to feel loved. Women on the other hand need love to have sex. Try sharing little things about yourself. Nothing super intimate but stuff that not everyone knows. Talk more and that should help you with the emotional side of things. 1
Author joystickd Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 Many men need sex to feel loved. Women on the other hand need love to have sex. Try sharing little things about yourself. Nothing super intimate but stuff that not everyone knows. Talk more and that should help you with the emotional side of things. I do but I'm just too preoccupied with sex for some reason.
Keenly Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 The erections are not that big of a deal. It happens. Especially with the rush of some one new. I get a lot of emotional satisfaction from cuddling. Does that work for you?
rewl Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 Hay lol. I had to laugh because I talk about needing hay at work I tend to attract women there espec since there is a rumor that I'm hung like a horse Everytime I come on this site I see a thread or a post talking about trying to date (bang) a chick or a guy at work. Can opposite genders even work together without being distracted? I'm actually being serious. I had experiences like this myself, not just at work but at school. "Bitch gtfo I'm trying to focus" comes to mind.
Author joystickd Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 The erections are not that big of a deal. It happens. Especially with the rush of some one new. I get a lot of emotional satisfaction from cuddling. Does that work for you? Not really makes it worse.
Tbisb74 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 Hay lol. I had to laugh because I talk about needing hay at work I tend to attract women there especially since there is a rumor that I'm hung like a horse Thing about rumours is the more they're spread, the thinner they get. Eventually, people will forget the original information, and the rumour will have shrunk beyond recognition.
Author joystickd Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 Thing about rumours is the more they're spread, the thinner they get. Eventually, people will forget the original information, and the rumour will have shrunk beyond recognition. Small facility so it don't have a chance to do that. I'm know as a slut there. Some truth to that.
Author joystickd Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 Anyway I'm just so horny. I think that is my biggest thing. I realize once I have to wait like I said I shut down. It's like I just run out of things to talk about. I kind of lose the motivation to really pursue things. I've realized it one of my biggest problems in dealing with single women. I kind of go from being a guy that will want them to basically setting myself up to be the platonic friend by just approaching the interactions in a super friendly way not really showing any attraction.
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